How do I cut those apron strings
Anne - posted on 04/23/2009
Our daughters are 25 and 21 in three weeks. I know how hard it is to let go, but when you really think about it we are not raising "Children" we are raising future adults. What I mean is although we will always be parents and as moms love our children unconditionally there will come a time when it will be necessary to allow our children to learn from their mistakes. AS a mom it is the hardest thing I have ever had to do, when our oldest daughter ran up several store credit cards. Although we did help with some of her credit card balance, we made it very clear this was a one time thing. I guess what I am saying is if you meant, do we ever stop wanting the best for our children and being heart sick when they get them self into a bind, I will always be a moms, mom. But if you meant will I get my children out of any problem they get into, no, experience has taught me that I must allow my children to fail in order to learn to stand on their own two feet. The most important thing I can do for my children is Pray,Pray , Pray and Pray some more for them. I really hope I did not offend anyone with this post.
Michelle - posted on 04/23/2009
Oh my gosh...............as a mom I think we all wonder this. But, as a mom I think we NEVER cut the strings.................I have 2 boys.......9 and 14 years old. My husband tells me all the time to "Cut the cord!!!" I really don't ever see myself doing this. I may sit back and watch him grow and try to let them make mistakes for themselves.....but I will NEVER cut the cord. I know there will be tmes when theyare older and I tell them you have to learn on ur own. But I know I will have them right under my wing ready to give any advice or be there for what ever they may need. Crazy as it seems. We all look forward to the day when they are mature and with their own families but cant wait to be a part of it all.
Deboragh - posted on 04/23/2009
Hahahaha, Rach my niece is 23 with a 3 month old daughter Maisie, she is the same and her Mum (my sister) can't believe she is still having to nurse her 23 year old daughter...i can though coz my 19 yr old still needs her Mummy when is is ill, upset, stressed, drunk...oh the list goes on...hahaha
Hehe I'm 23 and still want my mum when I'm sick :P I was really sick and in bed for a week about a month ago...I packed clothes for myself and Hannah and went and stayed at mum's! I tell myself it was because I was really sick and needed up with bubs but seriously hubby would have done that (well once he got home from work!) but really I just wanted mum coz she always knows what i need to make me better!
Deboragh - posted on 04/23/2009
Haha are you kidding me...my eldest daughter is 19 and id still like a sticking plaster (bandaid) my middle girl is 16 and unwell with a virus at the moment...she just text me from upstairs asking me to sleep in her bed with her...i said "NO WAY I DONT WANT YOUR VIRUS" hahaha...my youngest is a boy of 11 and he is still very much reliant in so many ways of me. I have been teaching him today to make his own lunch..haha. Just the joys of parenthood im afraid...i'm thinking of leaving home soon but don't tell any one :)
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