Jameesha - posted on 04/18/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
I know this is an old question, but I'm really trully struggling with the relationship I have with my daughter's father. Our arguments are so bad that I've gotten to the point, I just dont talk to him.
It just seems like no matter how nice, how much I cooperate or even how mean I am. I get the same results.
At first, I tried taking the high road. I really wanted my daughter to know her dad, but its so hard dealing with somebody who is hell bent on giving you a hard time every step of the way. I've asked him to come to doctors appointments he always says he can't. He lets weeks go by without checking on her and when I ask why he says its because he hates me so much he doesnt want to speak to me.
He's mad about the child support he has to pay. My daughter was born at the end of december, premature. And since then he's barely done anything for her. His child support started March 2012 and hes already two months behind!
He has a job, but I really think hes not paying just to spite me.
And heres the part when I finally say I'm fed-up!
I've overlooked the name calling, him barely asking for visitation.
Oh visitation! after us both coming to an agreement and him taking her for ONE weekend. He wanted to re-do the whole agreement because he wants something more "flexible".
He wants to come get her late bring her back early, and take pics post them on fb and pretend he's an involved parent.
He really disgust me. And I battle with the thoughts of how unfair things are. But even with that, I wish we could come to an agreement and he could see his daughter.
I guess I want to know, how do you deal with a jerk??
Is there anything I can do to minimize the communication between me and him?