How can I deal with a jealous 7 year old?

Nanette - posted on 07/09/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




My son just turned 7 and in October of last year we were blessed with a new addition to our family. At first this was joy and happiness which has since faded and turned into resentment and sadness. Recently my 7 year old has been saying things like everyone is lazy now, and you dont like me all you want to do is feed the baby, you never want to play with me, no one is respectful, and when I do try to involve my older son he can be mean toward the baby and pushes him away. Prior to giving birth I left a very volatile and abusive home (which may play part). I have a very strong supportive and healthy family who has helped us through this tough time, but it seems as though even if I try to pee he now feels I am being neglectful! I have no idea what to do I love my son unconditionally and I do miss our alone time but there are 3 now and I just want him to feel the same love! (He is great at making you feel guilty to.) Please ladies if you have dealt with this please please please help me!!!!! I want both o my boys to feel secure in the love that I have for them and more then anything I want them to be close I do not want either to resent me or one another! Thank you


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Tamara - posted on 07/09/2011




With my sons I made a point to do something special outside of the house every week, if it was go get an ice cream or go to the park. Also talking to them every day about what ever topic they wanted, often times it was pokemon and other video games but I asked questions and let them take the lead. I also read them a bed time story just one on one. Had them help cook since it was something that the baby couldnt do it became our time.

Good Luck I know its hard.

Katherine - posted on 07/09/2011




Make a point everyday to spend an hour with him ALONE if you can. And then once a week do something with him alone. Have him help you with chores, and feeding and diapering the baby. Tell him he's your helper now and you need him.
But if you can I would really do what I suggested, you would be amazed at the difference. Try to make it the same time everyday so he has this to look forward to.

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