How can I convince my doctor I'm done being pregnant? 37 weeks is full term!

Corinne - posted on 07/22/2012 ( 90 moms have responded )

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I am going to be 37 weeks in two days and am beyond done with this pregnancy. I've been on bedrest for 7 weeks now, dealing with inconsistant contractions for about 8 weeks, been trying to keep up with my skin between moisturizing and healing the literally torn stretch marks..... enough is enough! This is my body and my baby; I know she's ready so I don't see the point in waiting. I have anxiety and haven't been able to take my meds this whole pregnancy and I've been having anxiety attacks from the constant pain/discomfort I'm constantly having nose bleeds, needing to focus on not hyperventilating etc. How can I convince my doctor to not wait the two extra weeks???

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Kristina - posted on 07/25/2012

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Oh for the love God, this woman already has a child, you really think she's trying to endanger this one??!!! Any woman who's been on bedrest, had horrible fals labor issues the Entire 3rd trimester, or had any of the 5000 other issues pregnant women develpo have felt this way. And if you want to pretend otherwise, you are lying to yourself. So she wanted a little sympothy, she deserves it. She want to have a convo with her DR about having the baby early, she and the rest of us all know how its going to end. Any of the "facts" that have been pointed out are one easily found, two her dr job to give her. No I don't think she should have a c section at 37 weeks, but I don't really think she will either. No name calling wasn't nice, but I'd get defensive ifi felt like half the women on here were calling me a bad mother too. To answer how to approach it with your Dr, just be open and honest with your concerns. Don't be surprised when they do tell you they cant/wont do it. To be honest if anything happened, they'd be opeing themselves up for a malpractice suit. But know that some of us are concerned for you and would like an update of how it all turns out.

Jodi - posted on 07/24/2012

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" When EVER post I make Jodi has to play devils advocate and then you tag team when people support me, THAT is bullying."

WTF? Bullying? I don't think so. I gave an opinion on the situation ("It's not about you, it's about the baby, and 37 weeks is not full term.") and YOU are the one who turned around to tell ME to look it up. So in my next post I gave some facts, and then asked you about your medications. And I gave a few links for you.

Then YOU started accusing people of judgement.....because you didn't like the damn answers? because we weren't feeling sorry for you and telling you to argue with your doctor on the 37 week thing, because we don't AGREE that you should be trying to have your baby 2 weeks earlier than scheduled? Because we gave you an HONEST opinion? All of a sudden people's honest opinions disagreeing with you are bullying?

Not one person judged YOU. Several posts into this conversation, I suddenly realised you didn't WANT people telling you that there could be health risks to your baby, you posted for sympathy, not for opinions at all. So I decided not to even bother responding further.

Grow the fuck up.

Jodi - posted on 07/22/2012

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The fact is, IF you conceived late in your cycle (which is perfectly feasible), your baby may only be 35 weeks, in which case, their lungs may not be fully developed. I am a strong advocate that unless something is life threatening to the baby (which in your case, it isn't), then inductions shouldn't take place until at LEAST 39 weeks, and there are reasons the medical community stick with this *magic number*. I do understand that they treat a 37 week baby as they would any full term newborn, and they classify them as full term medically for this purpose, but the fact is, it really isn't optimum age for birth if it can be avoided.



I have had a baby born full term but was still underdeveloped and was kept in SCN for 10 days, and believe me, you don't want to risk that if you can avoid it. At 37 weeks, despite the fact they are considered full term, there are more risks that the baby will have issues that will require special care in those first few days or weeks.



Why can't you take your anxiety medications during pregnancy? There are medications that are safe for pregnant women. And I can't see how anxiety attacks now is going to have any greater impact on your baby than it has had over the last 8 months.

Aimee - posted on 07/23/2012

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As a neonatologist I will tell you we consider any baby under 38 weeks as preterm. Also, delivering at 37 weeks more than triples your baby's risk of admission to the ICU

Jodi - posted on 07/22/2012

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Well, obviously your doctor has decided this is what is best for you and the baby. Uninformed judgement? Um, yeah, okay......you do realise, don't you, that you can';t know whether the baby's lungs are developed without the appropriate testing? It isn't standard testing, it is generally only done in circumstances where early inductions or c-sections are planned. The size of the baby is irrelevant to lung development (and they actually CAN'T accurately predict weight of a baby in-utero, it is simply a guess based on certain measurements).



I don't think *I* am the one who is uninformed here. I would NEVER have respect for a doctor who decided to perform a c-section early simply because the mother was not comfortable and was done with being pregnant.

