How can i teach my 2 year old that what she says hurts?

Victoria - posted on 07/13/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




My 2 year old daughter has recently been using the sentence "i hate you mummy" she has learnt this from her older brother and i have tried to ignore this and also i have told her it upsets mummy and as well as that whenever she does say this to me i tell her that i love her very much.If anyone has any advice that i could use to try and get her to stop saying these hurtful words they would be much appreciated thank you. She does not attend any kindy,pre-school or other care i am with her 24/7 as she is an extremely shy child


Lucy - posted on 07/14/2011




My son recently cottoned on to the word "stupid"... for a few days everyone and everything was stupid, and of course I wanted to stop that before he managed to offend anyone! So I told him that stupid is not a nice word and I didn't want to hear him using it. From then on I just ignored it whenever he said it and made a point of having good conversation with him when he was talking nicely. Within a couple of days he had stopped saying it, and it hasn't come up since then. Perhaps this approach would help?

It may be that the person you really need to talk to is your older son, as he knows what the words mean and is probably more able to understand that it is hurtful, and also that he is setting a bad example for his little sister who probably doesn't really even know what she is saying.

Jenn - posted on 07/13/2011




Non reaction is the best reaction other to simply tell her that you love her and always will. Kids try negative stuff to see how we respond. She will move onto something else once she sees that you don't react negatively. Young siblings chirp what they hear and often don't even understand what or why!

Amy - posted on 07/13/2011




When my son went through that stage I just replied, well I love you and then I would walk away. It stopped after awhile of not getting any reaction out of me. Now at 5 when he says something that isn't nice I just stop talking to him, he hates being ignored so I get an apology pretty quick.


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Dawn - posted on 07/14/2011




May seem a bit extreme but a 2 minute time out never hurt anyone. I used that when my son went through that stage, he was 3. He's now 9 and a very well behaved boy. :)

Victoria - posted on 07/13/2011




Awsome thanks i will continue with telling her i love her and walking away :)

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