How can I get my 24-year old son be more involved in family activities and reunions?
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Stephanie - posted on 04/02/2016
I don't think anyone would agree with me but I'm the same age as your son and I use to be the same not wanting to attend anything my family had. Have you ever asked him why he doesn't attend. I have my reason when they asked I answer it was that my family always give their opinion and never stop til they have the last word. I now attend to some of them but not all.
Only thing I would do is when you have reunion or anything like that let him know. If he has a gf or friends tell him to bring them along.
If not do something he likes and invite some of the family and tell him to bring his friends for it not to be to overwhelming of all the family to be there. I hope this helps. Just remember baby steps. If not start with just you and him going out to eat learn what he actually likes to do and try to get involve. He might reject it at first but give it time. Don't overwhelm him at first try 1time every month or two
Good luck hope this helps
Jodi - posted on 04/05/2016
But you said he didn't attend from the age of 12, so if he has lots of male cousins, then by not attending from age of 12, he didn't have the opportunity to bond with them during his teenage years, so therefore, it makes sense that he doesn't feel connected enough now. That's my point.
Andrea - posted on 04/05/2016
I don't really think its anyone's fault that he hasn't attended for the last 12 years. When you're in MS, HS and college you don't really like reunions etc. Every kid is different but I don't think it is fair that to say you can't "force" him either. I think if anything you can make a deal to attend at least 1 event a year, I mean thanksgiving and christmas is a pretty big deal for him not to attend.
Jodi - posted on 04/02/2016
What makes you think, now that he is an adult, he is likely to join in any more than when he was a 12 year old (when you actually had more influence over encouraging his participation)? If he wasn't attending parties, reunions, etc at 12, then this is a habit YOU have continued to support, because when he was 12, you had options as a parent. Now you don't. All you can do is continue to invite him and encourage him, but you now have to respect that he is making an adult choice.
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