Natalie - posted on 12/16/2015 ( 24 moms have responded )
Need help.. Guidance anything.. I left my husband when my baby was 2 months do to drug and alcohol, and was verbally and emotionally abusive. He doesnt want the baby, he is just using the baby for revenge. He is very angry I left, because he doesnt have control of me anymore. He has assaulted me and was charged with 3 counts. He has neglected our child, my baby has come home with bruises and bumps at 3 months old, scratches and sores on ankles, diaper rash, contact dermatitis( was put on steroids at 3months, LSW also got involved) he has been left unattended in a car in hot weather, his dad doesn't give him any of his medications that the doctor recommended and I have asked him to give our child. My baby comes home and needs ALL my attention, he constantly hugs and kisses me, he continually says mama, he doesn't want me out of site. He doesn't get the love and affection at his fathers, and it is killing me and it is also hurting my child. My baby knows what love and security is and he know that I give that to him all the time. He fears going with his dad for visitation, he shakes his head NO, clenches my shirt and starts crying every time. His father doesnt care. My son, had his 18month shots the other day and his father was there he had visitation from Monday afternoon to Tuesday Afternoon (25 hours) my child upon seeing me at the doctors office jumped out of his fathers arms and into mine and started hugging me and saying mama, mama, mama. He did not want anything to do with his dad. The entire MD visit he didnt leave me,especially after he got his shots because he knows I take care of him when he is in pain. My son had a severe case of hand foot mouth and his daddy did not give him ANY Advil or Claritin for 25 hours (for 25 hours my child suffered) when my son got into the car that day he was scratching and giving a sad, painful face ;-( (that killed me inside to know that his father didn't give him anything and the father parents were there too. Back to the MD visit- I attempted to put my child in his fathers car-into the carseat, my son, screamed bloody murder he stopped when I took him out but when his father yanked him out of my arms he continued to scream bloody murder, I suggested to my ex, let me drive him to your house so he can calm down ( only 5 min away from his place) he said NO (here I am trying to co-parent). My baby continues to cry and is reaching his arms out for me, kicking and screaming when is father is holding him, he goes to the opposite of his truck (drives side) turns to me with our child in his fathers arm, screaming for his mommy (My ex says to our child-"oh look at your mommy- isn't your mommy so great, look at your mommy she's a really good mommy as my child is reaching for me-he is torturing our son- and i believe that is Parental Alienation - please correct me if Im wrong) My son was crying so hard he thought up and I told my ex that earlier but he didn't believe me, when our son threw up my ex turned the other way so i would see it (too late). My baby continued to cry for me, but my hands were tied. His father wasn't co parenting and allowing our child to suffer. So with all the crying, getting shots, not being with his mommy, his father not giving him his medications ( so with all of this he is very congested and not feeling well)his father takes him home and drops him off with a babysitter and is out for several hours, he arrives home 10min before I need to pick him up. I could have taken our son from his father at the MD visit, and cared for him but his father is using our child as a pawn and it is not fair to this 19month old.
Suggestions?? thoughts??? I need some help. He is also an alcoholic the judge told him that he needs to stop, well he hasn't all screens are coming back positive for ALCOHOL in his system. He is not suppose to have an ETOH in his system while he has visitation.
He also lies on what he does for our son- he is putting our sons life in danger. He allows him to cry at night until he vomits, my son comes home with broken blood vessels, exhausted, and starving. This is every week.
He lied under oath and wanted me to go to jail for 3 days. I was found in contempt and it was bc of him lying- i didn't go to jail. He ran fro a court ordered breathalyzer and he wasn't found in contempt. No matter what he always blames everything on me, he see himself superior better then everybody and his family acts the same.His sister is going through a divorce and she had her lawyer write on a letter to my ex brother in laws lawyer that I had abandoned my family and I am in contempt 4 times (THIS IS ALL A LIE) This is slander. Is there anything I can do?
He told the court he can take care of the baby sun-mon ( every Monday he has a babysitter for him- when I have told him I can watch our child- he won't tell me who the babysitter is and the Parenting coordinator doesn't do anything about it (thats a different story in itself)
this is just some of the stuff that has happened over the past year ;'''(
We are still waiting for our final custody hearing.