How can i get my 2 and 4 year old children to sleep in their own room without coming into our room at night?

Tiffany - posted on 05/12/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have a 2 year old Son and a 4 year old Daughter. I cant get them to sleep in their own beds in their own room at night. It's taking a toll on my husband and I. We have no time to ourselves. We never have any of "US" time and when we do its like once every 2-3 weeks. My husband is always upset, and i feel like sometimes its my fault that I'm not trying hard enough to get them to sleep on their own. They wont fall asleep unless I'm next to them, and if i put them to sleep i sometimes fall asleep in the room. I feel like i do too much during the day to stay awake long enough at night to even spend some "us" time with my husband. I know its not my fault that they wont stay in their room, but i feel i can do more to keep them in there. I do not believe in locking them in the room to cry themselves to sleep. That and the last time i let one of my kids cry themselves to sleep was when i was weaning my son off the breast and my father-in-laws new wife came in and took him from me to give him candy. Our living situation isn't the best right now until my husband gets done with school. I know it will be easier if we were on our own. I just need any advice anyone can give me. I cant take it anymore and I'm depressed. I wish my husband and i could be the way we were before we had kids. We can if i can just get them to sleep in their own room. Please any help would be nice.

ALSO.....We put a queen sized bed in the room so both kids can sleep next to each other. There is a night light and i put the radio on for noise so its not too quiet in the room.

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Tiffany - posted on 05/15/2012

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I've tried the "If you can sleep in your room all night at the end of the week i'll get you a toy from the dollar store." I even told her that if she did it all week, i would get her a toy for each day from the dollar store. She say's she scared, but i cant understand how when there is light and sound plus her brother next to her. I asked her what toys of her scared her and she would tell me and i would show her that i take them out of the house completely. Doesn't work. I did breast feed her till she was 2 and she did sleep in the same bed as us until then, but i cant break her to be a "big girl in her own room."

Michelle - posted on 05/12/2012

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I would start by talking to the 4 year old and bribing her to stay in her room get a calendar and some stickers and mark it with every night she stays in her bed give treats in the am and a prize at the end of one month give a prize doesn't have to be big can be a dollar store prize. If you get the older one staying the younger one will follow.

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