How can I leave my baby's father if he threatens me with kidnapping charges.

Christie - posted on 05/20/2013 ( 42 moms have responded )

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I feel that I am in an emotionally abusive and controlling relationship. What makes things even harder is I'm a stay at home mom to my 2 year old son who has Hirschsprungs disease. I want to leave his father but he has told me I am free to leave but I can't take my son. I have a friend who is willing to take us in until we get on our feet but she is in Florida and we're in Kentucky. I'm afraid to leave because he will call the police and have me charged with kidnapping. Can he legally do that? What do I do to get out and keep my son with me?

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Melissa - posted on 05/24/2013

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Unless there is a legal document that states you cannot leave the county, state, etc...or a custody agreement saying he has 50% custody...then he cannot do squat. Especially if you file for a protective order, which I would highly suggest you do once you leave. It doesn't take much for a verbally abusive relationship to move into the physically abusive relationship. Especially if he is already having control issues. Plus, if his name isn't on the bc...there is even less he could do. He would literally have to go to court to prove the child his and you know the government....The police will just inform him its a civil matter and he would have to contact the judge.

Michelle - posted on 05/24/2013

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Call your local domestic violence shelter. They can and will take you in and he will not be able to get on the premises. Then contact family court about child custody and supervised visitation so he can't turn around and kidnap your child.

Samantha - posted on 05/24/2013

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First things First

*get Legal Advice
*have A Trusted Lawyer by Your Side In Case This Goes Bad.
*think Things Through..
*bank Accounts are U Both Together? If Not Does He Know Your Card details N Password. Best To Open A New Account.
*if He Has Touched You, Whether In The Past Or Recently....take Photos,. Use It As Evidence Against Him.

All Your Legal Documents, Passport. Your Sons passport N Legal Doc Keep It With You Always....put It Somewhere safe.

Remember To Think Things Through and Get An Advice of A Professional Lawyer. Someone You Can Trust. N Last But Not Least Act Like your Normal Self, he Knows You Too Well So dnt Change A Thing Or He Will Suspect Something

Jasminerussell31 - posted on 08/02/2014

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Im in the same predicament I want to leave when he goes out of town but im scared he will call the police an we are married but im in an a very emotional relationship

Allyson - posted on 05/21/2013

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Christie,

Your safety is your primary concern. It is my experience that emotional abuse can escalate and become physical, if it does CALL 911. The police are required to respond to your call, make an arrest if there is probable cause that an assault has occurred, write a report of incident and give you a summary of the report, they are also required to request an Emergency Protective Order if they believe you or your child are in further danger. The EPO will require the abuser to stop abusing you and stay away. If necessary, develop an exit plan to get to safety (see Dr. Phil’s “Exit Plan” below). Don't be afraid to ask for help.

I hope this helps!

Peace & Blessings,

Allyson

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Dr. Phil’s Exit Action Plan: Guidelines for Leaving an Abusive Relationship: Planning a safe exit from an abusive relationship is a necessary and important step before breaking the ties with your partner. The National Domestic Violence Hotline suggests following these steps to improve your chances of leaving safely.

• Know the phone number to your local battered women's shelter.
• Let a trusted family member, friend, coworker or neighbors know your situation. Develop a plan for when you need help; code words you can text if in trouble, a visual signal like a porch light: on equals no danger, off equals trouble.
• If you are injured, go to a doctor or an emergency room and report what happened to you. Ask that they document your visit.
• Keep a journal of all violent incidences, noting dates, events and threats made.
• Keep any evidence of physical abuse, such as pictures.
• Plan with your children and identify a safe place for them. Reassure them that their job is to stay safe, not to protect you.
• If you need to sneak away, be prepared. Make a plan for how and where you will escape.
• Back your car into the driveway, and keep it fueled. Keep your driver's door unlocked and other doors locked for a quick escape.
• Hide an extra set of car keys.
• Set money aside. Ask friends or family members to hold money for you.
• Pack a bag. Include an extra set of keys, IDs, car title, birth certificates, social security cards, credit cards, marriage license, clothes for yourself and your children, shoes, medications, banking information, money anything that is important to you. Store them at a trusted friend or neighbor's house. Try to avoid using the homes of next-door neighbors, close family members and mutual friends.
• Take important phone numbers of friends, relatives, doctors, schools, etc.
If time is available, also take citizenship documents (such as your passport, green card, etc.), titles, deeds and other property information, medical records, children's school and immunization records, insurance information, verification of social security numbers, welfare identification, valued pictures, jewelry or personal possessions.
• Know abuser's schedule and safe times to leave.
• Be careful when reaching out for help via Internet or telephone. Erase your Internet browsing history, websites visited for resources, e-mails sent to friends/family asking for help. If you called for help, dial another number immediately after in case abuser hits redial.
• Create a false trail. Call motels, real estate agencies and schools in a town at least six hours away from where you plan to relocate.
After Leaving the Abusive Relationship