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Jessica - posted on 07/25/2012

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although 37 weeks is technically considered full term, if you haven't gone into labor and had this baby, it is because this baby is not ready yet. He/she knows when they are ready. I realize it is difficult to deal with your health issues without being on your meds, but remember, you made that choice. I know that may sound harsh, but I have a friend who has RA, Myesthenia, AND lupus, and chose to go off her meds to get pregnant. While it was difficult, it was her choice, and even at 35 weeks when she was at her wits end, she knew that she had not yet gone into labor because the baby was not ready yet.

Hold out, you've made it this far. at this point, 2 weeks can be handled

Martine - posted on 07/25/2012

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Corinne, most pregnancy are never easy, most of the time it isn't a piece of cake, I understand where you are coming from, I myself had a very high risk pregnancy with my daughter now two, I also have from times to times anxiety/panic attack. The moment you chose to have a baby and you are pregnant al do the little one is borrow your body, but your body while he/she is growing inside of your is her/his home, and you are no longer in-control the baby is. hang in there do make the call of you feel like it is time. Because you are not mother nature sweetheart, it might be hard right now but the moment you give birth and you get to hold your little one and you take a look of his/her eyes and he/she does the same you will feel like all this was worth it. Don't try to convince your Doctor to take the baby so early because of anything goes wrong or the baby end-up with some type of under growing problem or some lung problem I can guaranty you, you will never forgive yourself. Hang in there, you are closer than you if you could make it through 37 wks i guaranty you you will make it thru 2 more weeks. If I did it you can do it. and good luck with the little one. Blessing to you and yours

Wendy - posted on 07/25/2012

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Good to hear you are off bed rest and able to move around. Hopefully that will help with your anxiety as well. The end is in sight! Hopefully moving around will get baby moving as well. Good luck.

Corinne - posted on 07/25/2012

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Just had a doctor's appointment today and we met in the middle: she agreed to strip my membranes next week (38 weeks) and took me off bedrest. I didn't realize the difference from walking around the house and a trip around the block though haha. She said she's not sure I'll even make it but just in case she'll help me out :D
Btw, when I was saying "uninformed judgement" I wasn't refering to medical facts that you can google, rather my particular medical needs.

Jodi - posted on 07/25/2012

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"This has also been an ongoing thing with numerous posts/questions I've put on this site with certain people. You have the right to disagree with me, hell, you can think I'm a total dumbass. Why you feel the need to comment on EVERY SINGLE POST I make about how much you disagree with me is beyond me.... "

Ah, Krista, I think she is referring to me because I disagreed with her on one of her posts before. Apparently answering one previous post in disagreement means I think she is a dumbass (which I have never said, nor have I said she is a bad mother, or stupid, or any of those other things, people just have incredibly active imaginations and can't understand a blunt, straight-to-the-point post for what it is, because that's who I am) and commenting on every single post. Go figure.

Kasie - posted on 07/25/2012

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Hi Corinne,

Oh my gosh, this is by far the time of the pregnancy where we are at our absolute wits end! But do hang in there, pull from that inner strength, and theses two weeks will pass- if you am it 37, you can make it too, and we are here to SUPpOR.t you, not judge you....please keep us posted.

Segale - posted on 07/25/2012

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Just grin and bear it and stop bitchin! Do what's best for the baby.

Krista - posted on 07/25/2012

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This has also been an ongoing thing with numerous posts/questions I've put on this site with certain people. You have the right to disagree with me, hell, you can think I'm a total dumbass. Why you feel the need to comment on EVERY SINGLE POST I make about how much you disagree with me is beyond me....

Every member in this group has the right to comment on any and every post, as long as they are not violating no-THUMPS. If there is someone commenting who irritates you, I would recommend just not reading their comments to your posts, and just skipping over it as soon as you see who posted it.

This group alone has over 10 million members. It's inevitable that there will be SOME personality conflicts.

T - posted on 07/25/2012

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While you may be done with it, your baby may not be since labor hasn't started. There is no exact guaranteed measurement to determine when a baby is ready, they say between 37 and 41 weeks with risks to the baby decreasing in the weeks after37. I don't believe you can convince him even if you claim to know your body and your baby. You've come all this way and there must be a reason that he wants to wait.

User - posted on 07/25/2012

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I Didn't read all the comments except the first few. I just want to say its best to wait a little longer because ultrasounds are not concrete. My doctor told me that my son was 5 pounds 2 ounces at 37 1/2 weeks according to an ultrasound. He was born a week later at 7 pounds 2 ounces. Like I said ultrasounds are not 100% trust your doctor and wait it out. You've made It this far, what's twO more weeks?

