Marylen - posted on 05/13/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )
so, i'm having a serious problem at home with my son ian "i dont like to use stepson" but my boyfriends son. he is a good kid overall a little hard to talk to and get him to understand why it is important he follow rules. i have 4 of my own, all my kids folow the rules but he's the only one who thinks since his dad don't tell him anything that he doesn't have to follow the rules now that being said i care alot about my boyfriend but he gets on my nerves he doesn't want to tell his what to do ex: take showers, do homework, clean up after dinner etc. he is very easy with him the school sends letters home that ian doesn't listen in class, he's very disruptive, plays in class with his toys things of that nature. yet he doesn't tell him to do better at all, so my question is do i give up and say nothing or do i keep trying to get him to understand that he has to be more aware of ian's behavior. i've been with my boyfriend almost 2years and ian lives with us fulltime, his mother doesn't look for him as she should, i would go as far as to say that she really doesn't care for him, so here i am i try my best to be his mom but i feel bad because i do everything for him but i can't discipline him which for me is not fair because i belive he truly needs someone to guide him but everytime i do i get looked at like the bad person. someone please help me understand how this works.