Holiday/vacation without children

Heidi - posted on 02/02/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )




What are peoples views on having holidays for a weekend/week or more without your children. Whether its to rekindle your relationship or to have some girly fun?


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Om - posted on 10/07/2013




Gosh. I'd really love to take a childless vacation. However, my husband and I literally have no family that would be willing to take two young children for an extended length of time(less than 1 and a three year old). I feel envious and resentment towards families that have that option to get rid of their children for a week or a weekend. I would love to be able to do it, but it's just not an option for us. I can barely get my family to watch our kids for a few hours let alone a whole weekend. My question is what do couples like us do who have no family to watch our kids?

Kimberly - posted on 02/08/2010




I think that is the key to healthy relationships. You definitely need time away from the children for whatever reason. Sometimes we give too much in one area and neglect the areas of our lives. Definitely need balance.

Amy - posted on 02/05/2010




I think it's just fine. We got weekend's with out our son a few times already. My parents love to have him, and they understand the important of us having a little time to ourselves.

Trish - posted on 02/05/2010




I wonder if the divorce rate would decrease if couples made it a point to occasionally spend a few days as adults, to remember why they chose each other to spend their lives with in the first place. Happy parents who still enjoy each other's company have to be a good thing for the kids, right? The trick is not to wait until you and your spouse are mad at each other to take a trip for some alone time. Our second daughter was conceived on one of our "couple vacations." :-)

Patricia - posted on 02/02/2010




I think it is importaint for the relationship with my husband to get away from the children and usually it is only a weekend. It gives us time to catch up with each other and to relax and perhaps talk about things that need to be sorted. Grandparents hardly ever turn down the opportunity to have the children or we work around their dates.

Debbie - posted on 02/02/2010




My first thought was 'can I come too?'. I used to go skiing in Lake Tahoe with a bunch or girlfriends (strictly NO husbands or children) for 10 days every year, my husband would take time off work and look after the kids (with help from my MIL - I'd come home to an amazingly clean house as she would spring clean while I wasn't there. It was great!). Then he would have a holiday on his own doing bushcraft/canoeing type stuff. It did us both good to get out of the 'I solely exist as a parent' mindset and discover that our brains hadn't turned to mush completely.

So, where shall we all go then ladies??? ;-)

Gwen - posted on 02/02/2010




As a single mom, I'd LOVE the opportunity to take a childless vacation! It is perfectly fine to take a few days "off".

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Nothing wrong with that at all!
I'm still nursing my son and plan to let him self wean. I love breastfeeding and I'm in no hurray to have my son wean but when he does, I know that my husband and I will eventually take a little trip...just the two of us. It'll be nice for Grandma too because I know that she dreams of the days when my son is old enough/weaned so that she can have him spend the night or the weekend or longer. My so is crazy about his Grandma too so I know we'll all have a good time:)

Laquita - posted on 02/02/2010




who says that just because we have kids our life has to stop. the kids are a big part of our lives, but we can't forget to have a life of our own sometimes. there's nothing wrong with wanting girl time and couple time. if you don't you'll be miserable and grumpy wishing you had some sort of life outside of home. its good to get out and be free as long as your kids are somewhere safe and comfortable take some time for you. alot of moms forget to do that sometimes and get so wrapped up and forget about themselves. when you feel good inside you give off good energy vs being upset cause you never do anything and feel trapped. we moms need that time. do your thang girl.

~Jennifer - posted on 02/02/2010



369 first thought when I saw the title of the thread was , " Yes, please."

If you have someone you're comfortable leaving your children with for a weekend or a week - go for it.
Everyone needs a little 'time off'.

Abbie - posted on 02/02/2010




I think its perfectly fine & very good for parents relationships and mental health. I personally think parents that never want to be away from their kids are a bit off. I love my son to death, I would walk the earth for him for anything, but I even enjoy time away from him. Plus its needed for the relationship. Its finding a healthy balance with kids and adult time.

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