Jodi - posted on 07/25/2012

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" I do have a problem with people being rude about it. With all my pregnant friends even when I want to scream at them how much of an idiot they are being I would NEVER be as rude as some people on here."

Lady, you've been as rude as shit. YOU are the one telling others to "look it up" (so I did) and accusing people of uninformed judgement when there hasn't been any judgement, simply information as to why you shouldn't. Believe me, you cast the first stone. You are not quite as polite as you seem to think you are.

Victoria - posted on 07/24/2012

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sorry. i had twins and being large anyway size 22/24 i was huger! i got emcs at 37+2 after a plannedbinduction went a bit awry. i spent 9weeks in n out of hospital. two false starts n cobstant tightenings. the weeks leading up towhen the bpys were born atv37+2 i struggled i have a 3 1/2yo too who needed raking to school 3 days a week. shopping still needed doing n noone to help me. my hubby works 730-6 mon- friday. i knowcexactly how you feel. but wait even them born at 37+2 at 7:10 % 7:1lbs each there lyncgs still werent 100%. you run risk of jaundice too. n have no c which is horrid to put ur baby on the billibed n have no cuddles n his feet be sliced for blood tests.. moral is i supose is wait. if i can with twins n can wait another week or two!

Ann - posted on 07/24/2012

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All cesarian section births are done at 37 - 38 weeks in South Africa, and the babies are all perfect.

Corinne - posted on 07/24/2012

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I have no problem with people telling me it's best to wait. I've actually come to terms with 13 days is not as bad as watching my baby in the NICU struggling, thank you to all the kind reminders. I do have a problem with people being rude about it. With all my pregnant friends even when I want to scream at them how much of an idiot they are being I would NEVER be as rude as some people on here. This has also been an ongoing thing with numerous posts/questions I've put on this site with certain people. You have the right to disagree with me, hell, you can think I'm a total dumbass. Why you feel the need to comment on EVERY SINGLE POST I make about how much you disagree with me is beyond me....

Jayce - posted on 07/24/2012

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As the mom of a preemie I would have given anything to have been miserable the last few weeks of pregnancy. Trust me, a few weeks of misery is a hell of a lot better than having your baby in the NICU.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/24/2012

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Agree with Krista here...Corrine, you did sound like the proverbial prima dona mamma...LOL...

If I recall, I went into my second son's first OB visit saying "the first one went to 42 weeks, and I'll be damned if this one goes over 39..." so they set up an appointment to induce...exactly 40 weeks from my date of conception. I still didn't win...LOL...

Krista - posted on 07/24/2012

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Corrine, people are irritated with you because you are acting as though you know better than your doctor, and instead of listening to the very valid advice that's been given, you're making excuses and claiming, for example, that you know precisely how developed your baby's lungs are (which is impossible for you to know). It's obvious that you're miserable in your pregnancy, and I'm sorry for that, but nobody was being rude to you until you fired the opening shot of telling people that they were offering "uninformed judgment".

Everybody, regardless of their method of delivery, is telling you to wait. Nobody here (nobody with a lick of sense, anyway) is going to advise you to try to persuade your doctor to deliver early.

So you can get defensive and argue as to why the baby should be delivered now, but frankly...all you're doing is making yourself look like you're putting your own comfort ahead of your baby's very health. That may not have been your intent, but that IS how you're coming across.

Liz - posted on 07/24/2012

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I feel your pain. I was on bedrest at 24 weeks with my oldest and at 28 weeks with my youngest. By the end of those pregnancies, I was desperate. Bedrest makes a pregnancy twice as long and twice as miserable. And bless your heart, it sounds like you have even more on your plate than the average expectant mother due to the anxiety problems. And you are right, 37 weeks is considered full term by most physicians. However, you are having a C-Section. My experience as a L&D nurse is that any baby born via C/S is at higher risk for complications, ESPECIALLY when born before 38 weeks. Most common problems I've seen in 37 week C/S babies are: poor feeders, jaundice, and mild to severe respiratory problems. Poor feeding being the most common problem, which can lead to jaundice, especially if the baby is a breast-fed baby. Then again, I've seen babies born much younger and have no problems at all. The point is, no one knows how well your baby will fare after she is no longer in the protection of your womb. Truthfully, I doubt there is much you can do to convince your OB to let you have the baby sooner. But I do recommend that you get started on medication very soon following delivery. With your history of anxiety and depression, as you have mentioned, you are at a much higher risk for developing Postpartum Depression, or PPD. I wish you and baby the best!!

