How can I get pregnant if I have tried everything?

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Shaniqua - posted on 09/20/2012

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I am actually trying to get pregnant myself and I have been on birthcontrol before but even way before I ever got on birth control I tried but it never happened. I really wonder what can I do to get pregnant cause im really trying to now.

Mariette - posted on 01/14/2009

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I do not know whether you have tried this.  Do not have sex for about a week before your fertile days.  What you are doing here is saving the sperm.



Then right in the middle of your period cycle, for the next three days have sex every night. Say, if you have periods every 28 days, days 14, 15 and 16 are the most fertile days.  So you will have a go during these three days.



Keep a pillow below your butt and once you finish, do not move your position.  Lie in the same position for up to 5 hours.  Why?  Because, sperms take 5 hours to reach the ovum.



 



This worked for me.  There is a difference of 10 1/2 years between my first and second.  



 



 

Monica - posted on 01/15/2009

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Have you tried using one of those ovulation predictor tests? It will give you the days for best times to try. Also the pillow below the bottom that someone suggested. I used these together and have a beautiful 8 year old daughter. Relax and good luck to both of you!

Aaron - posted on 01/15/2009

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You should try "trying" in the morning.  Sperm are more Potent or aggressive in the morning.

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a friend of mine had trouble conceiving and she and her husbans had been trying fo 4 years and her doctor put her these tablets called chlomid ( i'm in australia so i don't know if there is anything like that in the states) and within 2 months she was pregnant and now has a 5 month old baby girl hope it helps

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Jenna - posted on 01/15/2009

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relax and let nature take its course. if u stress it wont help u get pregnant, it only messes up ur body.

Susan - posted on 01/15/2009

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Well I want to thank you all who have talked to me on here already, I am going to do everything that you all have talked to me about and let you know what is going on. To answer one of the questions, my husband and I have both been checked by a doc. but going to go get checked again by a doc. in a bigger town and real soon. Well thanks again and may you all pray for me and give me all the luck that you can. Thanks

Maria - posted on 01/15/2009

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Hi Susan



Unfortunately its not an exact science and sometimes it does just take time, i would suggest though that if after a full 12 months of trying nothinig has happened then the both of you may benefit from a visit to your gp they will be able to give you some reassurance and some basic guidlines about how long before you may need some fertility tests, this may not be neccessary but at least you will know and it can put your mind at rest. use your gp service though they can help. good luck xxx

Maria - posted on 01/15/2009

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Hi Susan



Unfortunately its not an exact science and sometimes it does just take time, i would suggest though that if after a full 12 months of trying nothinig has happened then the both of you may benefit from a visit to your gp they will be able to give you some reassurance and some basic guidlines about how long before you may need some fertility tests, this may not be neccessary but at least you will know and it can put your mind at rest. use your gp service though they can help. good luck xxx

User - posted on 01/15/2009

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Dear Susan



My 2 cents worth - you have been trying for 7 years. An average couple should take somewhere between 1-1.5yrs (depending on age). There is clearly a problem and not necessarily with you. Many factors can contribute but I would advise strongly that you go to a Fertility Specialist. They are the best to deal with this. Once you have gone through the tests and they have an idea then you can put a plan of action together and not feel stressed and overwhelmed by your emotions. Don't wait you just put more pressure on yourself and your relationship. Good Luck

Meag - posted on 01/15/2009

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Us women are so quick to blame ourselves first.. it could be your man. I lived with someone I almost ended up marrying for two years and nothing... thought it must have been me especially since my mom had severe endometriosis and they actually told her she wouldn't be able to conceive... we broke up and I started dating a new guy and boom, I was pregnant! What a surpirise! Otherwise I would say just make time for "trying" as much as yuo possibly can, and try using those over the counter ovulation kits.. they might be helpful.

Anne-Marie - posted on 01/14/2009

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Hi Susan after many years of trying to get pregnant (13 yrs) it was finally discovered that i had severe endometriosis and after having surgery to have it removed i took Spirulina, Fish Oil Capsules and a really good Multi Vitamin called Elevit which is for before pregnancy, during and while breastfeeding, also a fertility drug called Clomid.  My specialist recommended to have intercourse on either of the following set days 10,12,14 & 16 or 11,13,15 & 17.  4 months after having the surgery i became pregnant, i just couldnt believe it but it happend. Keep trying, never give up! I didnt and got the result i wanted. Lots of positive thinking helps as well.

Anne-Marie - posted on 01/14/2009

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Hi Susan after many years of trying to get pregnant (13 yrs) it was finally discovered that i had severe endometriosis and after having surgery to have it removed i took Spirulina, Fish Oil Capsules and a really good Multi Vitamin called Elevit which is for before pregnancy, during and while breastfeeding, also a fertility drug called Clomid.  My specialist recommended to have intercourse on either of the following set days 10,12,14 & 16 or 11,13,15 & 17.  4 months after having the surgery i became pregnant, i just couldnt believe it but it happend. Keep trying, never give up! I didnt and got the result i wanted. Lots of positive thinking helps as well.

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Loris is right! A friend of mine tried for 9 years... when she finally "gave up" all hope of having a baby, she found out she was pregnant with twins. your body will not "let" you fall pregnant if you are too stressed out. you don't realise how much you stress your body out while you are trying to fall pregnant.

in my case, with my first child it took a while because of the "pressure to fall pregnant" but with my second child I thought oh well it'll happen when it should" and I was pregnant within the 1st month of going off the pill.

