How did/are you feeling about turning 30??

Erinn - posted on 05/31/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )

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I dreaded it from the time I turned 29 and feel stupid about it, it's just a number, but for some reason 30 seemed A LOT older than 29!! I'm now approaching 31 in August and dealing with it better... Did anyone feel this way or am I just crazy??

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Casey - posted on 08/08/2011

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I did have the whole quarter life crisis, "haven't done what I thought I would have done by now" Then a very special girl with 2 small children died at the age of 23. I was Like, suck it up, at least you get to turn 30. So I remade my mind up that my 30's will be about travel and my career, and of course my beautiful family. So by the time I'm forty I'll be like damn - those were some good ten years!!

Esther - posted on 06/04/2009

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I am 31 and I am enjoying it! My kids are 3 1/2 and 1 year old, I am enjoying being with them and just having fun and making the most out of my days. I don't miss the 20's - except for the 20 pounds that I still hope to lose some day -- :) Age is just a number, kids grow up so fast.

Jessica - posted on 06/04/2009

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I'm 29 and have never been afraid of getting older. I don't know why, goodness knows it has nothing to do with the way the women in my family react. I just figure the sooner I reach 50 the sooner I'll get some alone time with my husband :). Its just a number to me. I'm a 1 and 1/2 yrs older than my sister and she never lets me forget it,she tries I just don't react the way she would like me to, but it's still amusing.

Carla - posted on 06/04/2009

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I remember on my 29th birthday, dreading the 30th. I had always planned to have my children before I was 30, and here I was with none yet. I had so many plans. I was no longer a young woman but I wasn't a settled down mother either. However, my 30th passed in a blur as I was adjusting to having a 5 week old. I'm now 34, and age is just a number.

Emily - posted on 06/04/2009

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So funny. I just turned 34. I was fine for the most part but spent the better part of new year's eve and day crying because it was the year I was turning 30. Hit me like a ton of bricks! Honestly though...I love being in my 30s. Best age yet! House, babies, hubby, successful...fewer insecurities for some reason. No complaints here...except for postpartum, lol!

Heidi - posted on 06/04/2009

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Well I am 37 now and back then I thought turning 30 was great. I was in a good place in my life, married to the man of my dreams, I had one son and a stepson. So everything was great for me. Now that I am getting closer to 40(yikes) I see things differently. I do have another son who is almost 4, and the thought of turning 40 scares me way more then 30 did. Mind you I hated the thought when I was turning 25. that was a rough birthday, being a quarter century old.

Hilja - posted on 06/04/2009

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Hello, I am a mom of 4 and now 44 years old. I do too remember feeling anxious about turning 30, but it happened and life was still just fine. I love being my age now. I am fit, personally happy (way more so than at 30) and much more at peace with my age. One woman said her 50's were her best time in her life and while 50 sounds kind of like 30 did for me back then it's great to know that all stages are wonderful. You know I feel 30 inside and forget most of the time that I am 44. Of course, I wish some wrinkles would go away, but I do love life in my 40's.

It's the attitude and NOT the number. We can be sexy, sassy, loving and secure in ourselves. That is what makes someone young.

Also, remember that when you are turning 40 you might wish you were 30, so enjoy this young time!! LOL

You are not alone, but it will okay.

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Nope you're not crazy. Well, at least if you are then I'm right there with you! 30 was the hardest age for me. It just really hit me that I was not a young, hot babe anymore and NEVER would be again. It was a huge deal for me. Now, at well past 40, I don't even remember why it was so traumatic for me. 40 was no big deal. Just another day. If anything, I think my 40s are even BETTER than when I was younger. (Though I do still miss that hot, tight body I used to have, sigh.) My husband and most of the guys I know really fell apart at 40. They feel like their life is half over and they haven't done "whatever". I think 40 is the worst age for guys, but most of the women I know agree with you and me: 30 is the toughest age to handle.

Laura - posted on 06/03/2009

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Jeez. I refused to turn 30. My little boy says 30 is OLD. So I turned 29 again. lol

Margaret - posted on 05/31/2009

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I feel that way about 40. My husband died when he was in his 40's and so did my birthmother. You just have to take it one day at a time.Don't worry about your age. The Lord knows that you have more to think about than how old you are. I hope that you will have a wonderful birthday when it comes around.

Tracy - posted on 05/31/2009

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It really did not bother me.. I am turning 41 this year :D and I am going back to school to finish my degree. I think iti is all in how you feel about yourself..

Laura - posted on 05/31/2009

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I just had my 30th birthday party this past Friday and I was dreading it....until the day came, then it dawned on me how much smarter and experienced I am now vrs say 20 or 25. However this seems like the time in my life where Ive realized Im not getting any younger....so if I have dreams and goals there better be a plan in motion.....plus 30.....hormones are going a bit crazy!!lol

Toni - posted on 05/31/2009

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I was devastated when I turned 30. I felt as you do...I thought that it was the age where I should have been at a certain place in my live that I wasn't. I know other people that felt that way at diffrent ages. I think we all have a mental picture of where we should be at certain ages and it is difficult to reach that place in life and find ourselves at a diffrent place than we feel we should be. It gets better. I havent felt that way since. I am now 45 and it dosent bother me. It helps that my husband really spoils me on my birthdays so I look forward to them. Keep your head up and live life to the fullest. Dont stress about the number...just know that everything gets better with time. By the way... HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Have some fun with your children and husband. Do something memorable with them so that you can look back on it and enjoy turning 31. It does seem better after it is over, and you have moved on to other things in life.