If you get a restraining order, and the offender is leaving:
• Change your locks and phone number.
• Change your work hours and route taken to work.
• Change the route taken to transport children to school.
• Keep a certified copy of your restraining order with you at all times.
• Inform friends, neighbors and employers that you have a restraining order in effect.
• Give copies of the restraining order to employers, neighbors and schools along with a picture of the offender.
• Call law enforcement to enforce the order.
If you leave:
• Consider renting a post office box or using the address of a friend for your mail. Be aware that addresses are on restraining orders and police reports. Be careful to whom you give your new address and phone number.
• Change your work hours, if possible.
• Alert school authorities of the situation.
• Consider changing your children's schools.
• Reschedule appointments if the offender is aware of them.
• Use different stores and frequent different social spots.
• Alert neighbors, and request that they call the police if they feel you may be in danger.
• Talk to trusted people about the violence.
• Replace wooden doors with steel or metal doors. Install security systems if possible. Install a motion sensitive lighting system.
• Tell people you work with about the situation and have your calls screened by one receptionist if possible.
• Tell people who take care of your children who can pick up your children. Explain your situation to them and provide them with a copy of the restraining order.
• Call the telephone company to request caller ID. Ask that your phone number be blocked so that if you call anyone, neither your partner nor anyone else will be able to get your new, unlisted phone number.

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Rebecca Lynn - posted on 10/29/2015

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I am separated, not yet divorced. The man i have been with now, we have been together for three years. I just gave birth to our son in September of this year. I told him a couple weeks ago that this wasn't working, that this isn't healthy. That I was going to leave and that I was taking our son with me. The reason is when we argue he threatens to put his hands on me. When I told him i wanted to leave he told me i wasn't taking our son anywhere, that he would make me disappear. Now to get the full picture, he is a pimp. I met him when i was in an abusive situation, after i left my husband, and i had nowhere to go. I had no money and no friends. He filled my head with promises of protection and a better life and i was at my most vulnerable point in my life. I worked for him until i found out i was pregnant with his child and then i took normal jobs but still had to give him all my money. He has told me that he will take me to court and take full custody of our son by telling them i am unfit because i am bipolar. I am bipolar but that doesn't make me unfit. Last night he kicked a coffee table at me and then told me it was my fault. I told him his temper is not my fault. I know better, but i am scared. My husband knows of my son and i have talked to him about me leaving my situation, which he doesn't know the full extend of it all just that its abusive. He wants me to come home and i told him i would. But i have no way to get away and i am scared. I have no car, no friends, and no money. What should i do?

Kelli - posted on 08/31/2015

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Anyone know about this resolve " Last name" My children last name from father so How do need remove change to my last name because that I unmarried my boyfriend? And He still married other country Guatemala havent divorce for 6 yrs that I waited for. Seem He foolish with me and He want take my kids away from me! How!?

Kelli - posted on 08/31/2015

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Hi My name is Kelsie
Questions: Can I escape with my 2 children away from theirs father, We re not married. We together for 6 yrs. My boyfriend is still married other country Guatemala never chance to get divorce. And He very threat me like " Neglect y Negative words y insult and emotional abuse." So He want take my children away from me. So I am thinking of other way safe for me and children away from him. I don't want any trouble of this. if happen to me and children's safe. What I can do about that? Any of Law or Cop involve of that without Order court. We have none of custody our children.

Karen - posted on 06/06/2013

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contact your local domestic violence shelter. they will help you get out and to gain custody of your child. they will also help you relocate.

Ashlee - posted on 05/27/2013

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If you have never been to court over custody, then neither of you has formal custody. My husband and his ex never went to court over custody of their son, but just agreed on 50/50 visitation. One week while his son was with us, his bio mom called and said she had a sick relative and wanted to take my stepson to see him. We agreed to this and met her so she could take him for a few hours. Needless to say, that was just an excuse to get him and move to North Carolina with her family. A family member of her hers called us to tell us not to let her pick him up because she was planning to take him. At that point she had been gone with him for several hours already. We called the police and they came and took a report, but said they could do nothing since neither her or my husband had formal custody. The only way for us to get him back was to go to court and fight for custody and hope they could find her to serve her with a summons to be there. We are also in Kentucky, so we know that as long as you've never been to court over custody of your son then you can take him anywhere you please. Just remember, the same also applies to your partner. He could also take off with him and you not be able to do anything about it.

