Breia - posted on 04/19/2016 ( 21 moms have responded )
I run an in home daycare and I have been working in the childcare industry for well over a decade, so to say the least I have been exposed to all sorts of temperaments, personality styles, and challenges in childcare. However, I have recently taken a two month old baby into care and he is absolutely adorable but he will not stop crying EVER unless he is being held. I have tried all of my techniques from the basics and above such as making sure he has been changed, fed, loved and cuddled, played with, stimulated, avoided over stimulation, tried bouncy chairs, swings, vibrating chairs, his own car seat, swaddling, walks in the stroller etc. I have also talked to the parents about how they handle him at home to see 1) if they had any tried and true techniques for him and 2) to see if they were always holding him whenever he was awake because it was making his transition into care harder for him, the other kids in care, and myself.
I obviously cannot hold him all day as I have six other kids in care who also need attention, to be held on occasion, changed, potty trained, fed, etc. and I have already had other parents who drop off and pick up while he is here that have started asking questions such as "So, because of this baby is my child going to be largely ignored?". I also run a preschool program so I have things that parents absolutely expect to be done on a daily basis. Also, they are paying me to give part of my attention and love to their children as well. I have tried the cry it out method, not because I want to let him cry, but because I have to set him down to do other things with the other kids and he will not fall asleep even after hours of crying (of course I am repeatedly checking on him and meeting his basic needs and trying to re-soothe him during this time). Basically if he is awake for 8 out of the 11 hours that he is here, he is crying for 8 hours. He is not in pain as the parents have brought him to the doctor for full check ups AND the second he is picked up he stops crying...if he was in true pain simply picking him up would not stop the crying. The parents seem to have very little reaction to this other than "He's a baby, what do you expect?" But see, I know its a common misconception that children scream from infancy until three years old and then they stop...but thats not true obviously. They cry when there is a true need or something wrong. They do not just scream for hours on end for no reason. This is stressing me, him, the other parents, and the other kids out horribly. Please advise! Has anyone dealt with something like this before?!