Cherie - posted on 07/24/2012

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I was on bed-rest for several months with my last child, I had 5. I think I can speak for most mom's when I say that the last couple weeks are indeed the most uncomfortable for most of us. It goes by quicker than you realize and I look back and realize that it seemed like yesterday that I was pregnant and my youngest is now 24 years old! Time flies very quickly and the joy you will receive from being this baby's mommy by far outweighs being uncomfortable for a short time. I do understand your anxiety and feel your pain, but babies need to cook for a specific amount of time and she will let you know when she is done. Try to relax by deep breathing or however you can. You will be very happy when she is born just realizing that you did whatever you could to make her birth the most healthy for both of you. Good luck with your delivery!

User - posted on 07/24/2012

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37 weeks is full term any doctor will tell u , however they do not recomend having baby at that time they just wont stop it if it happens. also 37 weeks myself so I kinda get it.. I do understand the pain and anxietytrust me I am ready to b done too but i do think u should wait it out.. U made it this far u dont hav much longer to go. If ur doctor feels the need they will take her out earlier but for now ur pretty much gona have to deal

Mommy - posted on 07/24/2012

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I agree with most of the posters on here, you have to follow your doctor's advice on this. Unfortunately for us, pregnancy sucks sometimes. I feel like I have a bowling ball in my uterus right now, can't sleep, severe back pain, swelling, leg cramping, and a toddler that is attached to my hip. Not to mention 2 jobs. UGH. I would love to have this little one on the outside already, but I know my doc would never let me induce at 37 weeks. I will be 36 weeks Thursday, and I am the only protection this little one has. I'll lose a limb before I put him/her in danger. Hang in there, it's almost over!

Sarah - posted on 07/24/2012

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That is not the case. I had three c-sections. Only with one did I have an ultra sound prior. And even that was not a benefit. She flipped and was breech hence the non vagina birth. I know you are uncomfortable. Been there. Keep in mind the blessing a child is. It will be worth all the hassle.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/24/2012

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Yep, I'm pretty sure that the doctor is the only one in the world that doesn't subscribe to the "keep the pregnant woman happy" line of thinking! But, rather subscribes to the "lets have the healthiest baby possible" line of thinking...Something about medical liability, and issues such as that.

Samantha - posted on 07/24/2012

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just relax the stress ain't good for the baby will some doctors want women to go full term until their due date to make sure their babies is healthy and that probly why your doctor want you to go until your due date is to make sure your baby is full term baby

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/24/2012

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You may convince him that you are done being pregnant, but you won't convince him to induce you. The doctor has an obligation to you both, but since you do not have something life threatening happening, the baby is more suseptable to having issues,....serious ones. Live with it for just a bit longer, to have piece of mind that your child will be ok. I mean, you will have to cause I don't think any doctor is fool enough to deliver a baby just cause the momma says so.

Erin - posted on 07/24/2012

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Late in my pregnancy I had sciatica in both legs and could barely walk and severe pre-eclampsia. I vomited my entire pregnancy and actuually lost weight because the vomiting was so severe. I was on bed rest off and on through the whole pregnancy. To put ot bluntly, pregnancy was a total bitch. In my 34th week, I felt funny, had a headache, went to get my blood pressure taken (it was 250/130) and I was informed I would b ehaving a baby that day. He was tiny but healthy and was in the NICU for two weeks. It killed me that I had to go home without him.



I am a pediatrician. A full term baby is a 40 week baby. 39 week babies tend to do okay. Anything before that and you could have severe problems with baby's lungs, eyes, intestines, and brain. Most hospitals wont release a baby until it is at least 5 pounds; however, even a big baby may not be fully developed. And Ultrasound results can be off as much as 2 pounds, which is pretty significant. My baby was lucky. He only had feeding issues. Even then , I'm pretty sure he would have been in the NICU at least a week longer had the neonatal nurse practitioner not have known me well and worked extensively with me in the NICU during my residency. She knew that I knew how to take care of a preemie; your baby would be considered a preemie and may just require a NICU stay.



All of this is to say that yes, pregnancy is a total bitch, but stick it out. It will be worth the suffering. You will marvel over the little creation you made and they will grow into this incredible elittle person that you can't believe you ever lived without.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/24/2012

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You can't convince your medical doctor to take steps that (they know) will possibly endanger the child? Oh no!!!

