Hi my name is Marie and I'm the grand Mother of a five year old girl and four year old boy, during the day, they are the most awesome kids there is but when bed time comes around it's a totally different story. We ( her parents and both grand mothers ) have tried absolutely every thing you can think of and nothing works. they do NOT take naps, or have a tv in their rooms. We tried separating them and putting them in the same room, We tried the reward system as well as the consequence system and it doesn't work. We put them to bed at 8:00 every night and they never get to sleep before 10:30 - 11;00 PM. It doesn't matter if my grand daughter has school or not or if they spend the whole day playing outside or not, nothing seems to work. . .any suggestions ?

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Jaime - posted on 07/22/2012

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My suggestion is to stop putting them to bed at 8pm and battling with them for 2 hours to go to sleep. My son is exactly the same and he's 3.5. He doesn't nap at all, he's up early in the morning (usually around 7am) and for the life of me I can't get him to go to sleep any earlier than 9:30pm and usually later. Something I've started doing is getting him ready for bed (teeth brushed, jammies on) and sitting down to read some books. At 9pm I take him up to bed and tuck him in, and tell him that it's okay if he reads some books in his bed or plays quietly but he has to stay in his bed. It's a work in progress and he still gets out of bed and comes downstairs a few times, but eventually he settles down. Not every kid is going to respond to OUR schedule. Typically speaking, kids this age should be in bed around 8pm, but it doesn't seem to be working, so why fight it? I am a single mom, so some nights are frustrating especially when I'm exhausted from a long, busy day...but I can't force my son to sleep when he's not ready. Another thing a friend recommended was lying down with him, cuddling with him until he falls asleep. My brother was what my mom likes to call a 'night owl' and he's still that way at 29 years old. I don't know if there's much you can do to shift their sleep patterns to a more 'normal' hour, but for now it's really not worth the stress.

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