Crystal - posted on 11/17/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
Hi, pretty new here but I need some advice. I have a 6 month old daughter who is not even 12 lbs yet, she was born 3 weeks early and has some health issues. Her father and I recently went to court to work out visitation. Right now we have a trial in place he is getting her on Saturdays and Sundays from 9-5 and then starting in December he will have her overnights. The first day he was to have her the night before he contacted me and we were discussing what I needed to provide for her while she was in his care, he told me he had blankets, jackets and bottles for her as well as her formula and water and diapers I only needed to provide warm clothes. It has not been over 65 degrees any morning or even when he has picked her up. He shows up each morning with just a receiving blanket to place over her for warmth. This afternoon when he brought her home it was 64 degrees she had no jacket on and was not covered with any blanket. The carseat he has for her is only rated to 29" and she is currently 25 1/4" plus he has covers on the straps that push the breast plate down to in-between her hips and there is no way to place it where it belongs because of the covers on the straps. Lastly he allows her to sleep for extended amounts of time and thus I have difficultly getting her to sleep at her bedtime at night. She has been on a schedule since she was 2 weeks old and has never had any difficulty sleeping through the night, now she does. Also due to her low birth weight and inability to gain weight the pediatrician has her on an increased calorie every 2-3 hour feeding schedule, however when I ask him about her bottles and naps etc he gives me conflicting information, such as telling me she napped at her scheduled time from 11-2 but that she ate at 12. At this point I am concerned about my daughter's safety because of her size and health problems but whenever I try to talk to him about more than giving directions he yells and screams at me in front of my child. How can I discuss these concerns with him and make him realize we have a child that needs a little extra attention?