Hi, My name is Darlene. My husband and I are trying to help out with this Dead Beat Dad problem. Seeing this is a political year, we feel it is a good time to bring this to light with our Governor and those in the political arena. Can I use this sight to tell the moms about it. You can check it out on , www.deadbeatdadsofnj.org. It is not finished yet but it is a start. Thank you,

DARLENE - posted on 02/01/2013 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hi, My name is Darlene. My husband and I are trying to help with this Dead Beat Dad problem here in N.J. Seeing this is a political year, we hope those like our Governor and any one in the political arena, will bring this problem to light. Can I use this sight to tell the moms about it? Just trying to let them see that there are those who are trying to help them. Please check out, www.deadbeatdadsofnj.org.
We are not done with the sight yet but it is a start. Thank you, Darlene

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DARLENE - posted on 02/03/2013

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Hi Shawnn, I know you believe in what you just said because you are obviously a man of integrity so I bow to your wisdom. I also agree with everything you said as I did with Holly, but my husband and I have never gone after just the men. After all we have 5 sons and they sound so much like you. I wish the system was fare for men who do not want childner that were made out of mistakes from their youth but that can also be adressed with what we are trying to put out there in this election year. If 23 million is owed to the state of N.J. and 53 billion owed in all the states, who do you think is picking up the cost. We are. That is you, me, and every person out there that has your type of integrity. SOOOO If these existing children grow up knowing their parents can beat the mandates of the courts, then they will break the law also. They are not being tought integrity. It is a round wheel Shawnn so we have to start some were.
We did make a few changes to our www.deadbeatdadsofnj.org thaks to you a Holly. If you want things to change then you have to stand up and I can see that you do. Thank you, Darlene

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/01/2013

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I'm sorry, but I cannot support something that lays the entire blame on the male of the species, when it takes two to procreate, and in a lot of these cases, the males weren't given a choice to have a say in whether the baby was kept, or adopted, or aborted.

Start something that preaches responsible behaviour and abstinence instead. I'd be more than willing to support that.

DARLENE - posted on 02/01/2013

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Holly, Please read the last few lines that my husband and I wrote on the www.deadbeatdadsofnj.org. It is adressed to Moms, Dads, and Parents. No one is been singled out. The title, Dead Beat Dads is nationally known as a tital beacuse over 80% are men. We have letters fron the Governer and a Judge and this is how this problem is referred to when they write to us. We have a class of single mothers in N.J. that work long hours to provide for their children's well being. They do not have the time to seek help from ''the system'' and if by some good fortune they do find the time to speak out after working, cooking, homework and God knows what else, our moms would be forced to put additional moneys into a legal system that has failed them. WE are trying to get those who can hear us to help establishe a program of ''child support'' to insure that our children will be properly taken care of.Believe me Holly, we have done the research.
You are right again on one thing, there are woman out there who claim they have dead beat fathers and that is a shame also.
Thanks again for reading this and good luck with all that you are trying to do to make this world a better place. Darlene

Holly - posted on 02/01/2013

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then perhaps instead of calling it the "dead beat dad problem" call it something else, you may get more support if you do. I am not a dad, and my kids do have an absentee father, but it still offends me. as many of these women claim to have dead beat fathers, when it just isn't the case.

DARLENE - posted on 02/01/2013

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Hi Holly, I do agree with all that you said and I am not trying to blame the guys. I am saying we all need to help on all issues that will make our children feel safe and take responsibility for what comes at them in life. I am big on education because it will help them grow into themselves and make great parents, lawyers, doctors or anything else that they want to do. Then they will not depend on a system that many times lets them down. You and I are on the same side. Believe me Holly because that is so true.
Darlene

Holly - posted on 02/01/2013

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this is what i am saying... all teens need to keep thier pants on, not just the girls, the guys too. If they were taught the way kids were taught back then, that their virginity was WORTH something, then things like this wouldn't happen... you make it out like it's just the guys who are the bad guys. the guys who bail on their kids are no different then the MANY mom's who have abortion. these "dads" would have prefered the girl have an abortion, but the girls don't... and then they cry about the dad's being deadbeats.... well the guys didn't have an option when it came to terminating the pregnancies. teach them to keep their pants on fight to get the trash off TV that glorifies teen pregnancies and teen slutty behavior. and you might see a difference.

DARLENE - posted on 02/01/2013

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Hi Holly, I wish that was the case also but many of these girls grow up with out a dad and I feel they want to get the approval of a man in their life so they trust and get into trouble. We can teach them and love them but with over 22 million owed to the state of N.J. for child support from Dead Beat Dads we can use this money to keep them in school and on to collage. If we don't educate them the circle of this kind of problem will just keep getting bigger.

Holly - posted on 02/01/2013

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instead of this, why dont you start a somethging about teens keeping their pants on movement?

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