To be blunt (and, yes, been there, done that, the whole bedrest/miserable pregnancy thing): Suck it up, buttercup! I was on 8 weeks bedrest, could not even WALK because of the nerve my second was crushing, was in excruciating pain, and my doctors STILL made me wait until it was time to have that baby.

Your personal comfort, right now, takes a back seat to that baby's health. If you've tried to "convince" your doc, and she/he's said NO...then there's your answer.

This is not bullying, by the way, it's my opinion. In my opinion, you need to suck it up and realize that your medical doctor knows things that you do not know.

Leslie - posted on 07/24/2012

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I know the waiting is hard. I just had baby #2 and I was on bed rest for 6 weeks before he was born- 4 of them in the hospital hooked up to monitors 24/7. I was going bonkers. But it is better for the baby to wait. One nurse told me one day in the womb can save a week in NICU. And it doesn't matter how bug a baby is, it has to do with lung maturity. You can have a 10 lb baby who's lungs are not mature. The thing is, the government passed a mandate and most hospitals will not allow induction or early c-sections prior to 39 weeks unless it is an EXTREME medical emergency- because babies born before 39 weeks have more of a chance of medical issues. I had low amniotic fluid- my level was 4.7 and normal is 10-25. Baby was having 5-6 min decells in heart rate. Lots of complications and they were still unable to deliver early. I wanted him to be in there as long as he needed. I went into labor 3 weeks early (I was scheduled for a c-section) so I ended up having him at 37 weeks. Thank goodness he was ok- but has reflux which can be due to underdeveloped digestive system. If they did not need to "cook" for 40 weeks than our bodies would not be designed to keep them in that long. Mother's who have babies in the NICU would live to have kepth them in til 39 weeks.

Wendy - posted on 07/24/2012

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My doc said no medications for my anxiety either. Talk about torture! Pregnant, uncomfortable, moody, anxiety attacks, trouble sleeping. Some people don't understand what a tough pregnancy is like. It made delivery a lot harder too, I had three panic attacks on the way to the hospital for my scheduled c-section and begged every nurse and doc to just put me out for the operation. Of course they didn't because it is not as safe for the baby. Hang in there girl. Try not to let some of the nasty and unhelpful comments get to you, I know easier said than done. You are gonna get through this, even if it feels like it is going to kill you in the process.

Susan - posted on 07/24/2012

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I know you are miserable. Believe me - I totally understand! And it's hard not to wish it could be all over with. I understand! But please be patient and wait if you can possibly wait. Wait on the baby and your body.

I had my fourth child 8 months ago, and she was 3 weeks early. When I went in for my 35 week checkup, I was measuring full term. My belly measurements and the ultrasound indicated she was "full term" size, and that she was approaching 9 pounds. We'd suspected she was going to be big from about 30 weeks, when suddenly she GREW. All of my others were in the 7.5 pound range, with my largest being 8 pounds. If I went to term, she could have easily tipped the scales at 11 pounds. I was SO miserable at the time....I couldn't sleep, breathe, get comfortable, or anything. My back & feet were killing me, besides the fluid retention in my feet & legs killing me, too. I knew without a doubt that this baby was bigger than "usual" because I felt worse than I'd felt with any of my other pregnancies. I was so ready for the baby to be born so I know where you're coming from!

My doctor worried that with my age (I was 42) and her size, she might be in danger, since older mothers have a higher risk of stillbirth as they approach their due date with larger babies. After a LOT of soul searching and thought, we decided we'd go early (3 weeks) after we made sure her lungs wer ready with an amniocentesis. (You can't be sure the lungs are ready with an ultrasound, no matter what anyone says! They all practice breathing in utero, but only the amniotic fluid can tell what they need to know about the lung maturity.)

I went in for the amnio, and the results said she was ready. I went in for my induction and delivered a three-week early 9 pound 3 oz baby.....who was terribly purplish-blue. Her lungs were NOT ready, and she was whisked away to NICU, where she stayed for a full week. I wasn't allowed to hold her after she was born, and ended up having to wait for over 26 hours after she was born to hold her. It was the most agonizing 26 hours in my life! And her one week stay in the NICU was not fun either. I had three others at home (ages 7, almost 6, and almost 3) wanting their baby sister HOME. I wanted to be at home with all of them, but I spent a week in the hospital with her instead.

It was NOT what I would have chosen. I wish I could have waited a little longer for her sake. She was the most important factor in our decision to go early, since my OB was worried that she would be in distress, but it wasn't time for her.

