How close in age are your kids?

Toni - posted on 06/13/2012 ( 218 moms have responded )

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My kids are 19 mths and 5mths old and I get comments all the time about how close they r in age and that we didn't waste anytime. I don't know how I feel about this. Sometimes I think its just shock but there r people out there that their kids r way closer than my 2. Plus I want to have another child and people r just like y? don't u know how expensive kids r? but they don't know me they don't know how much money I make. U already have a boy and girl y would u have a third? I guess I'm just sick of it. I want my kids all to be close in age so they can go to school together and hopefully be close friends.

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Stephanie - posted on 07/29/2012

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People always have an opinion! I'm dreading telling certain people that I am pregnant, I have a 12 week old boy and an 11 year old boy. We didn't really plan it this way but we were definitely having another anyway and it wouldn't have been that long before we would have planned. I am nervous obviously but we will all pull together and help each other.

Its your choice on how you space your children and how many you have!

Liz - posted on 06/13/2012

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My first two are 19 months apart, then there are 16 months between number 2 and number 3, and then 18 months between number 3 and number 4. So, my oldest was 4.5 when my youngest was born. At times it is CRAZY in my house, and I feel very overwhelmed. My oldest is now starting to be able to do certain things for himself, and so is my second. But my other two...well my third son is psycho (my husband and I joke about this, of course) and my youngest just started crawling a couple of months ago. I would like to have another girl (my oldest 3 are boys) just so that my daughter isn't alone and doesn't end up being just like her brothers. BUT I do want to wait awhile. She is going to be 1 next week, so this is the longest I've gone between kids without being pregnant!

One of my friends is pregnant with her third, and her oldest turned 2 in January and her second turned one in April. Everyone thinks that they were surprises, but they were all planned and she loves it.

Danna - posted on 06/13/2012

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my girls are 13 months apart i found out i was 4 weeks pregnant when allie was 4 months old big shock but now i would not have had it any other way they are 4 and 5 now and they are best friends. i love that they are so close. and i also want another child i get negative feed back as well like why would you want to start over they are starting school and its time for a break well my response it this is my life i will live it the way i feel the need to do it and so should you. i have always said if someone ever waits until they have enough money to have a child they will never have one its not about how much money it takes to raise one because no matter what when your child needs something you always find a way to make it work and for me even if it breaks me to see the smile on their face makes it all the more worth it. good luck and do not let anyone discourage you god gave us mother instincts for a reason so that we can have children and use the instincts.

Kaitlin - posted on 06/13/2012

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my first two are 12 months apart, and within the month I will have three under three for three months (my oldest's birthday is sept 23rd, and he'll be 3). I like it. People can bugger off.

People don't get that I WANTED children this close in age. People have talked to me about how they must all be 'mistakes'. Um, excuse me, no, my husband and I chart so we know when we ovulate so we can have children.

Julie - posted on 07/04/2012

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I shot for a two year spread and got two boys just under 3 years apart. For me, I thank god. They are best of friends and JUST far enough apart not to be to competitive.
Do not put any real thought into other peoples opinions. There is no "right or wrong" except what works for you. Or, what works AT ALL in most cases. As much as women may want to "plan the spread, it's ultimately up to mother nature to decide."

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Natalie - posted on 02/18/2014

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I have a 13 yr old daughter a 10 yr old boy a 6 month old baby boy and just found out im 8 weeks pregnant and ive just turnt 30. I love that I have 2 that are older and close in age and now ill have another 2 close in age..

