how do i deal with a teen liar? my 14 yr old daughter got SHOVED by a male student and reported at first that he HIT her in the face and then she told us he only shoved her, then came to find out that the big bruise on the side of her face was ALL MAKE UP!! i am so embarassed and i did not send her to school today for fear of other students attacking her, but i DO NOT KNOW wth to say to the school. i feel like such an idiot!! my ex husband and husband are both so mad at her they are no help and i'm not sure who else to ask!! any feedback will be appreciated!

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/19/2012

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no, Jenn, you need to TAKE HER TO SCHOOL, walk her into the office, and make her take the consequences. She SAYS that she's already apologized, but seriously, she already lied about the situation once, what's to stop her from doing it again?



What's she going to do the next time that she feels that "justice isn't being done"??? Claim that she was raped, and really ruin someone's life?



If someone is harassing her on a regular basis, she needs to make note of each situation, keep track of what's going on, and present a logical basis for punishing someone else, NOT make up a story about being hit and shoved, to try to get someone else punished. Do you have proof that this young man has harassed her, or just her word? Because, honestly, if it's just her word, it's not worth much right now, and she's going to get nowhere.



I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but she fabricated a story, falsely accused someone of committing assault, and apparently doesn't see anything wrong with that.

Jenn - posted on 09/19/2012

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we told her that going back to school asap is the best choice and she should go directly to the office n tell the whole truth, she says she felt that if there was a mark then he'd b in trouble but without a mark she figured the principal would not discipline this student (this is a student who harasses my child on a regular basis) ..... she has already apologized to the boy for making the bruise but she has not spoke to any authority at the school yet. i am just so blown away by the whole production of the whole entire situation that i am at a loss for words, i think the massive shock, of finding out her bruise was fake, is wearing off and my mind is not such a mess. fortunately for the boy who was involved, there has not been any action taken against him for shoving her except for ppl seeing a ''bruise '' that he supposedly left on her...

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/19/2012

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She needs to go to school, admit that she lied about the entire incident, and take whatever punishment is assigned to her. You keeping her home is only telling her that you'll cover for her when she does wrong, and that there will be no consequences.



Most likely, she got someone else in serious trouble for something she didn't do. Were it my kid, they'd also be writing letters of apology to the student that she falsely accused, his parents AND the school administration. And don't be surprised if his parents seek reparation from you legally as well.

S. - posted on 09/19/2012

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I want to say I'd make her appologise to the school and to the boy and his family for telling such a hideous lie but then you say your afraid she will get attacked at school! Would you be setting a lamb to slaughter? How has she acted since you have found out?

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