How are parents in Italy and France different to American parents?

Kyle - posted on 05/27/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

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So how are parents in Europe different to American parents and why do people say that European children are very well behaved unlike American children?

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Ev - posted on 05/28/2015

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I am from the States and I do agree to a point that a lot of American children are rude and not well behaved. I do not differencaite between city kids or country kids. I look at it from the view point of an outsider like being at the mall, grocer, or in other public places where you can witness a lot of things in parents and their kids. I see a lot of whining, crying, screaming for things when parents tell them no only to give in later and let the kids have their way. My kids fall in the generation that grew up with tech changes. Neither of them had it in the home growing up but for a computer that was used more by parents than the kids. They were taught to be respectful to others, what it meant when they were told no, and for the most part followed through with the program I put in place. Both are hard working adults now with jobs and one has a family to take care of. So not all American kids are rude and misbehave.

Jodi - posted on 05/28/2015

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Personally, as a teacher, I find that the children from better educated homes are more well behaved than the ones who are not. Children from homes where both parents are either still together or on the same page with regard to parenting are better behaved than children from single parent homes where they never see the other parent, or from split homes where their parents communicate little and don't co-parent well. But I can see what they mean about children who need to be constantly entertained, or expect people to jump immediately for them because they can't wait or be patient about anything. I have seen parents enable that rather than teach them patience and waiting from a young age.

Having said that, some of it is definitely cultural.

Gena - posted on 05/27/2015

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Wich people say that children in europe are very well behaved? European people? I live in Europe. Switzerland does not belong to the E.U. But all I can say is that the children here are not all well behaved. I don't know about Italy and France etc because they are two very different cultures. I think it depends on the parents way of parenting. And then there is a difference with children who live up in the mountains and the ones who live in the city. I find the children who live in the mountains on farms are more well behaved then most of the children from the city.

Raye - posted on 05/27/2015

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Jodi, I would have to agree with a lot of what this article says. ADHD and other "disorders" I feel are overly "diagnosed" in the US. And many parents feel that it gives their kid an excuse to behave badly, instead of just being an explanation and actually having to deal with the behavior. My husband is a good father, but I see lack of consistency with his parenting, and I know many other parents that are way more inconsistent. So, of course the kids act out, because they are confused that the rules change on a whim. The parents are just too lazy, or too overwhelmed, or too self absorbed to discipline with consistency. And the longer it's allowed to go on, the harder it becomes to wrestle them back in line.

Jodi - posted on 05/27/2015

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You might find this an interesting read - it is one I found the other day:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/suffer-the-children/201203/why-french-kids-dont-have-adhd

Raye - posted on 05/27/2015

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I didn't know there was that much of a difference. I know other countries think Americans are rude and obnoxious. Maybe that opinion has transferred to our kids as well. Not all of us Americans are that way. Some are, though, and I'm sure some in Europe are that way as well.

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