how can my 25 yr old blind son pass the time every day?

Christine - posted on 09/27/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son Tim was born 1 lb and 15 oz twenty-five years ago, he had various problems because of his prematurity. One problem that he has is perception! Tim was and still is perceptively impaired. When Tim turned 21yrs old he became totally blind. He went to a Blind school in KY but because of his perception problem he could never master braille or aquire a seeing eye dog. He tried to live in a apartment by himself,but that did not work out for him (he was held up at knife point once & robbed 2 other times) so he now lives with me in NC. My problem is he has nothing to do all day long and is very frustrated and bored. We tried to have him volunteer at a kennel around the corner where we live , but they don't seem open to it because of the liability!! all he wanted to do was play with their dogs and maybe brush them. I do not know what to do for him? We have never found another person that could relate to his disabilities. Tim has never had a real friend, drove a car or dated a girl. He wants a job so bad. I wish I had a lot of money, so that I could buy a business and cut out a little job for him so that he could feel useful....we have wrote to Dr Phil 3x but no answer. Can anybody help????

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Christine - posted on 10/02/2012

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It is both visual and mental (for instance, if tim were to step on your feet he wouldn't know that he even did this also, if tim walked up on the back of your shoes while walking in a mall he wouldn't know that either) So when he was young the kids just didn't understand and they thought he did this on purpose.

Rebekah - posted on 09/30/2012

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Sorry i couldn't be more helpful. I guess I don't know what you mean by a perception problem. I know of visual perception (as in "depth perception") and mental perception, as in how you interpret things. But I guess I don't know what specifically your son struggles with. Keep searching.... I hope you find the answer for what he needs!

Christine - posted on 09/29/2012

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Dear Rebekah, How nice of you to reply, The school is not interested in helping my son anymore. They have done all that they can do. You see they are used to helping just blind people, not blind people with perception problems. Perception is 80% of every day life, and if you are impaired that way it is very difficult to live life normally. The federation of the Blind are the same way, My son Tim to them appears lazy and unmoviated and that can't be further from the truth..... Thanks for trying to help. Chris Muro

Rebekah - posted on 09/28/2012

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Did the blind school have any resources that they could connect him with to prepare him for this stage in his life? Even if he is not attending there anymore, do they have anyone you could consult with for ideas? Are you familiar with the American Foundation for the Blind? (if you are in the US) Doing a quick scan at the website, they have some job resources. I don't have personal experience with this group, but it may be worth checking it out and seeing if it can be of use to your son.

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