How did you discover that your daughter was sexually active?

Karen - posted on 01/02/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have 3 girls. The oldest insisted she was not having sex with her boy friend but since I do the laundry I knew otherwise. It was clear to me from the evidence in her laundry that she was having unprotected sex with him. Have other moms had similar experiences?

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Ev - posted on 01/02/2013

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You need to talk to her about what is going on. Besides an unwanted pregnancy, you need to discuss with her about the diseases that come with this too. She needs to know that even though someone looks healthy on the outside does not mean there is nothing going on inside. I would have her tested for diseases too. Talk about birth control and the use of condoms as well as being responsible. Talk to her about emotions too. Kids at this age will have sex but they are most of the time unaware of the emotional end of it too. They most likely can not handle it. Some think if you have sex with someone that that person loves you and that is not always the case. She needs to know the difference of love and the physical sense of sex. If she does not have the tools in her own tool box she is going to be in for some hurt later on when she can't understand why this guy she had sex with did not really love and her moved on to another girl. Or if she ends up pregnant she is going to go through another set of emotions. It is just so important to talk about it and not keep it bottled in.

Linda - posted on 01/02/2013

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most teens along with myself start experimenting with sex at that age. myself i was 16. i would advise you to talk to her about the risk of getting pregnant and offer her condoms. this is the age it starts. nothing we can do about it.

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