Please wait if you can. Yes, it's your body, but SHE needs for you to hang on as long as you can. You do NOT want a NICU stay. Try, please, just try!

Susan

Wendy - posted on 07/24/2012

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I know the feeling. The last few weeks are the hardest and it feels like it is never going to end and you are going to be pregnant forever. There are some things you can do to naturally hurry things along and get labor going. It sounds like the doc wants to wait until the baby decides to come on her/his own. Hopefully soon for your sake. If you have already discussed your concern with your doctor and he says to wait then wait it is. Do you have visitors? Good books, movies, and games to keep you busy and help the time pass? Good luck and it will be over before you know it.

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Corrinne!
I know exactly how you feel! I have five wonderful gifts from God and every single child had to be induced (I don't go into labor normally). With child number four, I fell and bruised my pelvis at the beginning of my 3rd trimester and was put on bedrest for one month. As soon as I came off bedrest I began having contractions. They would be 3-5 minutes apart for 10 hours and then go to 10 minutes apart for a day or so. But it was never ending pain. I know! By the time my due date was getting close, I felt like I was going INSANE! My drs hands were tied. The hospital had a policy that no OBs could induce before 39 weeks unless baby or mother were in danger. So I had to wait and wait even though I was ready. I came into the hospital one day and he was so apologetic that he couldn't get the ball rolling. He could see I was frantic and miserable, so he told them to give me something for the pain so I could sleep. I was 2 centimeters dialated when they gave me stadol (just to get me some relief). When I woke, they checked me again. 3 centimeters. BINGO! Said my OB. He sent me home with a safe painkiller for baby, and told me to rest. He said to take the pain medicine and sleep as much as I possibly could over the I weekend. And I did. I slept all weekend and by the next Monday I was dialted to 4, and that was enough to be considered active labor so he could induce.
I know it is so hard at the end! I know you are in pain and miserable! Perhaps you could talk to him about the PAIN! Maybe being in pain, miserable, stressed, unable to sleep is holding your body back. Maybe if you could sleep and be in comfort for a couple days ou would move forward.
But that aside, every one of us who have made it full term have been miserable at the end. REALLY miserable! And so anxious to meet our babies, and so ready to be done! This is almost done! You are almost there! It seems like forever, but it is only 3 weeks away. That may feel like so long, but it will flash by before you know it, and you will hold your sweet little baby in your arms and say, "This child was worth everything I went through!" Hang in there, Momma! You are almost there!

Elizabeth - posted on 07/24/2012

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The original "nasty" posts were from you. You started off this conversation by smarting off to someone "look it up". Which obviously they did, and it was not what you expected. When none of the answers were what you wanted, those people were "trolls". Calling people names is only going to get a reaction. I understand you are frustrated and angry over your job, being on bed rest, all of it. There is no 100% sure way to prove the baby is ready. You can guess, the doctors can guess, but if she doesn't come on her own, it's the doctors responsibility to wait until absolutely necessary. Discuss your frustrations and issues with your doctor, you have to trust they know what's best for the baby. I hope everything works out for you and the issues you are having subside.

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Sorry you are having such a rough time. I had a large 1st baby and had to have a c section. My next 3 pregnancies my dr. watched very closely and chose to induce labor slightly early to avoid having another large baby I could not deliver. My last one I was 40 and about 4 1/2 cms dilated at 37 weeks. The doctor went ahead and scheduled to induce labor about 10 days early but said it was possible I wouldnt make it that far. I think at this point for you it may be just a legality to protect the doctor or insurance criteria. I know my dr said he was not able to induce labor closer than 2 weeks to due date because of my insurance. Heaven forbid if he induced early and there were complications some of the blame could fall on him. My doctor was right and I actually went into labor 16 days early on my own. Luckily I have 4 healthy children. Dont worry, when its all over with memories of the bad parts of pregnancy seem to fade and make room for all the joys having a baby can bring. When times were tough I always thought about those who so badly want to have children but for whatever reason cannot. I was one of those gifts to my mom who adopted me that could not have children of her own. Good luck to you.

