How can i improve my 7year old's behaviour?

Emma - posted on 05/16/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am at breaking point with my 7 year old daughter, who just won't give me any respect! I have never smacked her, i don't deserve the way she talks to me, like i am something she just stepped in! And i am now at the point where i don't want to take her anywhere because i am embarrassed by the way she acts like everyone is worthless around her! This isn't the way i have bought her up, and it's literally happened overnight. She lies to me, and tells tales to her friends about me and her family, and i am so worried she is going to end up with no friends and pushing me away. I just don't know what to try next, i have tried time out, i have tried sending her to her room to calm down and think about what she has said, i have tried taking things away from her, grounding her, talking to her, teachers talking to her. I don't know what to do!!!!!!! Please help!!!!!

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Kellie - posted on 05/17/2011

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Katherine's idea is a great one! I'd give that a go for sure.

Have you tried talking to her? You said it's literally happened overnight, is this a dramatic change in her? for me sudden changes in behaviour sends up red flags. Particularly if the child suddenly goes from being perfectly 'normal' (whatever normal is for you child) to what you're describing.

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Emma - posted on 05/17/2011

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Thank you, i think i will try the reward chart idea, that might work. I think i may just be putting too much pressure on myself and my daughter to conform, maybe i should loosen up a bit and she might relax too. Healthy acheivable goals could be the answer, giving her something to aim towards instead of things she shouldn't be aiming for? Thank you for your advice girls. xxx

Katherine - posted on 05/17/2011

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Have you tried a reward chart? And I agree smacking is not the answer.
I did a reward chart with my 5.5 year old about chores and respect and school. Everytime she did something 3 days in a row she got something special. I limited it to 3 goals a week so that she didn't get overwhelmed and I didn't set her up for failure.

Emma - posted on 05/17/2011

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I do not condone smacking children, they are people in their own right, bringing them up in environments where it's okay to hit someone if they are being 'naughy' is giving double standards to our children who are then told not to hit thier friends at school. Is it any wonder we have all the violence in this world when children are being bought up this way? Sorry, just my opinion, and i'm not starting a whole big debate about it, but smacking my children is out of the question, considering the sponsor's moto on her is ' Respect, not thumps' !!!

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