How can I get my 4 year old to sleep in her own room?

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Teresa - posted on 11/12/2011

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I'll wake up to my 7 year old's sweet face sleeping between me and my husband. Sometime during the night he has crawled in between us. I just hug him, give him a kiss and enjoy it. One day he will be too old for such things and I will remember it fondly. Enjoy them while they are young. I actually sleep better knowing he is between us all safe and warm. There are too many other scary possibilities.

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Wow! Pulling an all-nighter?! Is that how the Supernanny method works? EEEks! It might be a method better for a SAHM who has the luxury of napping the next day with their little ones. It just wouldn't work at all with my work schedule, or my husband's work schedule. But, for us we just don't make sleep in issue. There are other greater issues that I need to deal with instead. But good luck to the original poster!

Carly - posted on 11/10/2011

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3 nights of hard slog...

Just keep walking her back into her bedroom and putting her back to bed. Do not talk to her, do not engage her just put her back in bed and walk out and just keep doing it. My sister had to do this on the 3rd night she came out once and since then NO PROBLEMS...

Unfortunately it is very repetative and boring but there is light at the end of the tunnel...

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Mindy - posted on 11/14/2011

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I'm sorry but I do not let my children sleep with us unless it's on a stormy night and/or they are scared. My daughter is 3 1/2 and when she was 2 she would get up and try to come sleep with us. I would take her back to her bed and did that for probably about a week. Now I get a full nights sleep with no one kicking me :)

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I couldn't prepare myself for no sleep. I'm on a barely functioning level as it is.



So... you say you have a 2 bedroom place and that's why she should sleep in her own room, BUT you already have a kid in that room.... Or do you have a 3 bedroom place? I guess if your complaint about her not sleeping in her own room is cuz of the wasted space and money... I'm not understanding this since you said you have a 2 bedroom place.... and 2 kids.



I don't have any advice (helpful, huh? lol) for getting her in her own room. I also have a 2 bedroom place, but I've got 3 kids. The girls (twins... almost 10) are together and my son (3.5) is in my room. There's no where else to put him anyway, but I'm sure I'd be in for a battle if I HAD someplace else to put him and I tried to do that. He does have his own bed (right up next to mine) which he is finally starting to stay in MOST of the time. He still falls asleep every night holding my hand though. I have no clue when that will end, but it doesn't bother me. Him in my bed DOES bother me cuz neither of us sleep very well, but him in my room is not a problem.



Good luck!

Kelina - posted on 11/12/2011

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no that's not what supernanny recommends lol, it's what worked for me. Knowing that I was going to be up all night was better than going to bed thinking i was going to be able to sleep and then being cranky because I didn't. It ended up being that I was able to sleep that night but had I not I was mentally prepared for it as opposed to not prepared and being cranky and taking it out on my hubby and kids the next day.

Kelina - posted on 11/12/2011

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One thing to do when you start to try the supernanny method is prepare yourself to be up all night. At bed time instead of getting ready to go to sleep get ready to pull an all nighter. When my daughter first came home I couldn't get her to stay in her bassinet so I prepared myself to be up all night constantly putting her back to bed. Make sure you do it when you have some help the next day and can nap for a bit. and if she naps make her nap in her own room.

Kristen - posted on 11/11/2011

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Its an issue for me because I pay more money to have 2 bedrooms so they can have the comfort of their own room, if all of us slept in one room then I might as well move to a 1 bedroom apartment. I guess its not a huge issue, but I don't want her to be 10 years old and sleeping in the same room as me, I don't think that is acceptable. Once in a while when she is sick or afraid maybe, but not every single night, especially when she has a brother in the next room that is younger than she is. But when I get some patience I will try the supernanny method. I've watched it on TV and it scares me, one lady had to put the baby back 79 times before he actually stayed. I would go mental.

Kelina - posted on 11/11/2011

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Have you tried camping out on her floor for a few nights? I also agree with Sharon though if she's fine with sleeping on the floor and you're ok with it then you've already got a solution though. however if you have an issue with it(I know I would, it's my room, they can stay until they're 6 months and then they can go into their own room thanks lol) Then the supernanny method is great. You're right it will mean 3 days of no sleep for pretty much everyone but it'll mean you get your room back for you and your hubby. Both my kids sleep in their own rooms, when my son started having issues with being in his room be put a nightlight in there and left his door open with a baby gate up. He can see us from his room and is doing well with it. I know it's hard to listen to the screaming but she will eventually go to sleep just make sure there's light on.

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Kristen, in the grand scheme of life, why does it bother you so much that your almost 4 year old camps out on a matress on the floor? I think that's a perfect solution to ensure all of you getting a good night's sleep! I get it that snuggling up in the bed together (bed-sharing) is not ideal for all families. We have a California King size bed, and my 6 1/2 year is actually a pretty big for his age. But in the grand scheme of life when he's so terrified and scared of the dark and every little sound, he's comforted by Mom & Dad. Wee all sleep well i nthe bed, but I completely understand if you don't get a good night's sleep. So if the matress on teh floor works, then go with the flow! You're turning a minor issue into something bigger, IMO.

Now we did have some success when we repainted his room about 2 years ago. He did stay in his "new room" for a short time frame. But ultimately, those scary noises and bad dreams and plain old scared brought him back to the comfort of Mommy & Daddy. Good luck to you!

Kristen - posted on 11/11/2011

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I agree I have two kids, the girl is 3 and the baby is 2, he sleeps in his bed no problem with that. I think its because when I had him I immediately put him into his crib every time, I didn't want to make the mistake with him that I made with her. When I first had her she slept with me the first few weeks and never slept in a crib after that. But I didn't think it would be such a big deal to get her to sleep in her own room especially if her little brother is in there. And I leave the TV on because she's scared of the dark. I don't SLEEP when she is in our bed, she sleeps horrible. Then she insists to sleep on our bedroom floor, so I usually just put the Crib Mattress down and let her camp there. But she is almost 4 when will this end?

Amy - posted on 11/11/2011

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I agree with Sharon on this. I need my sleep my hubby needs his sleep and I don't want my 19 month old to be awoken on top of it. We have a deal with my son every other night he has to sleep in his bed. On the night he sleeps in his bed some point in the night he ends up in ours. The problem for me with walking him back to his bed is I don't even know when he's getting into ours I'll usually wake a couple hours later and he's there. I'm certainly not going to wake him to put himback in his. Of course this works for my family I understand not everyone agrees and I understand not everyone sleeps well with their kid in bed with them, I sleep just fine either way!

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I have a completely different attitude regarding where my 6 1/2 year old sleeps: pick a bed, any bed, and just go to sleep. We ALL need a good night's sleep in our home. I absolutely cannot march my son back to his own bed 3, 4, 5, times a night. That's ridiculous, and then I dont sleep. My son doesn't sleep. My husband doesn't sleep. My alarm goes off at 4:35 am, hubby's alarm 6:15. I am utterly cranky and cannot function at work if I do not sleep. So big freaking deal....my son likes to snuggle up with us in bed. For my son, it's safe and comforting. We all get a good night's sleep. Sometimes we play ring around the beds and my husband will march my soon back to his bed, and then fall asleep in his bed. Again, my philiosphy is pick a bed, any bed, and just sleep. Besides, my son is not going to want to snuggle in with Mommy & Daddy too much longer. All the nightlights and tricks to make my son fall asleep on his own just don't work. What works is snuggling up with a parent. We don't make an issue out of it. There are plenty of battles I fight, but sleep simply is not one of them.

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