How do I deal with my daughter being curious about sex?

Maria - posted on 04/21/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My daughter has 3 other friends that are exposed to things that my daughter is not, and recently she has been asking about sex and has been asking strange questions?

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Tina - posted on 04/21/2009

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I would be as honnest as you can be depending on her age because you really want her to get the right info, not learn from her friends. I have 4 kids, my oldest being 19 and my youngest being 6 and I have been very honnest with them and communicate with them all the time about sex. Sex is a natural thing and can be very very nice between 2 people who love each other but it first start from loving yourself and if you can teach your daughter that she will be on the right track. If you learn to open that communication door with your daughter about sex she will feel comfortable to come to you when she is ready for it. Just face it kids will be currious and at one point will be having sex, pretending like it won't happen will only make things worst for her. I don't know how old she is but be as honest as you can be without being to grafic and let her know that you will answer any question she has, and if you need time to think about it just let her know that and go back to talk to her later.

Carra - posted on 04/21/2009

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i think honesty is the best policy in this case. dont be graphic, but tell her the truth. how old is she?

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Carra - posted on 04/21/2009

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shannon, nice to hear i'm not the only one with 2 boys so close together!! everyone asks how i do it...and i dont know! are you a SAHM??

Shannon - posted on 04/21/2009

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Oprah just had this on the other day. You might be able to find some information on her website. You need to be the one to talk to your child openly and using the correct names for body parts. Answer the questions your daughter has don't try sweeping them under the carpet. Try Oprah's website the show was really interesting even though I was only half listening since my boys are only 22 months and 6 months. Good luck. Remember that having an open dialog now with your daughter will help her to come to you for information later on.

Jodie - posted on 04/21/2009

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try to be as discreet as possible because shes probably going to talk about it with other children whos parents may not be as open as you and you dont want your child to be left out because thier parents are upset with you.... they teach that stuff in the 6th grade now!!!

Lori - posted on 04/21/2009

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Your profile said she is seven so she probably knows more than you think! Kids aren't dumb, they are very observant and to tell them lies or talking down to them will only make them search for the answers elsewhere. And who knows what information or misinformation they can get that way. I agree with the moms who have posted here... honesty with out details is the best way.

Emma - posted on 04/21/2009

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my 4 year old was asking bout it, and i said it something you do when your older and you love someone and you want to make a baby with. i had not long had a baby at the time so it kinda linked with the questions about baby

Rouchelle-Anne - posted on 04/21/2009

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Maria, I had the same problem even though I home Ed, so I found The Pocket Scientist red book by Usborne really helped. It is straight forward and not explicit. You control the situation and informing your child with facts is always better than her friends telling her nonsense. Do read the pages to her in a safe loving environment and answer her questions in a calm way. She will amaze you with her level of maturity that way.

Jaclyn - posted on 04/21/2009

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My son is 5 and i am starting to go deal with this myself. He has a little friend whos mom let her watch movies like look whos talking, so she know a lot. Which is ok for her but she brings it to my son, i just try to answer the questions in an appropriate way for his age. I don't get into details but i give him enough to satisfy him.

Beth - posted on 04/21/2009

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I suppose it depends on your daughters age plus maturity level. Cannot judge on age alone. I personally believe that honesty to an appropriate level is important. Not making a big deal out of her questions as they will only grow with curiosity as she is exposed. Share your viewpoints on what is okay at what age and what isn't. Explain why it is or is not okay. Talking will serve you well. It allows her to feel safe with herself and safe in coming to you so when the big stuff happens (or is on the verge of happening) she'll know you are the person to go to.

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