How Can I stop the Dislike I have for my STEPSON?

Lissa - posted on 10/21/2012 ( 15 moms have responded )

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My husband and I have been married for almost a yr and half.. he has a 4 year old. He barely comes to our house because I cant stand the sight of this little boy all because I cant stand his mother. I hate the fact that my husband had a baby with the girl before we had got together. His baby mama is so rude to my husband. She know better than to be rude with me, I dont play that. My OVERWHELMING DISLIKE for her has caused me to not want to have anything to do with my husband son. Yea, yea yea... i know that my husband had a child with someone before me and i know that if i married him, it was a package deal but i didnt know the extent of the situation. I didnt know that she would force her other son on my husband, in which, that one is not even my husband son. I have a 6 yr old which is not his, a 5 mth old which is his and i feel like my family is complete with just us 4...without his son! When his son comes around, its like he breaks my husband and I bond...alll we do is fuss about me not wanting him around. Time i get used to this little boy not being around, here he comes....BREAKING UP what we have established. What can i do to get over feeling like this about this 4 year old? hes innocent. Its his stupid mama i cant stand

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Firebird - posted on 10/21/2012

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If you didn't want to be a step mom, you had no business marrying a man with a child. What a horrible, selfish person you are. By the way, no "grown ass woman" that I know still speaks like a whiny immature 16 year old.

Jodi - posted on 10/21/2012

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Anyone who can call their 4 year old step child a "bad ass lil boy" because they don't like or get along with the biological mother has absolutely no business being near children. "Grown ass woman" bullshit. As I said, this has to be a joke, because my mind can't resonate the fact that you may actually be a real person with an attitude like this. It is sickening.

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Dove - posted on 10/21/2012

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You sound like a cold, heartless bitch and I didn't even read half of what you wrote yet. I pray you are a troll, but on the off chance that you aren't... get a divorce and give your husband full custody of the baby you share together because any woman that can hate a 4 year old doesn't need to be a mother.

Lissa - posted on 10/21/2012

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lmao. whatever. i am a grown ass woman. hell no, i dont want this bad ass lil boy nowhere around... & the only way i'll get over it is if he never comes around me again

Lacye - posted on 10/21/2012

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So in another words, you have absolutely no reason to dislike this child. So you are just being extremely selfish and just want somebody to make you feel ok about hating a child that has personally done nothing to you.



Of course he's going to want attention from his father when he comes over. He doesn't get to see him that often. And obviously his dad wants to spend time with him.



Another thing, nobody cares if you like your husband's ex because that situation has nothing to do with you. You can hate her til the cows come home. It's not going to change anything.



Grow up!

Firebird - posted on 10/21/2012

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The more you write Lissa, the worse you sound. This is clearly beyond any help we can give you. You need to enlist a professional to help you find some way to bond with your stepson. There are obviously some issues within you that need to be worked out. Go see a therapist.

Lissa - posted on 10/21/2012

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the child requires wayyyyyyy too much attention. wayyyyy too much. when hes around, my husband cant focus on anyone except for him. he leaves us out, the lil boy is BAD. i dont wanna b a second mom to anybody kids. he has no home training and is very rude. im glad we're moving far away from them so we wont hv to b seeing them

Lissa - posted on 10/21/2012

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lacye...he doesnt care that i dont care for his child, he knows it. everyone knows that me and his baby mother dont like each other... HELL NO, i dont like her, I know the child cant help who his mom is...but shes a bitch! as long as my husband cares for his son i dont hv too. i only help him worry bout mines

Lacye - posted on 10/21/2012

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Once again, Lissa, it's not fair to this CHILD to receive your hatred when he has done nothing wrong.



And how exactly does he "break the bond" with your husband? Does he act out? Does he purposely try to leave you out of activities? That makes no sense.

Michelle - posted on 10/21/2012

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How old are you? Real life is a lot different to high school and it sounds like you are stuck there.



He is a child. How can you hate a child? I congratulate your husband for being in his son's life, a lot of men aren't. I would hope that if you made him choose between his son and you that he would choose his son.

Lissa - posted on 10/21/2012

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Look..."jodi". YES, i feel this way towards a 4 yr old. i didnt write this to be criticized about it. I actually want tips on how to come to some common ground about it...and actually get over it without getting mad that hes even around every time i see him. I didnt say that she forces my husband son on him...you misunderstood! I said that she forces HER son...her son, that she doesnt have with husband, ON MY husband. she also has a 7 yr old which is not my husband...makes him call him dad...I DISLIKE THE GIRL SO MUCH THAT I DONT WANT HER son around. he breaks the bond my husband has

Lacye - posted on 10/21/2012

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You can get over yourself. That child can't help who his mother is. You don't like her. OH WELL. I don't like my husband's ex but I'm not going to take that out on his daughter. Even you admitted that you knew it was a packaged deal. Let's hope your husband wakes up one day and sees how you really feel about his child.

Jodi - posted on 10/21/2012

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WHY did you marry this man if you hate the fact your husband had a baby before you got together? How awful of you to feel so horribly towards a 4 year old little boy. You didn't know she would FORCE her son on your husband? Jesus, lady, this is HIS KID TOO!!! She shouldn't HAVE to force the child on to him. Grow the fuck up!!!! Please tell me this post is a joke, because if it isn't, it is the most selfish post I've seen in a LONG time. How would YOU feel if he felt the same way about your 6 year old?

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