Have you read or watched the secret? The power of Attraction is REAL! believe you will fall pregnant.

Not that I want to bring on the doom and gloom, but has your hubby checked that all his cylinders are firing?

Hope that helps...

User - posted on 01/14/2009

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Quoting Susan:

How can I get pregnant if I have tried everything? Hi Susan. That is such a tough one and I know you will get loads of conflicting advice etc, but some one said : "be wary of advice you buy and patient with those who dispense it freely" It is always well intentioned. Not sure how long you have been trying but if you have seen a doc and have tried things like Chlomed etc and still nothing then try to take a few steps back and reasses the situation. BIGGEST tip: Stay calm! Try not to panic - if the doctors can find no reason why you and your partner cannot conceive then try to do all the usual: eat right, stay healthy etc. Then hand it over to a higher power than yourself and all will happen in the right time - not necessarily in your time, but let it go and know that all will be ok. It took me 5 years to reach that point, but once I did I was blessed with a precious baby girl. I know how difficult this is - trust me! My thoughts and prayers are with you.


 

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there are also ovulation kits available now to buy. they are expensive, but I have heard that they work. In Tennessee we can buy them at walmart, but most grocery stores carry them too..

Susan - posted on 01/14/2009

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Ok so the middle of 26 would be 13 so start at 12 and go til day 16 and if day 31 start at about 15 and go til day 19. So day 12 thru 19 would be the best to be together with my husband?

Mariette - posted on 01/14/2009

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I'd say your fertile days would be 13, 14, 15 and you could have a go on day 16 and 17 as well.  But if I were you, I'd keep a diary for about three months and note the number of days between each cycle.



What I have done here is taken the middle of your 26 days and 31 days, so you won't miss out both.  It's like you start in the middle of your 26 days cycle and end up with the three days of your 31 days cycle.



There is another way of finding out your fertile days - when the white discharge is opaque (not transparent like when it just starts) and sticky, those are the fertile days.



I hope this is of some help.

Susan - posted on 01/14/2009

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what is reflexology? and where can I go to get the acupuncture done at? I need all the help that I can get

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that just reminded me of something.. I went to a chiropractor also.. It not only relaxes you, but it gets your body back in line, and it feels awesome...

Susan - posted on 01/14/2009

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Ok, well my husband works on the road and is gone Mon. thru Fri. and is home Friday night til Monday morning and my periods are on day 26 but can sometimes go til day 31 but mostly 26 so when is my most fertile days because I don't even know?

Carrie - posted on 01/14/2009

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If you haven't tried it already, try acupuncture. I highly recommend it. It helped me to get pregnant and I went for 3 months after as well. also, try reflexology.. tell them you are trying to conceive.. it will happen.. good luck..

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do a hobby that you really love to do, and focus on your kids. That's what some of my family members done that were having the same problem. when you catch your self thinking about it, read a book or do something that doesn't pertain to having a baby.

Susan - posted on 01/14/2009

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Thank you for that too. I am going to try everything and try my best not to think about it but I know for trying and wanting a baby for 7 years that it is going to be really hard. Any sugestions on things that I can do to get my mind off of it for sometime?

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I agree with Loris Ayoub. Just take it easy and try to realx and not think about it for a while. And also try taking pure folic acid pills. I was told I couldnt get pregnant anymore in 2006. I started taking folic acid pills on Dec. 1 2006. I found out I was pregnant on Jan 14 2007, and come to find out I had got prego on Dec. 31 2006. And they say to eat a well balanced diet with a lot of vitamins and high in protein. But I would discuss all this with a doctor.

Susan - posted on 01/14/2009

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It's what I have heard too, well I think that I am going to give it one or two more months and then going to the doctor and maybe I can get even more lucky and have twins.

Loris - posted on 01/14/2009

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I am not saying give up give up, but sometimes if you think so much about it, you can block your system...the best thing is just to relax, and let it go for a few months, and It might happen...Is what I've heard.

Susan - posted on 01/14/2009

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But how can I just give up when I really want a baby. It's to hard to do that.

Susan - posted on 01/14/2009

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I have been trying for 7 years and I was on the shot for 4 years. From 1998 to 2002. I met my husband and we wanted to start a family and still nothing to this day. I do have a 10 year old from a previous and he has 2 from prevoius but nothing together. It makes me really sad.

Loris - posted on 01/14/2009

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I've heard so many stories of couples that when they stop trying and they just give up, happens...I am sure it makes you sad but remember with the advances in science it is more lickely you will have a baby! be positive :-) best wishes!!!

Alisha - posted on 01/14/2009

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how long have you been trying for and were you on any birthcontrol before?

Susan - posted on 01/14/2009

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Thanks I will have to see if they have them in our stores here. I have been married for almost 7 years and still nothing so I want to try some last things before going to the doctor, and it is really hard not to think about a baby when your friends and everyone you see has one. It's really hard for me and I cry about it.

Loris - posted on 01/14/2009

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well you can go to the doctor, but first there are some vitamines called Staminogro, I live in South Africa and they have it here...you and your partner are suppost to drink them, they are really good....and the most important thing and I am sure everybody has told you about it..relax and try not to put all your energy on it...best of lucks

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