Maria - posted on 04/30/2016 ( 1 mom has responded )
I am 57 year old mom of two grown children - 25 and 22 and have been bi curious for many years but due to my professional career I have never acted on anything or pursued it. I have been married to the same man for 28 years, however, we have mostly been just room mates for the past 17 years. He is a fair provider, does not drink, run around, smoke, gamble, and is home every night but definitely NOT an alpha male. Tells me that he does not know what women want in the bedroom, nor is he concerned to find out. In the bedroom (there are absolutely no other places he would even consider having "relations" as he puts it. He takes no more than 7 - 9 minutes from beginning to end....his idea of 4play is 1 minute to get it in, 1 to get it off, 1 to get it out, 1 to roll over and go to sleep. He says that if that feels good like to him, it should feel good to me. He has called me names in the past, when I tried to make things interesting in the bedroom. He is extremely straight, only acceptable "position" is ... Missionary. There never has been any intimacy, no holding hands, very little physical contact and i am thinking that I got pregnant twice, when the sperm walked across the bed - when we slept together. I often wonder if he just doesn't care or if this is how all men are. I feel very cheated out of feeling so much, closed myself down emotionally, and basically wonder if I could ever feel anything for anyone again. I think women at least know how each other feels - psychologically and emotionally, and are at least a lot more caring. It would be nice to talk to other moms who have the same situations and curiosities and how they deal with it.