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Jmmeyer3rd - posted on 11/12/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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MY 6 years old son got suspended from school what should I do? This was due to his behavior; he wanted to go home and had a tantrum. He started to throw toys and anything else he could get his hands on. It took three teachers to get him to the office.

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Penny - posted on 11/13/2013

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The truth about the school system and boys is that it is really broken. School is set up for girls - girls are more likely to be able and willing to sit quietly, they are more likely to want positive attention from teachers and they know how to act accordingly to get it. I have a very active son. A doctor tried to label him as ADHD when he was 18 months and I took him in because he had a cold. I told the doctor that at that age 90% of boys fall into the "ADHD" criteria and if he is still like this at 8 maybe we can continue this discussion. Until then I will just get him a bike lol. Your son sounds smart and bored. He knows what to do and say to get out of there,, but the school should be asking itself why he wanted to leave so badly in the first place...there could be a few reasons, he could be being bullied, he might have some social anxiety, or (and this is my bet) he is bored.Before your son gets labelled and you are told to put him on meds you might want to preemptively get a (good) counsellor who isnt meds driven to have a few sessions with him. It is amazing what kids will tell a nice stranger that they wont tell their own parents or teachers. Your son isnt a bad kid but right now he is in a bad situation and it sounds like it is about to get alot worse for both of you. Schools these days dont play around. Things my son and daughter do at home as play, like pretending to shoot each other with their toy drills , could get them expelled in a few years....

Instead of getting mad or blaming yourself, I would try to find out why your son doesnt want to go to school. And I would get in front of this because you dont want to be swept up in some sort of tidal wave and end up doing things as a parent that you dont believe in for your family, like medication. Not knocking meds but that should be a parents choice not a principals or teachers.Good Luck.

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Jmmeyer3rd - posted on 11/13/2013

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What was told happened:
m the description of the principle children were taken out of the room and walked around the building while the vice principle and 2 other teachers tried to get my son to the office. My son got out of the pod and into the hallways. The staff was able to get him from there to a conference room in the office. They had to take all the items within reach because he was trying to throw them. When we go there he was without shoes or socks lying under the table. He did not seem physically hurt just wanted to go home.
What happened when we were there:
The principle sat us down and told us the above, then told us that he is very smart. He wanted to go home and that he knew if he did this he would be sent home. They said that the child study team would have to do an evaluation before he could return and due to the state laws he would have to be suspended until this could be done. We then went to the conference room and talked to Christian. The principle and others got his book bag and jacket. A letter was sent home stating that he was expelled from school until further notice pending an evaluation of the child study team.

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