Highly Sensitive Child - Frustrated Mom

Michel - posted on 10/19/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi there - I have a 15 month old who is highly sensitive (I think).Since birth she was very colicky - always up every 2 hours and just never really happy or calm. Now that she is older (15 mos) she sleeps through the night now, but if we go some place with her she is bound to have a meltdown. For example - we took her to a wedding reception. She was ok for a while but when she gets any where near to being tired, she will be so loud, having mini meltdowns, biting, hiting, just all around naughty and she takes all my energy to watch after her. She won't go to others - well she will for a bit, but then she always wants me back - and she will cry if others try to take her and hold her. These are family members - they don't see her all the time, but still. She isn't the type of kid that will just sit and play - she always needs me. I mean more than my 14 year old did at that age. I know she doesn't have any siblings (little) to play with but she does go to daycare and plays with cousins, etc . She is just high maintenance and too much noise will set her off and she will have a meltdown and she won't stop. I am tired of people telling me she is spoiled, or I hold her too much. I don't know what else to do w/her to get her to stop. I have dealt with "bratty" kids before trying to get their "way" but this is different. This is exhausting. I feel like I am all alone and noone gets it. :(

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Michel - posted on 10/19/2015

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Thank you so much - I will check out a book or DVD. It just feels good for someone to talk to me about this instead of judge and just say she is held too much or "Their child would never act like that" blah, blah, blah. Thank you so much!!

Sarah - posted on 10/19/2015

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You are doing the right thing. Try to head off the meltdowns when you can, but sometimes there are going to be times you can't. That is ok too. It will get better as she gets older, but there will always be situations that come up. Sometimes a meltdown is not all bad. It is exhausting, but it can build resistance. It sounds like she has some sensory issues (probably also was the reason for the colic as a baby too). She just could not voice them as well. Sensory is a very common thing and can show in different ways. A good resource to look at is a gal named Karyn Purvis. She has written a few books, but also has some Dvd's out too. I would suggest getting the one on sensory. She works a lot with kids from tough places....many adopted, BUT her information and knowledge is good for any parent. I am not adopted but have sensory issues (loud noise is one). I also see some in my daughter....biological.

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