Christie - posted on 08/16/2012 ( 14 moms have responded )
I live over 3000 km away and come "home" to visit for two weeks each year. As soon as my daughter and I arrived home, my sister lets her kids go away camping with friends for four days. Why? because she needs a break. It doesn't matter they were just away for a week camping with our parents. When she did this I felt as if she were telling her children that we were not important enough. I feel as if she sent that message to her children. Readers, how would you feel if you just spent 1600 dollars to fly home and then part of your family goes camping the day you arrive and you came to see them. How do I explain that to my 11 year old child who all she talked about was seeing her cousins. I felt terrible because we flew all across Canada to see them and off she sends them.
Next thing. Parenting wise I believe in accountability for ones actions and respect shown to others. My sister: Do what you want, when you want, for as long as you want, as long as I get a break. On our trip, my sister's child was very rude to me because she did not get her own way. (omg she says when I told her she was rude it was just a JOKE). I talk to my sister, I said you need to talk to her because if you don't then this is going to wreck our relationship. What happens? No consequences, in fact rewarded by getting clothes bought for her, nails done and out for dinner. No apologies. She is 10 years old and a master manipulator. Tells her mom she said sorry (no she didn't. Says I pick on her because I called her on being rude). No consequences at all. My sister makes excuses and accuses me of picking on her child because her child said that I was. Her idea of parenting is to allow her neighbours to take care of her children. I really feel as if our relationship is ruined. I feel hurt because she let her child get away with talking to me terribly. I am at a loss. I would never let my daughter get away with being rude to my sister. I feel very let down by my sister. She even uses our differences in parenting be an excuse. I think to myself, yes the difference is no parenting vs. parenting. Child rules the roost vs. adults ruling the roost. Thank you for reading.