Louise - posted on 06/05/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
So, I am due to give birth within the next few weeks. Here is an idea of the circumstances.
I also have a one yr old by my ex-partner of 3 yrs (baby on the way is his of course) he cheated on me and walked out when I was 6 months pregnant and now is in an active relationship with this girl - fyi we all worked together at the time, she started like 2 months before I went back from maternity leave to get enough hours..... I have been slowly and gradually getting there, keep in mind I loved this man with all my heart, believed him when he told me I was his soulmate etc. He has been divorced twice, now cheated on every woman he has been with and he is severly in debt - so his track record combined with financial situation to top off how much he is going to be paying in child support - well I realise this other girl isnt getting much of a catch. It hurts that another woman could do this, but alas I dont think this girl has much of a conscience. He couldnt committ to me and the family he decided/planned with me, nor the two wives before me, so Im sure down the line same thing.....
My dilemna is, his mom and brother live less then 2 hours away, they know whats been going on, but more recently they just ignore it, they are what I've come to realise 'enablers' they just act as though none of it is happening, hence how he floats through life with no consequences - he is never really held accountable. (Other than the 95% of our large workplace who have made it clear how they feel about him) His family haven't contacted me in 4 1/2 weeks to ask how I'm doing, to see how Im making out being heavily pregnant, and raising a 1 yr old. In fact in hindsight the only time they ever made the 1hr 45 min journey to visit us before was when we had our last son, I mean my parents flew overseas to visit, but they always expected us to make the drive with a baby to visit them. Do you think I should ask them to visit when I have the baby?? I've pretty much made up my mind that I dont want my ex to come to the hospital - he made this the most difficult few months of life, put me in to high risk pregnancy etc..... what would you do if you were in my shoes?