How do I forgive myself

Yvonne - posted on 04/15/2017 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My mother passes away and I was not there. She was in the hospital for 6 days and I was with her the whole time. They said she was terminal and had about a week to live. I took her back to her assisted living apartment and hospice took over. This was Wednesday on Thursday she became unresponsive. I went home to get some rest planning to return early the next morning only to receive a call at 5am saying she had passed. No one told me she was that near death and I cannot forgive myself for not being there to hold the hand of the woman who gave me life.

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Dove - posted on 04/15/2017

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You have absolutely nothing to feel guilty for. I'm sorry for your loss. ♥

Michelle - posted on 04/15/2017

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Don't feel so guilty.
They can't tell you exactly how long they have so please don't blame the doctors and nurses. How long our loved ones hold on is up to them and sometimes it's a lot longer than anyone expects or it's shorter.
You were there for a lot of her last days so just be thankful that you spent that time with her. Maybe she decided that it was best she went when you weren't there, who knows. My Grandmother did the same.
I also suggest some grief counseling to help you get over the guilt you are feeling.

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Yvonne - posted on 04/16/2017

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Thank you for taking time to help me through this time in my life. It means a lot to me. Thank you.

Michelle - posted on 04/15/2017

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Most of us have lost someone close to us, we understand what you are going through. It will take time and you will always think about her but it does get easier. Just remember, she wouldn't want you to put your life on hold, she would want you to enjoy life as we all know it's far too short.

Yvonne - posted on 04/15/2017

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Thank you for thinking of me at this time in my life. I really appreciate it. It gives one hope. Yvonne

Yvonne - posted on 04/15/2017

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I cannot begin to tell you how thankful I am for your kind words and that you took the time to talk to me. I realize things do not always go as we hope. I just have to work my way to believing that. I did sign up for grief counseling. I really appreciate your kindness. Thank you. Yvonne

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