Kayla - posted on 07/29/2012

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My sister has 2 kids that are 10 months apart! It was difficult for her at first, but now they are older and they are best friends. My kids are 20 months apart and I am due with the 3rd in February 2013 so my youngest and this baby will be 15 months apart. Honestly, I wouldn't have it any other way. I get comments like that too. And about the 'don't you know how expensive kids are' in your original post.. Do these people think kids cost less if they are farther apart in age?? LOL

Brittany - posted on 07/29/2012

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Bella is about to be 3.
(july 31st, 2009)

Braden is 1
(may 27th, 2011)

expecting
(march 11th, 2013)

Viridiana - posted on 07/29/2012

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I have a 6yr old, a 7mo old and i am due in Jan 2013.I go through the same thing all the time from rude comments my mother and my mom in law say. They always ask why we want more children and how close in age they are. I am also sick of it but my husband and i do what we want.... we take care of them anyway they dont. I say ignore the rude comments and do what makes YOU happy.
take care
Viri

Caitlyn - posted on 07/22/2012

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My 2 boys are 16 months apart. My eldest is now 2 years and 8 months and my youngest is 16 months old. I love my boys like crazy and my husband and I planned this age gap. If I had gotten pregnant when we actually wanted to, there would only be a 13 month age gap but it took me longer to get pregnant second time round!

Kitkat - posted on 07/22/2012

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My kids are 11 , 6, & 5 my two youngest are 10 months apart born May 06 and March 07 :) and darn Proud of it too woo hoo!!!

Michelle - posted on 07/22/2012

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My step son turned one the week after my daughter was born 13 months later i had my second daughter. Then there is a 2 week shy of 2 years gap between my 2nd and 3 daughters. My 3 rd daughter will be 13 months 12 days when i am due with daughter number 4. So the kids at my house are 5,4, almost 2y 11 months and 11 months old. due in sept.

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You dot NOThave to explain, or defend your family to anyone. When people start with, "Do you mind if I ask a personal question?" it never ends well. So, you can say, " yes, I do mind," or, "I love this game, let me go first!" people don't like be ASKED personal question, but love asking them.

Elda - posted on 07/21/2012

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My sister and i are only 18 months apart and www are and have always been the best of friends. I'm 30yo now and have a 15yo. I waited 7 yrs then had my son. Only 18 months later we had my youngest daughter. The oldest is great with them and the 2 younger ones were inseparable! I love having them close in age. I also have step daughters. So their ages are 15, 12, 9, 8, and 6. Its no ones business how many or how often you have kids. You're not asking for their support. You have those babies and cherish every moment. Time flies so fast!

Melissa - posted on 07/20/2012

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My boys are 3 and 2 they are only a year and 5 months apart and i love it...

Karen - posted on 07/19/2012

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My kids are 23 months apart. My son just turned 2 last month and my daughter is 9 weeks old. If you want another child, that is your choice and people should take the "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" saying into account. Good Luck! May God bless you and your family!

Suzanne - posted on 07/19/2012

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I have 4 kids and they are close in age too. I had this same reaction from people. They should mind their negative thoughts to themselves. Lately I have been getting a lot of positive feedback from moms who waited years in between. Its nice either way. Lets remember the old saying " If you have nothing good to say then don't say anything at all!"

Helen - posted on 07/18/2012

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I have a 9 year old, an 8 year old, a 7 year old, and twin 6 year olds (5 10/12). I got pregnant 6 months after each birth and people bring it up all the time. I have just gotten use to it. Believe me having five children three and under was not fun and we lived in diapers and pullups for years. just do what is best for you and your family :)

Christina - posted on 07/18/2012

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That is so rude! I know how you feel due to I have twins and get crude comments! It isn't worth it girl. I had one pregnant lady say to her hubby while we were passing glad that isn't us! I wanted to go back and say something so bad like well God blessed me with two cuz you couldn't handle it! UGH! We now get you have your hands full, glad its you and not me, and wow two! Seriously, just keep your mouth shut! We do as well get you have a boy/girl you are done right? We are wanting to have more too and soon I do not want my kids to be far in age either. I am sick of it too but sometimes you just have to grin and move on, you know. I understand girl and I am sorry.

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My kids are also only 14 months apart and I planned it that way and I wouldn't change it for anything. My kids are very close, they (sometimes, not always) play well together, they share interests and we as a family are able to do a lot more things because they are close in age and don't have to spend a lot of time trying to accomodate a range of ages. When I was pregnant, I had one person actually ask me if I knew how birth control worked. People are totally obnoxious and rude. Go back 20-50 years and take a look at your/thier parents or grandparents - how far apart are they from thier siblings? You need to do what is right for your family and if that means having 12 kids within 15 years than so be it - It is not anyone else's business.

