How can I get my 3year old out of my bed???

Cathy - posted on 05/18/2013 ( 12 moms have responded )

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From day one I told my husband that we should never let our son in our bed or he will never sleep in his own. Well for the first two years everything with the bed time routine was great. Bath, brush teeth, read a book, bed at 9pm. It wasn't until baby # 2 came along that this became an issue. While in the hospital after giving birth to my second son dad was in charge of bed time. He started staying in his room til he fell asleep. When I can home from the hospital my son only requested his father to put him to bed. I was fine with this being so preoccupied with my newborn anyway. We are now 8 months later and now my husband is tired of sitting in his room all night. So by 10:30 he gives up and goes to bed. well... shortly after my son sneaks into bed with him and my husband allows it. He is blaming me for giving him a nap each day and thinks That he has out grown this napping stage. He needs his nap everyday or he is impossible to deal with...cranky. Any suggestions? How do I get dad on board and boy in his bed at a reasonable time?

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Cecilia - posted on 05/21/2013

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I would try to allow him a short nap on school days. When he falls asleep around 6 don't let him sleep more than 20 minutes. Just something quick to get him through.

Jodi - posted on 05/18/2013

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I started cutting my kids' naps on alternate days, so that sounds like a good start. Eventually, they napped briefly only a couple of days a week. You may need to consider doing an earlier evening meal to accommodate the tiredness.

Cecilia - posted on 05/18/2013

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or simply try to cut the nap short on Tuesday and Thursday. Waking him at 2:30 to go do something fun that he likes won't bother him usually. I'm sure the school keeps him busy and running and he is probably wore down on those days.

Cecilia - posted on 05/18/2013

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I think if he needs a nap or not depends on the child. How long of a nap does he take. For now, you can try to shorten the nap to about half of what he has been doing. You can also move nap time earlier into the day. I do not know if children are the same but i know for adults if you nap more than 30 minutes your "clock" resets. This means your body counts that as a nights sleep. If he's taking a nap from 2-3pm. that only gives him 6 hours before next sleep. where as if you have a nap at 11:30-12. You're giving him 9 hours.

Make sure your son gets tons of physical activity during the day time. This should be calmed down at least 2 hours before bed time. You can find indoor physical activities online if you need to. I know sometimes having a baby means going to the park becomes a task. if you wear his down, going to sleep becomes easier.

Jodi - posted on 05/18/2013

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Actually, your husband 'could' be right about the nap. He is 3, it is pretty typical at this age that he doesn't need the nap any more, he just needs rest time and earlier bed time (rest time consists of quiet, low key activities). It is normal, at this in-between stage, where they are dispensing with their naps, for them to get a bit cranky in the afternoons, and it is very tempting to get them to have the damn nap! But if you persevere with it, you will find that he will adjust. What will happen is he WILL start sleeping earlier, and waking up rested, and he won't be quite so cranky. It takes time and consistency.

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Cathy - posted on 05/22/2013

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Thanks Cecilia. I will keep that in mind because i let him nap for 45 minutes. We decided to convert his bed to a full size last night hoping that it would encourage him to sleep in his bed all night. Although he didn't fall asleep til midnight (late nap), he didn't get up at night and come into my bed. He is thrilled about his new big boy bed and we hope this continues.

Cathy - posted on 05/21/2013

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Should I let him sleep or wake him now? I don't know if I should consider this a nap. Should I put him in his bed and hope he sleeps through the night?

Cathy - posted on 05/21/2013

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Today we had school. So I decided to try without a nap. When he came home he ate lunch and then I gave him some down time reading books. Well, by 5:30 huge tantrum that lasted for 30 min. And now it's 6:15 and he's asleep on the couch. I'm gonna have a long night ahead of me! Ugggg! Should I try giving him a 30 min nap on Thurday? Help!

Cathy - posted on 05/19/2013

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So I put him down for his nap at 12 and woke him at 1. By 9pm he was out like a light! Thanks for the help moms.

Cathy - posted on 05/18/2013

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Thanks I will try to put him earlier on days when he doesn't have nursery school. He goes to school from 11:30-1:30 on tuesdays and thursdays and by the time we get home and have lunch he goes down for his nap at 2 pm. Maybe I just won't give him his nap on those days. The last time I did that he fell asleep at the dinner table and woke up shortly after screaming and crying uncontrollably. But I'll give it a go again!

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