How can I help my son stop playing so much video games?

Casey - posted on 04/28/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My son will be 11 in a few weeks and he is ADHD. He plays way too many video games. He ignores is little brother a little too much I feel and I worry about his relationships with other children. He likes to play with other kids but always wanting to play the video games with them instead of with toys or outside. He is smart and very sweet at times. Has good grades. Has been playing baseball since he was 5. We live in an apartment complex and haven't seen an abundance of kids playing outside but I would still like him to. At our last complex he would go outside if he saw other kids out there now that he's older it's not something he would choose to do. I have asked his teacher how he is with other kids at school and she was suprised at that question because he plays very well and has a good relationship with his classmates. He hasn't played his xbox for a week or so because the tv jacks are broken but he still begs to play on the computer and nook instead of finding something else to do with his time. Even though he finishes his homework first thing when he gets home, when he is picked up from school he races to the car ( while other kids are chatting with thier friends ) and the first thing he asks is "can I play my game after I do my homework" . My question is, is am I worrying too much or do I have a valid concern? Oh and btw I have tried limiting his time daily on the xbox and games and when he has to stop playing he just sits on his bed as if he wants me to feel sorry for him and allow him to play again.

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Just say no. When my son's grades aren't where i want them or for any other reason, the video games are the first to go. There is nothing wrong with limiting or cutting out video games completely. So sack up and be prepared for lots of whining.

If he just sits on his bed, so what? I'm really not trying to be mean but so what if he's just sitting there. Does he have other toys or things he could do but chooses not to? Then there's no need to feel sorry for him.

Medic - posted on 04/28/2012

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Just limit it and stick to your guns. By him knowing that he can sit on the bed and look pathedic means that you have a history of giving in. Be the parent here set clear rules and expectations and what will happen if he does not follow.

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Ewanda - posted on 04/29/2012

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Get him to read to you. while he is reading, put yourself and him into a character, it's like a video game only, it ends and usually or should with a happy ending.

Bonnie - posted on 04/29/2012

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You are the parent. You have to do what you know is best for your child. We all obviously know that sitting around all day playing video games is not good for anyone. I have a 3.5 year old and a 5.5 year old and they got a Wii for Christmas. For the first couple of months, even though my husband and I put some sort of time limit on it, they still wanted to play twice a day. Finally within the last month or so, I put my foot down and now they don't even play with it every day and they understand. Sometimes they whine about it or want me to feel bad, but you have to stay strong.

Stifler's - posted on 04/29/2012

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I agree with medic just ignore it if he's sitting looking glum and stick to the limits you set on his gaming time. I also agree with Anna about finding other stuff to do that he finds fun outside.

Anna - posted on 04/29/2012

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I'll admit I totally have a video game addiction. The best thing for me was going cold turkey for a long time (year and a half), and then establishing strict rules for myself. For kids, it's up to you to stick to those rules. Consistency will help establish routine, which can help manage his desire to play. I'd also recommend that you start finding and implementing family-oriented activities. Get out of the house, go to the park/zoo/museum/sports game/whatever together, which can be more fun for a kid than having to find something to do by yourself.

Medic - posted on 04/28/2012

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Just limit it and stick to your guns. By him knowing that he can sit on the bed and look pathedic means that you have a history of giving in. Be the parent here set clear rules and expectations and what will happen if he does not follow.

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