Emily - posted on 07/17/2012

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Hi guys Ive just joined the site tonight so just wanted to post a quicky in here. My #1 son was 18 mths old when my #2 was born. Then my #1 was 3yrs mths #2 was 2weeks off his 2nd birthday when out triplet daughters were born. I do love them all being close together but it's by no means easy. Having a meltdown tonight as we speak so Im gonna get some sleep and post in the morning x Yey I've finally found a forum where I can speak to other mums :)

Drea - posted on 07/17/2012

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My girls are 16 and 1 (WOW!) Most all my friends kids are just about grown and our of the house. I'm so tired of hearing people say "wow you're starting all over" "you were almost done, now another 18yrs" "better you than me, my kids are grown & I have my life back" just all kinds of discouraging things. Granted my baby was a TOTAL shock after 15yrs, but she is still a blessing all the same and I know God has a purpose for her life. But people can be so stupid & inconsiderate.

Katelyn - posted on 07/17/2012

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My two boys are 17 months apart. My oldest turned 3 in Feb. and my youngest turned 2 in this month, and now we're 20 weeks pregnant with our 3rd. I didn't care what anybody thought about my two being so close. I knew that since I was having my second so close to my first that I wouldn't have all the worries running through my head that I do now. Like "How will I keep them away from her/him? Will they hurt her/him?" Because with my first still being so young when my second was born, I didn't have to worry about that. I wanted my kids close. That way they could grow up together and play together, and go to school together. They are awesome kids. Yes they fight all the time now but I wouldn't have it any other way! :) Just keep your head up. When they grow up and are in high school, do you think anybody is gonna care how close they are? lol No. Good luck!

User - posted on 07/17/2012

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hi my kids are exactly 10months apart i have a 16monthold and a 6month old both born in the same year. Both them are like best friends and have each other to keep themselves entertained if im doing lunch or washing bottles. i have been told many a time that it was too close and i have the equivalent of irish twins. im more than happy in my life and wouldnt have done it any other way x

Monica - posted on 07/15/2012

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My husband and myself didn't want to waste any time either, especially since my first pregnancy ended with a miscarriage. I have two daughters now, the 2nd being born two months premature, so their about the same age difference as yours. Both are perfectly healthy and have become best friends because they share many things and have a lot in common. For instance, because they're so close in age, they're often placed on the same recreation sports team. Last year they were on the same rec soccer team, which my husband had the opportunity to coach and the won the championship. We wouldn't have had them any other way, and feel very blessed.

Angela - posted on 07/11/2012

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I have two kids my daughter is 14 months olds and my son is four months olds and i just found out I'm pregnant again when i have this baby my son will be 14 months old al three of my kids are a year year apart this is going to be very difficult for me i need people to talk to not too judge me any ideas on how to help Mr through this please let me know

Kristin - posted on 07/11/2012

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My sister and I are 1 1/2 years apart. My brother and I are 5 years alert. I am thee youngest. Growing up, we hated eachother. Even though we played together when we were little,when I was around 6, it all changed. My sister hated me and made sure I knew it. She would hit me, pull my hair.... when we were teenagers, we didn't like eachother and weren't close. We all got close when we were all over 18.

My step kids ware 3 years apart, 10 and 13. Its awful how they treat eachother everyday. But once they are older, they will be civil.

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Mine are 25 months apart (also a boy and girl) and even I get those comments. People will always comment there isn't much we can do about it.

When ever people bring up money, I also point out how flawed those numbers are. They take into account all new baby items and clothes, disposable diapers, formula, daycare, jarred baby food, as well as any odd or end that says baby. Most of that stuff you never buy.

Jodi - posted on 07/10/2012

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My children are 17 months apart in age.

How much more ruder can people be with these questions! Absolutely none are any of their business! It all should be as to what YOU can handle. Two children both in diapers is tough, thats for sure. But, its so nice to have them growing up together and very close.

