Joann - posted on 10/24/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
I have just tried for the umpteenth time to address some grade concerns with my 17yr old son. Every time I try to do this he reacts horribly. Finally this time it came out. He gently and kindly tried to tell me that the real reason he does not like to discuss academic issues with me is because I am not, well, very smart. He even hugged me and said I'm sorry mom, ILU. Well it hurt to hear that, especially because it is true. I am talented at certain things, (art, piano), but I am not smart. I hated school because I was bullied throughout. For that reason, I often skipped school so I wouldn't face the bullies. I never benefitted from school because I dreaded it so. By the time college came around I was very turned off and never went. I'm pushing 50 now and going back today is not an option. We are not rich, but not poor. We cannot afford school for me, but also cannot get financial aid because we are kind of in the middle financially. Besides I work full time, and at 50 I do not feel like going to night school. I sure feel like a major looser here - I have not been able to stop crying for hours. He didn't mean to, but my son's comment hurt something fierce. Perhaps he is academically challenged because of my bad genes? I helped with a lot during their school years, but at about 5th grade or so, they were way ahead of my brains, academically. I feel like such a looser right now. Any similar experiences, moms?