How about grown older children with your grand babies?

Witts End Grandma - posted on 02/04/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




Afrter raising your child at the best of your abiltiy providing love and necessities having a wonderful relationship with them., or so you think - they were your reason for being, breathing -the drive behind you; what is one to do when all of sudden they inform you that you don't get along ????? Where isthis coming from? A grandchild that you love just as much as you luv them ... but your not allowed to be with that grandchild because your not trusted now or will you ever be trusted with their kids?

After the initial disbelieve and shock and many many hours of crying finally seeking help - What next - thats just the way it is -

It feels like my heart has been ripped out of my chest with no available recourse to take - any similar situations - suggestions? Witts end!


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Amber - posted on 02/04/2011




I also need more information.
I will say that my dad thinks, and has always thought, that he is father of the year material. But the truth is that he only remembers when he was a good parent because all the terrorizing he did was when he was blacked out drunk. He doesn't remember any of the horrible things he did, but I can never forget. So, he doesn't understand why I, nor my 4 siblings, don't want him around us or our children.

I'm not saying that you have done anything wrong....I'm just saying that it is possible that in some cases children have reasons for limiting grandparents. You need to get down to the reasons WHY they have made this decision before anything can be fixed.

I hope that you can mend this situation with your child and grandchild in the future :)

Sneaky - posted on 02/04/2011




Definitely need more information about the situation . . . what do they think you have done that is so terrible? Did you ask them?

As to possible recourse - work your ass off to either make up for the 'mistakes' you have made and become 'trustworthy' again. Do you not get along with your child's partner by any chance?

Rose - posted on 02/04/2011




What is their reason for the mistrust? Your child had to indicate what your did or are doing that is making them now feel differently.

I'm not saying that your child is right, but finding out what is causing the change in attitude may help you begin to understand the sudden change and try to make things better :) Good luck! I feel for you...that is my worst fear when my kids do grow up.

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