Stephanie - posted on 07/10/2012

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My DD will be 2 yrs. 7 months when this next one arrives. I personally like my kids spaced out a bit. I liked having individual time with my first one, and she will be able to be a great big sister when the new one arrives. I like spacing them out for the cost of day care as well. But mainly its about enjoying each one as we build our family, giving my husband and I time to catch our breath a little. At the end of the day its really only important to space them out in a way you feel comfortable! :)

Mary - posted on 07/07/2012

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I actually have six children. The oldest is 26 and my only girl is 17, then I have four boys that are 14, twins 12 1/2, and an 11 year old. Yes I have four boys in the span of 3 years. The twins and the youngest are accused of being triplets quite a bit!! When I was pregnant with the last one and had the twins in pumpkin seats, I was asked if I knew what caused it and if I knew how to stop it!! I would just tell them I wanted half a dozen kids and wasn't going to stop until I got them! That usually shut them up. I have been accused of being the lady that had all those foster kids but I just looked at them and said "No they are all mine!!" Every person is different and really it is none of their business of how close you have your children or if you don't. Just because you don't fit THEIR idea of normal doesn't mean your view is wrong. We are all different, don't worry about it!!

Abii - posted on 07/07/2012

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I have a 2year old and a 9month old.
I wanted another one when my youngest was 10weeks old but got told by my GP to wait atleast two years before having another because of how close the boys are.

Maribel - posted on 07/06/2012

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i agree my kids are 5 month & old & 4 yr old my 4 yr old plays on his own when i get busy and i wish i couldve got pregnant sooner, i play with him often but kids are energized bunnies nothing better then having a little brother having the entire energy he has.. playing superheros for a long time cna be tireding ! and things hv to be done at home lol . my son always asks when is he goign to be able to play with his brother .. but i guess not anytime... he will be over it once school starts next yr. well that is tht & kids are a gift of god its never too late too make babies esp if you can afford them & are going to love them as a good parents =) if you can do it why not ! its always cute to have to them close together . & if you have the patience why nto =))

Chelsea Ann - posted on 07/06/2012

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ha mine are only 10 monthe apart feb 23 dec 23 lol i get those comments to but screw them i love my kids and the more they grow the awesomer it seems the age diff is so itl be ok i promise

Clarinda - posted on 07/05/2012

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My first 2 are 15 months apart my middle 2 are 1yr apart and my last are 2 in a half yrs apart so I have a 6, 5, 4 & 1yr old and its Awesome don't evr let anyone tell you anything it is your life! If I could have just 1 more I would but cant:(

Leslie - posted on 07/04/2012

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I've always wanted to have kids close in age! My first daughter is 4 and our second is due in January so They will almost be five years apart. My husband and I wanted to have our children closer together but due to circumstances and such it just hasn't been possible, and we will still need to be very careful at this point but I think having children close in age can be very wonderful!

Plus I kind of notice I will be basically starting over. We waited long enough that we got rid of/ gave away most baby things and my oldest can do so much by herself, like getting dressed and getting to the bathroom. She's learned so much and now with a new little one I will be doing it all over. If they were closer they could have gone through stages together!

Angela - posted on 07/03/2012

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I hear you I am on my 4th pregnancy, both my partner and I are from families with big age gaps and are not close with our sibling we made a decision to have ours close. Our first 2 were meant to be 20 months apart and are 14 months apart as they said it would take time to fall pregnant ( man were they wrong), my second and third are 22 months apart and my 3rd and the twins will be 22 months apart too, this means I will have my kids at the ages 4 and a half, 3 and a half, 20 months and twin newborns, I will have 5 under 5 and I may be crazy but I would not have it any other way they all love each other and hang out and do things together all the time, it is amazing to see. I have always had 2 in nappies or on bottles but now when the twins are born will have all toilet trained and off bottles as they are learning from each other, days are just a matter of planning and juggling and finding time to spend with each kid doing something special but my hubby works away 4 and 2 and I manage. We love our life of Chaos. In the end it is your life, we don;t care what people say we love our life and if you want a third good on you, it is not about money people used to have 12 and 13 kids close and on no money or without help from payments and such. We get told all the time do we know what causes it and need to get fixed but it annoys us that people think we are careless, we are insane not careless LOL !!