Sharlene - posted on 07/24/2012

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From a mother that has had 3 premature babies all had medical issues and now have GGD'S and health issues . Really go the full term .And can I suggest something go the the premature communities and read some of the threads there . good luck

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I didn't even read jodis posts before i posted. I was answering your op.I gave you my honest opinion. Which was to listen to your dr. If your not willing to hear other peoples opinions (which is just that, an opinion, not "judgment") then maybe you shouldn't create threads asking for advice. Its also not wise to call people who moderate the community trolls. From what i can see, you want to make your dr change his mind. From my knowledge of how a baby develops in utero I know 37 weeks is too early to intervene without just cause. If the Dr already decided their is not just cause then why try to make him change his mind? You just need to put your own uncomforted aside and tough it out. Thats not passing judgment on you, its only agreeing with a specialist.

What does your little rant have to do with the benefit your baby will receive by staying pregnant?? I'm just not going to bother, not worth my time to help someone who doesn't want it.

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My OB had me take Celexa during my pregnancy with DS. It worked like a charm and is very little risk to baby, my DS is fine... Pregnancy sucks, but every day that LO stays inside his lungs are maturing, his brain is growing and the healthier he will be... I had contractions for 2 weeks, 5-6 minutes apart before my LO decided to come. Induction SUCKS! trust me... there are things you can do naturally to help it along, but 37 wks is considered early... You can youtube induction pressure points, walking (a lot), sex (worked for me), my midwife gave me Cramp Bark to take for the pain at the end... It really worked and I also took Mother's Cordial starting at 38 weeks. She also told me to go ahead and have a glass of wine if it helped me sleep... just don't do castor oil, it can be dangerous. GL!

Corinne - posted on 07/23/2012

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I am planning to tell my doctor all my concerns... I was hoping to get some advice on ways to bring issues up without breaking down crying to her.
Julianne, maybe I should be specific. When EVER post I make Jodi has to play devils advocate and then you tag team when people support me, THAT is bullying. You know the wee paragraph I post on here about me, don't you dare pass judgement.
I lost the best job I've had because I listened to my doctor when she told me to go on lightduty. Legal? No. But I'm just a CNA, they're a dime a dozen where I'm from. I went hundreds of dollars in debt because I couldn't work and still had to take care of my daugther and get ready for this baby BY MYSELF. My family damn near disowned me for being pregnant in the first place. God had a plan for my kids and I though, I met my husband when I was two months pregnant and he is the best dad I could ask for for my girls. He's worked hard to provide for us AND pick up my slack at home since I've been stuck in bed for the past two months. I've done everything I could to be a good mom to both my kids, if you don't think it's good enough, tough luck. Good thing you're just some random lady on COM.

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I say wait. Inducing can lead to a higher chance of a C section as well, which has other side effects and potential risks. It is best to let baby come when baby is ready.

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We all feel your pain! More often than not pregnancies do not go by the book and we all face our own struggles. With my second (while I was working full time and taking care of my 2.5 yr old solo bc hubby was in Europe working for 3 months) I was hospitalized for 5 days so I could pass kidney stones and they could manage the contractions that had started due to my pain level. 2 days after I was released I went in for my 20 week u/s. I knew something was wrong when the perinatologist stopped looking at the baby and began focusing on this dark area below my uterus. He made me get up and go pee and come back. Then asked a lot of strange questions and kept saying things like "this is so strange". Finally he said I either had a dilated Fallopian tube or a mass and needed to schedule an MRI stat. I scheduled the appointment and within days found myself in an oncologists office. They even considered doing abdominal surgery on me but by this time I was 23 weeks along. Instead I had to quit my job take it easy and see my obgyn once a week, the perinatologist once a week for an u/s and go in for 2 nst a week for the remainder of my pregnancy. Eventually my hubby came home from Europe only to leave again when I was 32 weeks for Australia. They had no idea what was growing inside of me. My baby's growth curve was dropping off and the pressure the baby was putting on the mass in my pelvis was UNBEARABLE as it was wedged between my cervix and rectum and continuing to grow. I was in so much pain that at 34 weeks they actually prescribed me Percocet and consulted and decided then that they would get me to 37 weeks and call it a day bc they were concerned the pressure from baby could rupture the mass. My husband came home on a Sunday from aus and the next day they did my surgery. They allowed me to be awake for his delivery. I gave him a kiss and they knocked me out. I was alone through most of this ordeal. My husband was not allowed in the delivery room. Turns out I had a borderline mucinous cystadanomacarcinoma. A nasty mucous filled cyst with elements of cancer buried in it. And there were two of them... One on each ovary. There were complications removing them and my ovaries are now burned to hell due to excessive bleeding. My son was born at 5.5 lbs and has trouble maintaing his glucose levels for the first two nights until my milk officially came in. He is now 8 months and doing well. I am relishing every moment I can as this is my last baby... Not by choice. I did not tell you this to make it seem like a competition. Only to demonstrate a true medical need to deliver a baby early. The sore stretch marks and nose bleeds are unfortunate pregnancy symptoms. And coping with your anxiety without medication is something you have been doing this long. Bed rest sucks! There is no doubt... But please be great full that you and your baby are in good health for the time being. You would feel awful if you jumped the gun and things didn't play out as you hoped. My obgyn told me this was the first case in 15 years of practicing with this perinatologist that he actually supported delivering before 39 wks. The baby also developed on and off a condition called placental resistance where the blood does not flow properly through the umbilical cord which they believe added to his low weight. Best of luck! I know you can do it! No sense in arguing with your doctor about a trivial 14 days. I heard too that every day of development INSIDE the womb equals about 4 days to catch up OUTSIDE the womb. So 14 days to you could mean up to 56 days for your baby to catch up to where she would've been at delivery. Now THAT is what I had anxiety about approaching my c-section. We make sacrifices forever for our children... No better time to start than during pregnancy. Sorry it's not what you want to hear. But the bigger picture is what's more important right now.

