How can I find out why my child is crying for no reason?

Jill - posted on 10/09/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hello I am new to this website, but I am desperate. I have a 4 year old son and a 6 year old daughter. My daughter is in the 1st grade. A couple weeks into school she shared that she cries every day in school. I asked her why and she could not tell me. I asked if she told her teacher and she replied "No they are just tears so she doesn't see me" which meant that she is crying silently. I contacted the teacher and she is very supportive, she asked permission to speak to my daughter. She didn't get a reason why she was crying. The teacher said she would keep an eye on her. After this my daughter would tell me she would have no tears. However, a week ago, she would not answer me. I did not push for an answer. I consulted with our family physician and he stated the smarter a child is, the more emotional they are. I am not sure what that means at all. Today when I picked up my daughter, she came running out with tears streaming down her face. Her teacher saw this and called us back into the room. We both tried to ask her why she was crying and the answer was "I don't know". The teacher said five minutes prior she was skipping and smiling, so she is not sure what changed and my daughter would not say. I know I can't force her to talk to me and maybe it is nothing. I need advice on whether I should leave her alone or if I should push for more information. Any advice or experiences would be greatly appreciated.


Dove - posted on 10/09/2012




I'd ask the ped for a psych referral. She may have no idea why she is crying or she may 'know', but not be able to express it. Either way a good child counselor should be able to help you all figure it out.


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Elissa - posted on 10/30/2012




I am having this same problem with my 6 year old step daughter. She is in K and a few weeks ago started acting up in class. Then got to where she cries everytime you say anything to her (Ex from directions of what you expect her to do to getting on to her) She says she dont feel like her self and dont know why she is doing this. She has always been more emotional than her older sister. She sees her mom 3 weekends a month but that has been the same for three years. This morning I just sat down and cried with her. I dont know how to help her cause she dont know why she is doing it... HELP.

Amy - posted on 10/09/2012




Does your school have a school psychologist your daughter can meet with. It's hard when they don't have answers but is it possible someone is bullying her? My son had a rough few weeks and after a week of trying to figure it out he told us that there was a boy in his class that was bothering him. If you school does not have a counselor who can work with your daughter I agree with Dove ask your doctor for a referral, they are trained to do what they do and may be able to figure out what's going on.

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