Lisamarie - posted on 06/20/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
I have a 2 year old son and a 5 year old daughter. My daughter, Destiny, started nursery in the September after her 3rd birthday and loved it, she had no qualms about going and would wave me off at the door. Then she started reception (before year 1) and now hates it when I leave, at first it was really bad to the point where she once kicked a teacher (unintentionally) to chase me out the door!
A little background; as the firstborn she has always been very outgoing, she talks to EVERYONE (much to my concern sometimes) and is very popular, she loves learning and especially reading, which she is very good at and advanced for her years. My children are disciplined are generally well behaved, as much as I could ask for anyway.
The school opens 10 minutes before lessons start so the children are expected to sit down on a rug and read a book quietly beforehand, my daughter never does! Like I said, at first it was terrible, she'd scream, cry, cling to my leg. I was always consistent and told her no, she has to stay at school and explained why I couldn't stay too in a firm but reassuring tone. I've spoken to teachers and they have all said as soon as I leave she is absolutely fine, nothing bad is happening there, she has loads of friends and loves her teachers, nothing has changed at home either. Now she has calmed down a lot but it's like a switch for her, she'll be fine in the morning then as soon as we step into the school building her expression will change and she pouts at me and says "I don't want you to go mummy." she will not let me leave unless a teacher is there to distract her, which is hard as there are so many other children for them to be watching.
I really need help, I don't know what else to do, I've spoken to her about it but she comes up with so many different excuses it's hard to tell. I like to get involved in stuff that she is doing in school and they have a lot of parent days where we can go a see how they learn and I love going but I also know that when it is going to be time for me to leave she will get upset and if I'm too firm with her it upsets her more. I've had many mornings where I have cried walking home from school because I could hear her crying and screaming from the school gates.
Some advice would be much appreciated, I hate feeling powerless against the situation.