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37 weeks is not full term, it is near term. Near term babies may have trouble breathing, but often (and I mean very frequently) have trouble feeding. They often struggle to co-ordinate their suck, swallow, breathe reflex. I know you are very frustrated, but even another week would be way more beneficial for your baby. Hang in there, it'll be over soon enough!

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i cant realy say what your going through since i worked up until i had my little boy. i caught the bus to his dads house that night to it was a funny story , but im sure you little one will come when its ready !!! patience it will be over sooner then you think i still feel like i should be pregnant! hah

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Corinne feel free to correct me. Being told to not think of herself or it's not about her or she is not thinking of the well being of her child, can feel like someone is bullying her. How would you feel if you were hormonal off your medications (to protect your baby) and people telling you that you needed to start thinking about your baby not yourself. Or giving you information implying that wanting to do anything less than 39 weeks is like not caring about your unborn child. Oh and there is enjoy the rest now because you wont get it later. Well bed rest is not always rest! It can be painful to the point you can't sleep. If you can't move your hips start to hurt because you can't lay on your back or your stomach so all that's left is your hips.
If calling people bullies is a personal attack then many of the moms on this site should be band for life for saying things much worse! From her resent post she has been down this road before and knows more about her individual situation more than any of us.
Like I said in pp anxiety can have some physical ramifications that only Corinne and her dr can determine how it will affect the baby. Some of the posts here are probably not helping and or people are not looking at what they are saying from the prospective of someone with anxiety (with or without their meds)! Please people give this poor mother some slack!

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Wow... so much judgement on here!

Corrine, I feel you and am sending as many good vibes & healthy thoughts as I can! As a post-partum nurse and mother, waiting until the magical 39 weeks is strongly recommended for the health and growth of your baby. Despite what many websites say, 37wks is not full term, but rather considered late-preterm. These last few weeks are not ONLY for baby to add on much needed weight, she is adding weight to ensure she's able to maintain an adequate blood glucose level and core body temperature. Even though your baby has measured large, the U/S is crap at determining weight! My first son was estimated at 8lbs but born 2days later at exactly 10lbs. My second son was estimated at 35wks to target 11lbs, but was born at 39wks 4days at 7lb 11oz. At 37wks, TYPICALLY baby is more sleepy and more difficult to get to eat. She will need frequent glucose tests to make sure she's maintaining an adequate blood sugar. It is also common for 37wks to have a harder time maintaining body temperature, as I mentioned earlier. Though truly this can all occur regardless of gestational age, she is much more at risk the earlier she makes her grand entrance into the world. Hang in there, you can do it! As someone wisely said, look at this as how far you've come, how much you've accomplished for your precious little one already, not at how long there is left to go. Try and look at this all in a positive light, even though it may be difficult. Good luck & my prayers go out to you!

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Can you explain how you are being bullied by other moms? As far as I can see no one is bullying you, only offering you sound medical advice. When people don't agree, its not bullying, its a different point of view. You may want to read our no THUMPS policy btw. Your post is bordering a personal attack. :)

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Are you at home or hospitalized bed rest? As a previous poster said, ACOG guidelines won't let your doc intervene to cause an early delivery. It's their license and liability too. OB's are getting more of a push to not induce at all as we are finding babies neurological development isn't ready either. You can ask about liberalizing your activity. That can help you rebuild your strength for delivery. Focus on what you can do, what you've accomplished already and know that the end is in sight.

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