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Michelle - posted on 10/15/2016

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So someone else who runs away when they don't get validation that they are in the right.
People need to buy a bag of concrete and harden the F up. Sorry ladies, been one of those weeks.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/14/2016

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Wow... mature! Well, for what it's worth, I agree with your first response.

Jodi - posted on 10/13/2016

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It was a long story. In summary he works as a flight attendance, and her job is better because she is in a lawyers office, but he is questioning her going from a full time to a part time job. She got mad and started putting him down for his job, then HE got mad at her and also said some horrible things. She was going on and on about how SHE paid for everything and he didn't do anything. Basically, they seem to put each other down in order to make themselves feel better, and seriously, if she can't wake up to the fact that this kind of behaviour in a relationship is toxic, then working in that lawyer's office will be very handy. You can't use your partner to build yourself up.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/13/2016

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Looks like I missed something interesting, eh? Dish, Jodi, fill me in!

Jodi - posted on 10/13/2016

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Uh, you started making HIM feel worthless when you said "i told him at least i dont serve food and cleaning people's ass." When two people in a partnership are busy comparing and competing with each other, it is absolutely toxic. You cannot do that. You can't even THINK it. From all that you say, he feels worthless too, because you are making him out to be worthless.

It seems to me that you are competing about who has the better job, the better pay, who pays for more, who does more in the relationship rather than considering that everything you do is for the good of your partnership. You aren't working as a team, and if you can't work as a team, a marriage will fall apart. It is a difficult situaiton, because you arent' together at the moment, so recommending counselling may be a problem, but you do NEED counselling.

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