how can i get my 1 year to sleep all night

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Belinda - posted on 08/01/2011

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What Gwen says is very true. I can only say, choose 1 method and stick to it, be very consistent. It may be time for your son to start putting himself to sleep instead of you rocking and holding him. When my daughter started to push away from me at bed times I took it as a sign that we needed to work on her putting herself to sleep. Again, I would sit by her bed, talking to her quietly in a monotonous way, if it looked like she was going to become hysterical I would pick her up until she calmed and then put her back in bed. I was really frustrated and it seemed to take forever, I honestly didn't think that it would ever work, but I gradually eased myself away from her crib and out of the room until she did not need me there to fall asleep. IT was gradual and every night was different, sometimes it took an hour and a half before she fell asleep and sometimes she fell asleep in 10 minutes. We now have a fairly consistent bed time as well



Once you decide on a technique, use it solidly every night for a month and keep a sleep journal, this way if you feel as if nothing is working you can look back and see what a difference there is - even if it is small. This helps keep you motivated.



I know I am rambling, but I hope this helps. If not - just let me know and I will stop :)

Gwen - posted on 08/01/2011

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Depends on the baby. Not all children sleep through the night at the same ages. They go through lots of phases including growth spurts, teething, separation anxiety, etc. which can cause changes in their sleep patterns. Sometimes all they "need" is you. It sounds like he is at least sleeping for 5 hour stretches which is still good. Follow his cues. Babies do not come with instruction manuals and what works for one doesn't always work for another. Trust your instincts. Sounds like he is doing great.



To help put it in perspective, even we adults have good nights and bad nights. Think about it...how often are we awake at some random hour for no apparent reason or wake up 3 times to pee or toss and turn because we are too hot/cold. Why would we expect kids to be any different?

Heather - posted on 08/01/2011

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I have tried everything with my son. Sometimes when he wakes up at around 3am, he will not take a bottle, just fall asleep in my arms. His bathtime and everything is basically at the same time every day. But some days he just will not go to bed at a normal time. And, he fights it soo hard. like he wil have a bottle, and ill hold him, or rock him under the ceiling fan(he loves the fan), but he will fight and try to push away as much as he can, its horrible. I know he needs to be sleeping thru the night, especially at this age, but I just dont know what to do anymore. Soo frustrating! :(

Belinda - posted on 08/01/2011

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I wonder if he has got used to drinking his bottle in the middle of the night. Try weaning him off the bottle, start by slowly exchanging the formula for water and reducing the amount that he gets gradually. For example, try half water and half formula for a few days and then add more water. Some babies eventually give up on the middle of the night feeding when they realise they are not getting any milk. You might also try reducing the amount that he gets by 1 ounce every few nights. If this does not work, you might need to go cold turkey, i.e. once you have got down to between 3 oz and 1 oz there is really no reason for him to need the drink. When I got to this stage my daughter would drink 1 oz or so and then go to sleep. To break the cycle (at around 122-13 months) I had to just stop the bottle in the middle of the night. It took 4 nights. The first night she was very upset, I had to sit with her for about an hour before she quieted down and went to sleep (I may have held her a little, I also did not let her get hysterical). The next night she cried less, but I still needed to sit with her for an hour or so until she had fallen asleep. On the fourth night she didn't cry, she just woke up and needed me to sit with her for a bit. On the fifth night she didn't wake up.

Occasionally, especially after a change in routine, or teething or just because, she will wake up and need me to sit with her for bit, but that is just part of what she needs at this age. If there seems to be a pattern forming - she does it for more than 2 or 3 nights in a row I swap it up a bit.

I would consider having a set bedtime though, after quiet play, bath and a book, go straight to bed. I prefer a bath time of 630 and in bed by 730, but that is me, I like some time with just me and my husband before my own early bed time. SHe tends to wake up sometime after 6 with that bedtime. Your son should be getting about 11 hours of sleep at night without waking up.

Heather - posted on 08/01/2011

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My son plays, has his bathtime, plays a lil more, and he has a book read to him. he has his bottle(formula) before he goes to bed, which can be between 9pm and 12am....then he will sleep a few hrs and then wake up around 3ish. have a bottle and go back down til around 8am. But when he was a few mnth old he went thru a phase where he slept 12hrs thru the night....How can I get him to do that again?

Belinda - posted on 08/01/2011

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ok ladies, first of all more information is needed to help you, Do your children have bed time routines? how long do they nap during the day? do they have a set bed time or is it whenever? Have they slept through the night at all? How are they falling asleep at night? Do they put themselves back to sleep after waking up or do they need help?

There are so many techniques out there, you just have to find something that makes sense to you as a mom and be consistent. There is the CIO method, the sleep lady's technique, the no cry sleep solution and I am sure, many others.

More information is required :)

Heather - posted on 08/01/2011

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I do not have an answer, but I am in the same boat! How on earth can I get my 1yr old to sleep through the night??? He goes to bed anywhere between 9pm and 12am, and he will wake up around 3am or so, then back to bed til around 8 or 9am. He drinks formula with a bottle, does not use sippy cup. Looking for help also, please :|

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