Jeanne - posted on 05/31/2009

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Hi there Erinn,



I felt the same way....I was dreading being 30 and was not impressed by where I was...no relationship, no kids, still renting and in a job that paid well but that I hated. I felt sorry for myself but I wasn't getting any done and it was only making things worse. From what I have read in your previous questions I would look at it this way: Look at everything you have accomplished - two gorgeous kids, getting over addiction and staying sober, helping hubby regain his drivers license and having a strong and happy marriage. Those are great accomplishments for someone who is only going to be 30 years old. Your age is only a number, I turned forty on Tuesday and you want to know something? I don't feel any different than I did at 39.... and I'll tell you why, great kids, great hubby, nice place to live and a good life - those are the things to worry about....age isn't. We all get older - and believe it or not - wiser and those my dear are the things to focuse on.

Libby - posted on 05/31/2009

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Well, I think I'm feeling better about 30 than I did about 29. I was pregnant and lost my job 3 weeks before my birthday so I was really stressed and not feeling very happy. Now I'm pregnant again (after losing our last baby) and am not having any complications and this next baby is due a month after my 30th birthday. So, I guess I'd have to say that I'm really looking forward to having my birthday b/c it gets me closer to having our next daughter! My mom wants to throw me a 30th birthday party/baby shower this year. I'm really excited about that. This is going to be our first living daughter (God willing) so I can't wait to get cute little baby things for my birthday. I think it will be nice. My hubby just turned 30 last week so this is an exciting year for us!

Katara - posted on 05/31/2009

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I don't think your crazy but I didn't 'trip' when I turned 30. I personally don't worry about my age as I get older; as long as I don't look or feel the age. :) My only advice is if your upset because of accomplishments or what you see other's do, then get it out of your mind...you are where your suppose to be. and it it's really bothering you do something you normally wouldn't do...cut your hair, dye your hair, buy a mini and only where it for your hubby!

Wendy - posted on 05/31/2009

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I loved turning 30! I will be turning 34 in July and can't wait - I love birthdays. I suppose it helps that people always assume I'm younger than I am. A few months ago I had a cold caller knock and when I answere the door he asked if my mum or dad was in so he could speak to them! Age is just a number and life is for living - so live it x

Megan - posted on 05/31/2009

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30 is a fun age! Yeah, I felt old for like 2 seconds but honestly its not as bad as people think

Betsy - posted on 05/31/2009

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I dreaded turning 30, but I find the 30's are so much better than the 20's. Usually in your 30's, you are wiser, have a confidence in yourself, are in a great place financially compared to starting out in your 20's, you have a complete sense of you who are than you didn't even realize you were missing in your 20's, etc. It's a great time.

Hope - posted on 05/31/2009

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To be honest when I turned 30 I didn't feel much different as when I was 29. And I turn 32 in Jan and yet I likely still won't feel much different. But I don;t think your crazy.

Tara - posted on 05/31/2009

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For me it was 35, I was expecting my daughter at the time and it just seemed like that was the number that did it for me. For my mom it was 33 (she'd had her last baby then). It just seems to be a different number for everyone, and it depends on your circumstances - my husband is 6 years younger than I am, and at the time, he had said something about how he sometimes forgot how much older I was, and that was what triggered the feeling :D

Tara - posted on 05/31/2009

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For me it was 35, I was expecting my daughter at the time and it just seemed like that was the number that did it for me. For my mom it was 33 (she'd had her last baby then). It just seems to be a different number for everyone, and it depends on your circumstances - my husband is 6 years younger than I am, and at the time, he had said something about how he sometimes forgot how much older I was, and that was what triggered the feeling :D

Amie - posted on 05/31/2009

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Most people go through this type of anxiety at one point or another. It's not always 30 though. I did it when I turned 25, I came close to having a panic attack. It was horrid. My mom managed to calm me down though. She did the same thing but for her it was when she turned 40, up until then she never thought about it.

I think a lot of it is that the years go by a lot faster when your an adult. As my mom explained it when your a kid and teenager your always waiting for a certain age. To be old enough to date, to get your license, to graduate, to be legal age to drink, etc... there's always something on the horizon that your waiting for and it makes the years seem to drag by. When your an adult all those things just aren't there so you pass year by year and then all of a sudden your whatever age and it hits home.

Sarah - posted on 05/31/2009

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You're not crazy. 30 did feel so old...I felt like there was so much to accomplish, and I hadn't gotten most of it done. Three of my closest girlfriends turned 30 around the same time, and we rewarded ourselves with a Bahamas cruise, which definitely helped ease the pain. Now that I'm closer to 31 than 29, I don't mind the age so much, esp. since my husband is older!

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