HOW DO I CONTROL MY 7 YEARS OLD
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Lisa - posted on 04/12/2012
he has learned that either he gets what he wants by doing that or he gets a reaction from you. I would tell him before that you will not be buying him anything at the store and he should not ask. If he throws a tantrum in the store, I would calmly walk away and let him have a meltdown. Sometimes it takes 5 seconds, sometimes 5 minutes but he'll learn he's not getting anything by throwing the tantrum and eventually he'll stop. You have to be firm. And know that every parent in the store has been in the same situation and they sympathize with you. If someone gives you a dirty look ignore them. You're teaching your child a valuable lesson that tantrums do NOT get them what they want.
This is not a tested theory but it is what we will be doing with our baby when she is a little older. Try giving him little chores/jobs around the house to earn money. Make him know that the money he earns is what he has to use if he wants toys in the store. We will let her "borrow" money if she finds a toy she really wants but can't afford though. He will learn responsibility and the value of a dollar.
Sandee - posted on 12/01/2009
For me Every time we have to go to a mall or grocery store, the first thing I tell them and really explain my rules when we go out. "Mommy and Daddy are going to find a gift for someone so don't asked us to buy you guys a toy co'z we are not buying for you. No saying pls. mom pls. or come on just one toy. pls. or I promise to be good. is that clear? " Then I will asked them to repeat What I said . then when we reached to that particular place before we enter I go down to their level and say my rules again and let them repeat it. and then I add if you miss behave we have to leave and I will put you into time out. It's that clear? Then we are all good. it's a good Idea if you asked them some idea on what to buy for a gift but let them know that you will consider their idea but it's still mom's final say but thanks for a wonderful idea. sometimes they will act out, sit on the floor give you a look >:( but get to their level and say "We already talked about this. You have 2 choices here. 1. are you going to come with me nice and quiet and enjoy are time together. or 2. I will put you on time out and ruin our time together. I will give you a minute to decide. turn around and watched your clock to 1 minute. a minute past go to their level and asked which one did u choose? #1.are you going to come with me nice and quiet and enjoy are time together? or #2 I will put you on time out and ruin our time together. which one? they are smart kids. they make the right choice nobody want's to be sad. they will get over it. I hope this help and let me know if this one works.Make this a habit every time you guys are going out. so you're clear on what you expect from them.Good luck!:)
Milian - posted on 11/29/2009
Explain to him you don't have the money. Also give him choices, that's not to say to bribe him, in short, he has to earn the toy. Talk to him before you go out with him. If he acts up when you're out, tell him next time you go out you are not taking him. You need to stand your ground. After all you are the parent, he needs to respect that. You have wants to and he has to understand that. Something else you can do when you can afford it, is tell him if he wants a new toy, he has to give up 2 of what he already has. Get the picture? Think, think, think.
Natasha - posted on 11/25/2009
I use to go to the store and head straight to the book section. I let my son look at the book throughout the store while sitting in the cart. When we got to the checkout, I passed the book to the clerk and told him/her that I didn't need the book. Worked everytime.
Gabby - posted on 11/25/2009
My son did the same thing when he was three now he is going to be six and he knows better not to do that....I gave him a spanking for throwing fits and put him on time out. I know that many people will be mad that I say that I gave him a spanking but sometimes you have to spank your kids..not abuse them of course that is why they have a behind. Now he tells me when you get paid and if I am good can you buy me this next time...I usually take him once a week to the $1.00 store and reward him with one item for being good at school all week..but if he is not and he asks me for something I tell him before we go on..look at your progress report do you deserve me to buy you something and he will come forward and say "no mom" but next week I will behave then I say okay then next week I will buy you one item.
In the bible it says
Do no withhold correction from a child, For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die.
You shall beat him with a rod, and deliver his soul from hell.
In other words teach him now that you cant always have everything because when they get older and it is not possible to have things then he will suffer (that could be hell for some of us) so show him now and he will rejoice of that teaching later.
User - posted on 11/25/2009
I have a 7 yr old girl who would do that now i ground her it works for us, spanking would not work i would end up hurting my self more than it would her. I have had to carry her kicking and screaming out of a store when she was 4 I have never been more embarrassed.
Chaunda - posted on 11/25/2009
I would tell him NO and if he keeps acting out, He will be punished (TIME OUT ) when he get home. IF he screams and yell I would just walk away from him(BUT can still see him) At 7 yrs old he should KNOW or be learning that he CAN'T get everything he wants.
Julia - posted on 11/25/2009
leave him in the aisle screaming and throwing his temper tantrum. I did that with my 3 yr old, all I did was stand at the end of the aisle so she couldn't see me. worked like a charm she stopped her screaming quickly realized I was gone and came running after me. If he is 7 another way to embarrass him would be to make him ride in the cart. Warn him once that if he doesn't stop acting like a baby you will treat him like one and make him ride in the cart, if he doesn't stop pick him up and put him in!
Gene & Erin - posted on 11/25/2009
Sometimes you have to just be the "mean" mom. Telling him NO is a good thing and when he wants to pitch a fit - ignore him. Walk away. If that doesn't work - throw your on fit and embaress him. It not pretty, don't let him get away with it.
We don't always get what we want in life - its a good lesson to learn early.
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