How can you get over the father of your child

Joann - posted on 10/04/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I need help getting over my ex which is the father of my baby. He broke up with me a few times already and I always try to get back with him cuz I think it would be better for my baby girl if we stay together. He doesn't visit my daughter that much and doesn't help me financially at all. I keep feeling this glimmer of hope that he still love me. It's so hard to get over him specially if I see him sometimes when he visit her daughter sometimes. My family and my friends keep ontelling me that I deserve someone better but I'm having trouble getting over him. Any advice?

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Joann - posted on 10/06/2013

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Thanks Evelyn for the advice. I know it's gonna be tough but I have to keep reminding myself to focus to myself and my daughter. Thank you!

Ev - posted on 10/05/2013

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Get a good look at the picture. He has left you a few times you have said. He never spends time with your daughter. He never helps with supporting her. It is apparent he does not want anything to do with this. What you need to do is focus on your baby and not him. Put all your love, attention, and work into her to make her life the best that it can be. BUT take his arse to court and get him for child support, visitation and make sure you get full custody. You may never get him back but you do have the next up to 18 years with him because of this child. You do not have to deal with him but only for her benefit. And please take this advice because I have seen this too often: Do not go looking for another man to be in your life. Its hard enough this baby is not going to have her own father around that much and getting involved with other people who come and go will make her life unbearable. Its hard to find someone to love and raise kids with only to have them leave you through a divorce or even the relationship let alone try to have another love in your life. That child is the only love you need at this point. In time you will get over him, but for now focus on that baby.

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