Charity - posted on 05/26/2013

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Hun I too have been there. I was in an abusive marriage for years. It doesn't change....it took my ex hitting our 15 month old daughter for me to realize i had to act! First off...I was living with him in SC and my family and everyone I knew was in MN so I completely understand the distance...its scary when you have no one to lean on.

2nd- He CANNOT have you charged with kidnapping. Thats a lie to scare you. Believe me I know it works! My ex said the same thing. IT's why I didn't leave the state (went to shelter first). ONce I did leave to MN, with my daughter, the police couldn't do a thing as she was my child as well. Legally you have every right to take your child anywhere with you. ONce you get to your friends...contact a lawyer ( they do have some through state they do it pro bono) and just tell them the situation. THat way you have your bases covered. But trust me dear...he can't have you charged with taking your own child. If you need anything or just someone to listen who understands...I am here!

HUGS

Charity

Jean - posted on 05/25/2013

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Hi Christie - I have been in your shoes - I will tell you right now IT WILL NOT GET BETTER, IT WILL NOT CHANGE, YOU HAVE GOT TO GET OUT. Your son is an innocent child. It is your responsibility to protect him any way you need to. You think your son doesn't realize what's happening, but he does, and as he gets older he will know even more. They pick up on everything! And they are scarred for life. Unfortunately I did not get out when I should have, and I damaged my 3 daughters. They saw FAR more than any child should see. They were emotionally abused by their alcoholic father, and they saw him abuse me in every way possible. I too was brainwashed into thinking he was all I had. I couldn't make it if I left. BUT I DID! Now, my daughters have seen the strong side of me and are proud of what I have done for them as well as for myself. But even if your husband is not "abusing" your son (in actuallity he IS, by abusing his son's mother), he is putting your son in danger in more ways than one.
Go online and look up shelters in your area, or go to the police station and tell them what you told us. They will advise you as to where you can go to be safe and protected from him. Then you can get settled with your friends in Florida. Please, please, please get out! Only YOU can do it, no one can do it for you. You have to do it for your son. You've got to protect that innocent child. And, often times, when a man threatens a woman like your husband has, they don't follow thru with the threat. He is manipulating you, he knows he has control over you and he knows by "using" your son as leverage, you will stay. He doesn't want to have to take care of a child full time by himself! And this doesn't mean it has to be the end for you and your husband. Maybe if he sees you mean business, he will be willing to get help. There are so many wonderful therapists out there that can help in so many ways. If you still love him and he loves you, there is always a way to work it out - but you can't do it in the environment you are in now. You have TO GET OUT! I can't stress that to you enough. Please!

If you would like to talk privately, reply and I will give you my email address. I would be happy to help you in any way I can! Remember, you brought that precious little boy into this world and it is your responsibility to keep him safe from harm. Good luck to you and stay safe -
jean

Terra - posted on 05/25/2013

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Go to the court house see if you can file for temporary custody of your son and then you could even get a restraining order on him and put down your friends address you could try it anyways. I feel like I'm in the same boat at times my husband says that I can leave at anytime but I'm not going to take the kids and I won't leave without them so he knows I'm not going anyplace so things will get better for a couple months then go bak to the same crap. But I hope that this helps you could also call some attorneys and for the free conciliation ask them how to go about leaving your husband and taking your son without getting in trouble with the law

Ukachi - posted on 05/25/2013

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He's your son too and you can leave with him especially when the father is abusive and controlling. I suggest you get some witnesses on your side, make a formal report about his abuses and then you can decide to leave with your son.

Samantha - posted on 05/24/2013

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I live in KY. If you do not have a legal binding custody agreement, which I'm assuming you do not being as you live together, he can't do anything about you leaving. He can file for custody and visitation rights with the family court system once you are gone, but remember, there is also nothing you can do to legally prevent him from coming to Florida and taking the child back to Kentucky. Until you have a legal binding custody arrangement.

Deanna - posted on 05/24/2013

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He can't. Go to a homeless shelter. They will help you get custody of the children so he can't even try to go after you with kidnapping charges.

Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 05/23/2013

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I agree with the other ladies that you need to get out. The police will not be able to do anything concerning the kidnapping issue without a custody agreement. Just remember this goes both ways though. U have a friend who was in an abusive relationship and was planning on leaving. Her husband found out and took her son. The police said she could do nothing until she went to court for a custody hearing. She went a whole year without seeing her son while battling her ex in court. She was able to prove the physical abuse and recieved full custody. If your ex wants to see the kids after you leave I would be very careful bc if left alone with him he can easily run off with them and you would have to go through the same thing my friend did

Nancy - posted on 05/23/2013

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Christie - I strongly encourage you to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE(7233) or TTY 1−800−787−3224.

If you are positive that he does not check the computer, you also may go online at http://www.thehotline.org/. They can put you in contact with your local help centers.

Praying for your safety and that you make the right decision for you and your child.

Cecilia - posted on 05/23/2013

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Yea the PFA (protection from abuse) will really depend on the judge. Most will give out a standard one which will last 30-90 days. When it runs out you have to refile. sometimes if he has not made contact since the last PFA they will not redo it.

With me, They gave me a 30 day when I filed that night. I then went to the hospital, got record of injuries and then when my refile happened I took that report and they actually gave me a 10 year PFA with my children's names. Most of the time the PFA is only listed against the mother which means the father can still go around the children as long as they are not in the mother's area. Since your son is two i doubt he will be leaving your side.

Jennifer - posted on 05/23/2013

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I was in a similar situation almost 6 yrs ago only I wasn't leaving the state. I ended up packing up my 2 kids and our clothes while he was at work and left everything else behind. I went to the court house and filed for a no contact order against him for me and my children. I was lucky...I got a judge who agreed that emotional abuse is just as bad if not worse than physical abuse. He can't get you for kidnapping you are the mother he is just trying to scare you. Don't let him win get yourself and your child out of that situation it isn't good for either of you!!!

Cecilia - posted on 05/23/2013

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Call or stop by a police station and and ask them before you run to Florida. I'm assuming he does not keep a super close watch because you did get on here. If you need to do as others have suggested and go to an abuse shelter. They will deal with any legal issues with you. After it has settled you can go to Florida if you choose or stay near by. The truth is the best option is to honestly leave the state and start over. Do it the right way though so you do not have to deal with it later.

Some shelters.will send a van to pick you up. So getting there isn't as much of an issue as you might think. it also allows you to bring a few more items.

Andrea - posted on 05/23/2013

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Call a Domestic violence shelter and get the hell out. The fact that he is abusive the police wont do anything to you, that is what the shelters are designed to handle. Even if you have family that you can stay with, go to one to cover your behind and save your kids! Now!

Lauren - posted on 05/23/2013

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One thing to note if you do leave, make sure that as you proceed with divorce proceedings (if you're married) or custody proceedings, make it clear by your actions that you are not trying to eliminate a relationship between your son and his father. Courts want to see that parents aren't trying to cut off ties, and if you demonstrate that you're in support of an agreement that allows him to develop a healthy relationship with his father, you'll be more likely to accomplish your goals. On that note, I'm not sure that running to Florida is a good idea--the distance itself goes against wanting to ensure your son still has access to his dad. I agree on the women's shelter. At the least, they'll give you a temporary home or connection.

JPatrick - posted on 05/22/2013

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You said it was emotionally abusive, not physically. If you have no fear he will resort to violence, you MAY be able to: 1) initiate divorce proceedings (if you are married -- you did not mention that), or 2) start a custody proceeding and seek sole custody -- could also seek support.

IF you move to FL and then file, that is probably not long enough for them to have jurisdiction over you (and certainly not your husband/baby-daddy). I agree with others that moving out of state or far away immediately is probably not wise until you are clear on the law (and relying on public advice on sites like these, tho everyone is well-meaning, will NOT be an excuse if you get in trouble with law enforcement or the courts later)!

Like others have said, call a lawyer (some may charge $100 or so for an initial consultation), or you can find state-specific legal help online (pay a certain $ amount for a brief question with a licensed attorney). Or, perhaps a womans' shelter will point you in the right direction as far as basic options. If you qualify as low income, there may be free legal services available, you should check that as well.

Good luck.

Robertaingram - posted on 05/22/2013

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I don't know how religious you are, but you don't need to throw the towel my dear. There are counselors at churches that can help you, even if you don't attend church. See help there first, if you are being physically abused and you must leave talk to a lawyer before you do anything.

