How can I get my husband to turn off the TV & play with his children?

Mazy - posted on 04/12/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have two kids, almost 3 & 16 months, and they both ADORE their Daddy. But my husband has to work a lot to support us & every one is okay with that...so, it means that he is out the door for work by around 8am & is home around 7pm. The boys are always excited when he walks in the door & beg to play games with him, but he ignores them, turns on the TV, drinks his beer & eats his dinner. He used to eat with us at the table, give the boys their baths, read them their stories & help with brushing teeth, etc. But now I do it all myself & he only gets up to tuck them in & turn off the light. If they ask to watch cartoons with him (because they obviously don't care about the car building shows that he has on) he just puts them in our bedroom with the TV on, then goes back to the living room himself! I simply cannot convince him that he needs to spend that hour with his boys...THEN turn on the TV when they go to bed! Basically, if the man is home, the television is on. Weekends are just as bad....non-stop, LOUD TV. Is there a way I can get it to be turned off, at least for certain periods?

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Sarah - posted on 05/24/2013

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I have the battle with my husband and my daughter - his step daughter (our oldest is his and my youngest from another marriage too long of a story) any way. They batle for the TV in the front room constantly. My husband would get up to watch the News and what ever other program is on but if my daughter gets up earlier than him she goes to the front room to watch TV and he gets upset. We have a TV in the front room and our bedrooms mind you.... so he says its ridiculous that I have to change my routing because she wants to watch TV. Quite frankly I think its ridiculous he acts this way. He does not work and I work from home. He is quick to complain yet never wants to fix a thing. I just dont know what to do anymore. When it comes to her he picks a fight in every way possible.. I need some help for a happy medium I just cant take it any more.
Please help....

Mazy - posted on 04/12/2012

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I've tried to get him to come with us to the park & things like that on the weekends. He only does it if I make a scene & get really mad...and I HATE doing that, especially since the kids see it :( Most times he says he's busy (working on a friend's car/trailer, watching TV, fixing his bike) & I go with them by myself. I DO want to cancel the cable! We didn't have it before & the TV was in it's own, shut off room, and it was soooo nice. But we recently moved to a new house where he set up cable & we have no extra/separate rooms for the TV. Honestly, I'd like to just sell it since it's 62 whopping inches & we have a 40 something inch in the bedroom (which I don't like for other reasons). I'm going to have to threaten him with cancelling cable if he doesn't change I guess.

Louise - posted on 04/12/2012

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This is very selfish of him. Although he has to have time to wind down from work too. He should do the bath ttimes as the children need to bond with him to. At the weekends he should be out in the garden playing with the kids or getting involved with them in some way. Make up a pick nic and go to the park with a ball. Showing him what fun he is missing out on. He needs to understand that he will never get this time back with his kids. Before he knows it they will be at school and then moody teenagers. God help him then if he has not formed a strong bond with his kids they will run wild. Men are a bit thick at times so be blunt with him and turn the tv off and tell him straight get involved with these kids or lose them!

Kaitlin - posted on 04/12/2012

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just cancel your cable. You'll save money and have time with the kids. (And the kids and you guys can always use something like netflix for cartoons, movies, etc).
Honestly, he needs to step up. Yes, he works full time, but so do you.

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