How do i discipline my toddler in front of my inlaws when he misbehaves or refuses to do what i ask of him?

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Kylie - posted on 11/17/2011

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Get down on his level, look is his eyes, speak clearly. If there is too much noise or things going on take him somewhere quiet to talk. Also try to see things from his POV, he may be tired, over stimulated, pepped up on sugar and so controlling his own impulsive behaviour is hard. Pick you battles too, dont expect him to be perfect for company. Why would you discipline differently in front of the in laws?

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Elfrieda - posted on 11/17/2011

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Maybe to curb the hopped-up-on-sugar behaviour you could limit the amount of sugar they ingest. If grandma brings 5 candies for each kid, have a "special treat jar" (have them decorate it with stickers or something) so they can eat one and put the rest in there for later. That way you don't have to scold your mother in law for feeding them sugar (which is not really the best way to have a relaxing visit) but you still prevent your toddler from bouncing off the walls.

America3437 - posted on 11/17/2011

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The same way you do when she's not around! Why change his discipline? Same rules same discipline!

Bonnie - posted on 11/17/2011

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Maybe it's because he knows grandma will never get mad at him so he uses her as an out.

Krista - posted on 11/17/2011

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Yeah, he might be too hyped up on treats to listen. Kylie's advice is good. Take him away from other people for a second, and get down to his level and look in his eyes (but with your eyes still above his), and speak very clearly. When toddlers are wound up, their attention span plummets. So keep it short and sweet. Shake your head and say, "No throw toys." Or "No jump on couch". (Or whatever he's doing.) Say it a couple of times, to make sure it sinks in and that he hears you.

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Just make sure they aren't doing things to undermine your authority. Like my Grandma, if my son is in trouble and cry in the corner, she will tell him it's ok, and hug him.

Sylvia - posted on 11/17/2011

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Yes, she does.. everytime she pops in for a visit she brings along all sorts of goodies for both my children!

Kylie - posted on 11/17/2011

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hmm that is weird! Does she feed him treats that he doesn't normally have? Good luck finding a solution:p

Sylvia - posted on 11/17/2011

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Hi Kylie, thank you for responding... My toddler only refuses to listen to me or he misbehaves only when my mom in law is visiting... otherwise he would do what i ask of him with giving me any trouble.. wish i understood why!

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