Staci - posted on 05/22/2013

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Christie,

You didn't mention if he was your husband. If he's only the baby's father then you need to make moves. While he's out at work (assuming you know what time he returns home), make some calls (does he check the phones?). If he does go that far than have a friend make some calls for you that way he can't trace anything back to you and become suspicious. Also, if your looking anything up online, delete them. If you have a child with a disease this gives you more of a right to get away from this A-hole. Not wanting to use the disease as an excuse for help but you may get more help because of it, and faster.

There are ways around him you just need to be extremely careful. Get some things together (clothes, money, birth certificates, ss#). You may be able to have him put out and you stay there (if that's what you want). Have you ever called the police on any occasion? If so get copies of all reports. You can even call the police and ask them for help.

I'm sure there are centers for abused women and children in your area, they can also help you get out. If you stay at a friends house would he know where to find you? Would the friend crack and tell him?

Try to keep your head up and stay as strong as possible. Your son needs that.

Christine - posted on 05/22/2013

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No he can't do that,I was in the same situation and my child father told me he was going to tell court I kidnapped my own son,the Judge said I'm the mother it's not kidnapping! I told the Judge how he mistreated me and the judge wanted to offer him help,he also had supervise visitation since he was abusive to me...Just make sure you plan this out good to get our safely please!

Ceatana - posted on 05/22/2013

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If you are scared leave while he's at work go to the court house file for an injunction you will get a temporary one the same day and then you'll getva court date they will grant it for a year if the situation is really bad then they can grant it for life

Jackie - posted on 05/22/2013

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He is trying to hold you hostage by using your child.

Call your local women's domestic violence shelter and ask them. They will know your state's laws and be able to advise you. They no doubt agree that staying in any abusive relationship is unhealthy.

It couldn't hurt to have a few extra changes of clothes and as much cash as you can safely lay your hands on. Store your escape clothes and cash with a trusted friend or relative until an emergency arises.

It might be a good idea to seek a restraining order or order of protection. look into your legal options online to plan ahead and then seek out an attorney. Document any abuse: medical treatment, threatening notes, cell phone messages, etc.

For future child support/alimony, get copies of his tax forms and W2s. Those will document his income.

Staying with a "friend" might help but can draw them into a dangerous. possibly volatile situation.

He sounds like one desperate and bad dude. Be careful and make your move as quickly as possible.

Good luck.

User - posted on 05/21/2013

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First, everyone suggesting the women's shelter and taking your son with you are right!

Second, Allyson is also right. I was in a verbally/emotionally abusive marriage. When it became physical, I decided that was enough! I have three daughters, and they were adopted by him from my previous husband! He was abusive to them, also. Fortunately, they were not home during the physical altercation, but as soon as they came back, I told them to go call for help, as he had ripped the phones out of the wall. He was arrested for domestic violence and spent the night in jail. I was given an order of protection. One word of advice, though, particularly in your situation. An order of protection can have no contact at all, which includes no phone calls. If he calls you, even with the order of protection, call the police! If you do not, he will continue to do it. That was one mistake I made, then let him talk me into dropping the order of protection. They are great manipulators! Good luck! I will be praying for you and your son, as I have been there!

My daughter has 2 children by a man that threatened to take them away from her, too. We have friends in law enforcement and found out if there is no custody order, there is nothing they can do. Whoever has them can basically go where ever they want with them. My daughter refused to let their father go anywhere with the children. If he wanted to see them he had to visit them at her house. He has not seen them in over 2 months!

Amy - posted on 05/21/2013

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I would not leave the state with your child. Most states require you to be a resident for 6 months to a year before they have jurisdiction. So if you leave KY your partner can file there since technically they probably hold jurisdiction and it could look bad on your part for leaving especially if you don't have solid proof. I would call a shelter or get a consultation with an attorney, when you leave you can file for custody and child support.

