Hi my name is maria i just got separated from my husband and we have a 3 yr old daughter.Should i let him see my daughter and his giving child support.We have problems already the same time his talking n txting to someone and found its a SHE.And went online to check phonebill.And found his talking n txting to her more than me.When i ask him he always gets aggitated and mad.Because he said he has nobody to talk to.I mean im here why cant he talk to me.And the worst part is i went to the apartment and the girl was there.....

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/15/2011

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If you are seperated and getting a divorce, it really is none of your business who he is seeing. UNLESS your child is going over there and being with the women, then I personally feel you have the right to meet her and make sure she is a good influence. But please, don't let your personal hurt feelings interfere with your child seeing a father that WANTS to be involved.

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You have no right to be upset at him talking/texting/screwing other women if you are not together. It's NOT your business. It's also NOT his business if you're talking/texting/screwing another man and I'm sure you'd take umbrage at him interfering in your life on that level.

Try to be civil and deal with the fact. Grow up, stop obsessing about women in his life and raise your child. Make sure you have an attorney for your divorce and for all that's holy, if you and he get together for anight - do what you can to not get pregnant.

I know it's very practical, cold advice but it will serve you extremely well.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/20/2011

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I agree with the other ladies! And, speaking as a child of divorce myself, it is NOT right to keep your daughter away from a father that wants to be involved. To do so will only create a rift as she gets older, and realizes how much time you've stolen from her and her father.

I know you're pissed, no one likes to be pushed aside for another relationship, but, as everyone else has stated, that still doesn't give you the right to withhold visitation from a father that wants to remain involved.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/20/2011

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I'm speaking from my husband's experiance during his parents' divorce. His mom pulled a lot of crap and kept him and his brothers from their dad a lot. Now my husband is the only one who has a relationship with his dad and he just tolerates his mom. He resents them both though for playing mind games on him and his brothers during their divorce. So be careful about how you're handling your half of the separation and divorce or it could come back to bite you.

Holly - posted on 12/20/2011

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I read the posts and have to agree ~ no matter what is going on between you and your husband or ex-husband you need to try not to involve your children in that mix. Don't speak badly about Dad or whom ever he is with. The kids don't need that kind of pressure from either of you. I noticed that you put My Daughter, she is not only your daughter but his as well. Their relationship will and should be separate from you. Just like your child will have many relationships with other people friend relatives etc. that won't include you. Yes as a parent of a small child you want and should protect them and guide them but do be careful of how you color her opinion of her father. If bad mouth him or speak badly of him eventually that will back fire.

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Patricia - posted on 12/19/2011

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I understand your feelings, specially if you still love him; however, your child is a separate identity and has nothing to do with your problems between you and the father. It will be hard but if you were on your husbands shoes, would you like it if he decided not to let you see your baby because you were having problems. I think not. A child having a healthy relationship with both parents no matter what is best for the child. Think about the baby and not you when it comes to making decisions that involves your childs well being and future.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/16/2011

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Yeah I forgot about that part. It hurts you in court if you've been refusing him visitation. Leave the child out of your issues with your husband because it's not her fault

Sherri - posted on 12/16/2011

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Of course you have to let him see her. He is still her dad even if the two of you are having issues.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/16/2011

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You're going to need to learn to deal with it. But if/when you do get divorced you can include the bill for the mobile in the divorce decree.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/15/2011

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It is funny Teresa, cause every time someone says my name in a post, I am like "who the hell is Harbor anyway??" LOL.



*Edited to add* takes me a second to realize..."hey thats me!"

Nikki - posted on 12/15/2011

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As long as he is not a danger to your child he has every right to see her. Think of it this way, if you keep her from him she may end up resenting you when she gets older. I could imagine you are hurt but your daughter shouldn't have to suffer because you are angry at him.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/15/2011

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Hi Maria, if you are new to the community welcome...but not sure if there are read flags up on this post because you say your name is Maria, but have Patricia Stafford as your name also. Just wanted to point that out cause it is a little fishy.

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He is a parent too and he has just as much right to that child as you do. You can't keep his kid away from him because you have a problem with him.

Medic - posted on 12/15/2011

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Just because he does not want to be with you does not mean that you can keep his child away. You should not push your feelings onto your child and you should not speak bad about her dad around her. He is still her father.

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If he's not doing drugs around the child or abusing the child... it's his right to see her and her right to see him... regardless of any personal or financial issues between the two of you.

September - posted on 12/15/2011

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I don't think that your ex talking to another woman is a legit reason to keep his child from him, so yes you should definitely let him see her.

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