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mine are 15 months apart. They are generally the best of friends (both boys) but they can be the worst enemies too. Don't let other people's comments bother you. In the end, it's you raising them and paying for them, so what business is it of anybody else?

Angela - posted on 07/02/2012

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There is nothing wrong with having children close together I have 5, an 8 year old, 7 year old, 6 year old 2 year old 9 months old. And I am very happy it is really hard work but I really love having them all.

So you do what you think is best for you and your family.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 07/02/2012

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My kids are 12 years apart! lol



However, there is nothing wrong with having them close together either. I can see benefit, actually. Like, getting all the diapers and stuff over with at once! lol



As long as you can do it, then go for it!



I also, like the idea of them being close in age for growing up together. I won't have this benefit, unless we have another (which we are not sure of). I was an only child and I would have loved to have had a close in age sister or brother. ;)



Two of my uncles are only 10 months apart (yes from the same mother). Absolutely, no waiting involved there - I wonder how they pulled that one off, sometimes! hehehee

Louise - posted on 07/02/2012

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people r rude,i get those comments all the time.People say how do you manage" or youve got ya hands full"
one woman said you poor thing once,i couldnt believe my ears.I wanted to wind her up and said were having 3 more yet and i love every minute of it.
We have 7 children ages 12,9,7,6,3,2 and 8 months,five boys and 2 girls.The 3rd and 4th were 11 months apart and 5th and 6th also 11 months apart.
Its amazing as well how people say are they all by the same dad? yes they are.
Or where do you live? or where do you put them all? in other words do u live in a council house? (not that im calling any one who lives in one)
I just say in a big 6 bed house in the country,but its amazing how people like to judge before they know the facts isnt it.
You have as many kids as you like,i used to worry about what people thought but i look after them my hubby provides for us and my kids dont want for nothing.
My house is spotless ,i have no washing ironing , ( done everyday)homeworks done every day my kids are clean ,tidy and loved.So no one can say anything.
Honestly there not in your life ,you do whats right for you.GOOD LUCK

Denise - posted on 07/02/2012

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My kids are 11 months apart, and while this was in no way planned it has been both a blessing and a curse. I say a curse because it has been hard emotionally with them being so close. Twins would definitely have been easier because they would both be at the same stage at the same time. Also the older one I feel was kind of given the short end of the stick.My first son and second son are 8 years apart in age. Where I thought that would be a problem, it wasn't. My oldest was super happy to be a big brother and finally have a sibling. My second and my third are 3 and a half years apart and where as they get along, I find that the second child is a little more jealous when it comes to his little brother. Then like I mentioned the third and fourth are only 11 months apart. The baby is growing up fast...WAY to fast in some aspects since he has bigger brothers to help him along. Don't worry I get all kind of comments as well. I get "wow, bless you 4 boys" and to that I respond, yep, I was definitly blessed with 4 boys! Most of the time a sharp and witty comment from me stops the comments from others. I believe I was blessed with my 4 boys and would not want it any differently no matter how hard it is at times. Am I tired at the end of the day, FOR SURE. But, when the kids come up to me to cuddle, or just to sit in my lap while I am working, it is all worth it. No matter what I would not trade it for anything in the world. In the end you have to decide if you want another child, if you and only you and your partner can handle it. You will always run into the people that feel their opinions should count for something but if you just come up with a witty comeback, you will see how the comments seem to stop. Good luck! A baby truly is a blessing and I would not give up the experiences I have with mine for ANYTHING in the world. No matter what the challenges I face ahead!

Saliana - posted on 06/30/2012

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Hi I was wondering if you were breastfeeding when you got pregnant. I also want my babies so close, but I am breastfeeding and don't know if it's possible (I do get a period, btw).

