Li - posted on 12/28/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
For the past almost 3 yrs my ex and I have been in a battle. I asked for a modification on support, he retaliated by trying to sue for custody. We have since then done 2 social studies, both times the social worker recommended more visitation with the father, but I am to remain the primary. The second recommendation she said 1,3,4 weekends from Thurs after school until Monday (he would have to bring her to school Fri and Mon, even though it will be over a hr trip). I have a problem with this because that means I have our daughter, who is 8 only 1 weekend in the month unless there happens to be a 5th weekend. Plus Feb-April she would be gone 3 weekends in a row, and would be with my 3.5 days in between. She also has Drama on Monday nights and Karate on Tues and Thurs, so as far as quality time (weekend time I mean) I only have 1 weekend, when he has 3, plus he has her Thurs-Mon. Our original order is 1,3,5 weekend Fri at 6 to Sun at 6. I have asked my attorney what can we do, and she said there's not a lot because judges normally follow a social workers recommendations. He does not provide medical care or medication for her, and a few yrs ago she ended up getting really sick and had to have her tonsils and adenoids out because he refused to give her prescribed medicines. Sorry, I just found this site so not sure if this is the right place to post this :) thanks!!