Nellie - posted on 08/14/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )
My daughter is 14 months old and is extremely clingy, to the point where it is 100% ridiculous. I guess I'll start on how I've tried to handle it. I don't believe in allowing your baby to cry it out under 6 months, but that doesn't mean that I was constantly holding her 24/7 back then. I've always tried to gently push my daughter towards independence. I would put her down, get her interested in a toy, and then walk away to dishes. When she cried, I would come back. I did this several times a day. When she hit 6 months, I would explain to her, Mommy is going to go do dishes, I need to clean so we have clean dishes to eat off. And as soon as I was done doing what I needed to do I'd come back and tell her that I finished doing what I needed to do, and now I'm back. It hasn't helped. She's still insanely clingy. She doesn't want to walk around, she wants me to carry her. And I do comfort her and carry her around and play with her, but at least 3 times a day, I tell her she needs to play by herself. And she screams, and screams, and screams, and screams. I don't know what to do. She's absolutely amazing with babysitters, she has no problem me leaving at all. But if I'm in the same building as her, even if someone else is playing with her, she'll scream bloody murder. Any ideas as to how I can GENTLY push her towards independence?