Anna Gilleland - posted on 06/29/2012

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My children are also 14 months apart. When I first got pregnant it was a huge shock. But when my second son arrived everything quickly fell into place. Having them so close has led to many comments like- Are they twins, Was it a mistake? Etc. Some people have good intentions with their words, but many are just plain nosey! As far as comments about being done because you have both genders , I find that just plain ignorant. Whenever I was pregnant and someone would ask "What are you hoping to have?" I would simply respond "A baby"! My boys, now 9 and 8 are great friends and easily entertain themselves. I have a daughter who is only 6 and she has noone and therefore depends on me to play. To get to the point: the lists are long on both sides as to whether or not children should be that close in age or not. It's your life and therefore your decision. Although it is sometimes very hard to ignore stupid or unsolicited remarks, in the end you are the one raising them. You should have the choice to have as many kids as you choose in whatever time frame you deem fitting. Good luck and keep on enjoying those little ones.

Lachelle - posted on 06/29/2012

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My first two boys are 21 months apart (ages 8 and 7) and my third is 5 and a half years apart from the second (age 1), but only because we had a miscarriage in-between where I lost twins. If the twins had lived, we would have ages 8, 7, 3, 3, 1. My first two boys were a handful but so fun! Now, everyone mistakes them for twins and they are so helpful with the third baby boy.

I think that how many kids you have is a personal choice between you and your partner. Nobody should be judging you for that at all. Good luck!

Shannon - posted on 06/28/2012

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I don' think you need to wrong about what ever anyone else thinks. If you, your husband & children are happy thats all that matters. My husband and I heard it all when we had 4 kids in four year even though we were on various forms of birth control. We would be asked if they were all ours, if they were all my husbands, if any of them were twins, if we knew how they were made, if we knew about birth control, if we had cable and so on. And it got to the point it doesn't matter what we said in return people will always have something to add. After awhile my husband thought explaining was no longer needed. Embarrassing as it was he would respond "With we sure do & we practice nightly" or another smart comment. You just need to let it blow over your shoulder. At the time yes it was hard having a 1, 2, 3 & 4 yr old but now they are 10, 11, 12, & 13 and I couldn't be happier. I think it has been wonderful for them to be so close too and be around the same age to understand and be supportive of what ever issue they had. Be it at home, school, with friends, and even puberty. They are in the same mind set to offer advice or incite my husband or I wouldn't have thought of.
Live your life and don't let anyone make you feel what you and your family want is wrong.

Mary - posted on 06/28/2012

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Hi there - I had 5 children in 7 years ... and have loved every moment with them. We are an incredibly close family - I would honestly say that my husband and children are my life! ... and that I wouldn't change a thing.

Yes - it was a lot of hard work raising 5 children, and yes - it is expensive ..... But what you do has nothing to do with other people. Ultimately - you need to take responsibility for your actions and decisions.

Good luck - and I hope you are blessed with all that you want!

PS - Thanks to all the moms out there who reply on these - it's so refreshing to get differing opinions - without the criticism ....

YANAIS - posted on 06/28/2012

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MY KIDS ARE SIX YEARS APART. THE OLDER ON IS A GIRL SHES SIX (1/11/06) AND THE NEWEST ONE IS THE BABY BOY (2/27/12).

Anne-marie - posted on 06/28/2012

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there is only 11 months and 2.5weeks between my first 2children and 2.5 years between my second and third,then i waited 3years,then my last child came 6.5years later.ive had all the stupid comments, no television in ur house,why do you want so many children,do you just like being pregnant,one lady said to me:"are you a good catholic or just an uncarefull protestant"i was so annoyed.I love all my children and wouldnt change anything,im so proud of them all.they are now 26,25,22,19 and 12 and the eldest 4all work full time(sorry my youngest isnt old enough to work)and can i also say that i became a single parent when my youngest was 18months, im not perfect but have always tried my best

Brandi - posted on 06/28/2012

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Don't worry about what other people say. My son and daughter are 12 months and 11 days apart and I wouldn't change it for the world! We want more children as well, we just have to get a new vehicle and fix the house so we have room for them lol. I want to smack people when they say why have more you all ready have one of each. SO!! If you want and feel ready for more children, by all means, jump to it!!

Monique - posted on 06/28/2012

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I have cousins (brother and sister) that are the same age for two weeks lol so your sweet who cares.

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