How do I find time to study for online classes as a stay at home mom

Alison - posted on 03/15/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I have a 2 year old and I'm taking online classes to finish my bachelor's degree in accounting. I am taking 12 hours. It is too hard. I need about 30-35 hours a week dedicated to homework and studying. The only time I have is at night when my daughter is sleeping or during nap time, most of the time she doesn't nap. She just learned how to climb out of her crib to play during nap time. She goes to daycare on Tuesdays and Thursdays. It is not enough time! My husband works nights and isn't much help. Even when I ask him to do the dishes or laundry he "forgets" or he only folds the clothes and lets me put them up, because he "doesn't know where everything goes." So, I still have chores even though he helps sometimes. I have to do the dishes by hand because we don't have a dishwasher, which takes forever. Since my husband works nights, I bathe our daughter and get her ready for bed, then I clean the house. Cleaning takes an hour to 2 hours a night. I cannot do it anymore. Then after I clean I have to study and do homework. I am always sick, tired, and miserable. I don't know how to make time for school and get a decent amount of sleep. My daughter will not let me do homework. She writes on my flashcards, tries to play on my computer, or turns the pages in my book when I try to do homework. My family is starting to notice that I'm not myself. They keep asking me if something is wrong. How do other people go to school full time and be a stay at home mom?

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Lisa - posted on 03/15/2014

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Hi there, I try to work from about 7pm-12pm and do other stuff with the little ones during the day. If anything gives, it's the chores sometimes! If I need to do work then some chores might wait for an extra day or two. It gets done eventually but I pretend I'm 'out of the house' during my working time to help me focus on what I'm doing rather than the state of the room.
A friend was in a group of mums that rotated daytime play a few times a week. One day one mama would have all the kids for a few hours and the next day it was someone else's turn.
Would your family be able to help with one day a week dinner/bedtime chores or something like that? Just one day where you can work from the afternoon-night would knock a lot of study hours off.
Make big meals to freeze too, that saves time in the evening.
If you work at night then any extra study you're able to do during the day is a bonus and can take the edge off the frustration of continually being interrupted.
I'm writing this now with my littlest one beside me on a play computer - having matching (cardboard or whatever) work stuff also gets me a bit more free time.
Best of luck and take cues from your body - if you're sick etc then you're gonna have to make some changes. Maybe a chat with hubby to see how your family can meet it's new lifestyle requirements would be good - you can think about why you're both working, what you want to achieve in the long term and figure out how to get there without dying of exhaustion!

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