Donna - posted on 12/07/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
My husband and I have a blended family since 2001. He went through a nasty divorce with 3 kids and I have 2. 4 boys and a girl. The boys all live with us, and range in a ages from 21 to 16. 2 of our boys have graduated, one is a senior headed to college, but the last one is 16 and has so many issues. Our ex's did not help our situation at all by allowing and ignoring such behaviors that it has been twice the work to get it to stop once they get home. Most of the kids have figured it out. This one, not so much. He fails at school, and he is on an IEP. Always late or skipping to hang with his buddies in the parking lot at school. We have a rule in our house that to drive and have your license, you need C's or better. He managed this once, so he could get into drivers education, but failed his classes so he could not drive. We lined up tutors for after school because he says he does not understand Geometry. He goes to the library, calls his dad when he is there, and then leaves to go hang with the buddies. He called me evil, and gets upset because I help his dad to see his grades, and what he does at school. I talk to teachers and find out he lies to them. My husband has even taken days off work, and gone to every class that he has at school with him. He has taken swings at me in the past and I am afraid that we are coming to again. Once we do get somewhere, he goes to visit his mom for the weekend ( will not tell us if she is there or not, she lies about it too) and comes back even more belligerent than he was when he left. We have given privileges back just to see if he would get better, but does not. He is always trying to shove it down our throats that it would be best to let him quit school, go live with his mom, so he can work and drive a dump truck for a living. He thinks he gets it, but he doesn't. We are so stuck. Anyone have any ideas?