VintageVixens - posted on 05/21/2013

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Hi Christie
I went through the same thin when I ended my first marriage, my ex-husband did jail time for breaking bones.
First and foremost, DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES LEAVE YOUR CHILD BEHIND!!!! this will end up in front of a judge in the end and that action willbe seen as parental abandonment, and your child will end up in the custody of his father.
Since there isno current custody order in effect in any court and I am assuming you have his birthcertificate to prove you are his mother, your son is essentially a free agent and either parent can go where ever they want with him. That said however, wwhile it is great that you have such a good friend who wnts to help you, it may not be the best idea to go and stay with her.People who are controlling and abusive are very unpredictable, I am sure you've told him you plan to leave the state hence the kidnapping threat, if he comes home and finds you and the boy gone, he may very well come looking for what he beleives to be his property, and not only would you be in danger, but your friend and her family would be put in danger also. Find a domestic violence shelter. They do not publish their loctaion for obvious reasons you have to call them and do a phone intake to find a physical address for them. they won't let anyone know where you are, and there will be professional security there (usually it is done by off duty police officers looking to pick up extra money) they will have services avaiable for you and your son such as counseling for both of you, job training, people that can help you file legal petitions to obtain custody of your child, and even advocates to go with you to court proceedings and make sure he doesn't try to bully you in the hallway outside and community based resources to help you to get stabilized and ready to be on your own. many of the staff have been where you are, so when they say I know how you feel its because they really do. The first 90 days is like your adjustment time, they don't throw stuff at you all at once, they give you that time to come to terms with all thats happened and where you are and realize that you and your son are safe now and will be ok, after that, the process of working through everything will begin. I really think this will be the best option or you. If you decide to leave the state, my advice is find a safe house there. shelters all run off the same model pretty much, and it will keep your friend out of harms way, also file a custody petition as soon as you get there to establish the case where you are, and make him come to you, otherwise the time and travel burden will be on you if he gets to the court house first.

Marie - posted on 05/21/2013

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Nope he sure cant if there's no custody agreement in place it's not considered kidnapping by law. I did the same thing and the police told him sorry there's no custody so it's not kidnapping:-)

Christina - posted on 05/21/2013

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not sure the laws in kentucky, but so long as he is your child i don't believe it is kidnapping. you can call the police (non-emergency number) and ask them what the law is in regards to taking your son over state lines without his father's permission. i believe as long as there isn't a custody agreement already in effect prohibiting you to do so, that you are allowed to take him anywhere within the U.S. i've called the police in my town many times to find out what the laws are when it comes to dealing with the other parent, and they have always been very helpful.

Alicia - posted on 05/21/2013

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find help. try and find a womens shelter in the city closest to you. let them know that your running from an abusive relationship and they wont tell anyone that your there. do not leave your son behind. talk to legal aid or call the non emergency number for the police or social services while he's not home and ask them for advice. take only what you need. some clothes for you and your son, diapers if hes not potty trained. leave everything else behind for now. if you have money in your bank account take it out and have cash on hand so if you need anything a friend can go get it for you so he cant run into you in a store or something. i live in canada and things are different here but there is help out there get some as soon as possible you dont need that crap. let the police know that your leaving an abusive situation and where your going that way if he does try to file kidnapping charges they wont go anywhere.

i hope that this helps and that you get out soon while your partner is feeling secure.

Diana - posted on 05/21/2013

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The ladies below have offered some great advice. I would not advise you to leave your child behind. In PA it can be considered "abandonment" even if your intention is to come back for him. Now, I'm not sure if there is a limit as far as you leaving him for a few hours, days, weeks, or months to be considered abandonment which could make it more difficult to get him back (The law's thought is "If you thought it was so bad that you had to leave, why would you leave your child behind?"). I know that in certain situation in PA they will also tell you that it's not kidnapping if there is no court order about custody. I'm not saying that you should do it anyway, but the laws in each state are different.

Contacting a woman's shelter/Domestic violence crisis center & preparing the Dr. Phil kit that Allyson Avery posted are probably the best places to start. (I know our local hospital has contact information in every bathroom stall in the ladies' bathrooms.)

Good luck & God Bless you.

Kimberly - posted on 05/21/2013

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Get in touch with a local woman's shelter and/or domestic violence hotline. They will be able to help you find a lawyer and will keep you safe. Emotional abuse is hard to take and much harder to prove. While he is at work you should start getting things together. Pack a few bags and keep them hidden.

In many states, you CANNOT cross state lines with a child unless both parents know and agree otherwise you can be charged with kidnapping. I know in FL, you have to have the consent of the other parent to leave the state with the children. Do it smart so you don't lose your child to an abusive parent.

Good luck.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/20/2013

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No. You will not be charged with kidnapping. It is your child. I would call a lawyer in Florida, and on in Kentucky and ask them legally what he can do. Good luck. I really hope you get out. Don't leave your son behind if you leave. Don't leave without him.

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