how can i make my other two children understand that there sister does not understand things the way they do?

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Kimberly - posted on 04/18/2012

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i like this bt kaylee is7 and she is the one with the disability she is the middle child

Maggie - posted on 04/18/2012

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are the older kids in any activities. It might helped to get them into a sport or activity after school? It might help relieve some of the fustration they have between each other. Just like we need breaks from our kids and from our partners and friends. I would assume sometimes sibling need breaks from each other and other activitites and things they can do and call there own.

Kimberly - posted on 04/18/2012

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thx for ur imput, bt my main problem is that my 7 year old thinks like a 3 year old she gets very mad when her little sister who is 5 can do things that she can not do simple things like undress or tie her shoes. my 5 year old get anoyed that she trys to teach her big sister thing bt she still does not get it and my 10 year old just things shes alawys in the way because she cant play the games he can or she starts fighting with him because she wants to play n he wont let her because she does kw how to play it im just really fed up with all the fighting. they can never go two seconds with out fighting and someone crying what should i do?

Maggie - posted on 04/11/2012

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Sherri I was just saying all kids are different and learn at different paces. They can learn from each other, but it takes time for them to learn and while they learn somethings quickly other things come in slower paces. Its amazing to see you care for so many kids. My dream family is 4 kids. So far I only have my two. I also babysit children of many age groups 6months-14 years old, but I still feel they are all unique and different. The older they are the more they seem to understand alike, but that isnt always the case.

Sherri - posted on 04/11/2012

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Your right it is an age difference and actually I have children virtually the same age difference as hers so I was speaking from experience. I have 4 kids 15, 13, 6 and newborn. I also do daycare for twin 3yr olds and twin 7yr olds.

Maggie - posted on 04/11/2012

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Its an age difference. Even if it doesnt seem like many years they have learned so much more than her. There learning at different paces. My 16 month old knows to throw things away in the trash, but doesnt understand that all things that look like paper like flashcards and pictures arent always trash. A clean diaper is not trash. She doesnt understand that yet so when she sees these things she says trash or I find them in the trash. But my 2 year old nephew knows that these same items arent trash and will come up to me to tell me that my daughter has thrown a flash card in the trash. Same concept. They are just a bit more knowledgable.

Sherri - posted on 04/11/2012

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Why doesn't a 5yr old understand things the way a 7 or 10yr old does? 7 isn't really that much of a difference from 5 and honestly 10 isn't either. I think you need to elaborate further as what exactly the problem is.

Maggie - posted on 04/11/2012

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I only have 2 babies and they are under 2 years old.

But I would suggest if they arent understanding that your youngest doesnt understand things the way they do.

Maybe instead of saying she doesnt understand like you do.

Maybe say to them that she is still little and still learning right from wrong and good from bad. Maybe tell them to help her, show her, because she doesnt know how to do whatever it is she is doing.

Remind them that they are older and are the big boy and girl of the family, big brother and sister to there baby sister and need to help her or show her how to do things because she is little and still learning. Tell them she will understand things better when she is a bigger just like them.

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